20 and graduating college this spring. something positive about the last few weeks is that i've held up an internship that's basically what i want to do for a living and have done pretty good at it. also recently got my license and a car. current goals is just to find a career i think is worthwhile and fun as an adult, and to travel around a bunch and date more. have been on a dry spell for almost a year now and want to get back out there.

something negative is that today i got into a pretty big accident that was my fault. no one was hurt and the other person's car was fine but mine has been totaled. i can't get over how powerless i was when the crash actually happened--my car was falling apart and i just couldn't do anything. the lack of control i had and the fact i could've died if i crashed sooner is kind of fucking with me. making me realize that things can get a lot worse in an instant. any advice for getting past this feeling?

a buddy of mine opened up about some trauma to me and i was the first he confided in. apparently my being there for him actually saved him from suicide and helped convince him to take a break and seek help. with this the only advice i can gi ve is that you never know what's going on in someone's life (stranger, friend, whatever) and everyone has their own kind of suffering, so it's best to be kind to whoever you meet. even if it doesn't pay off, being nice to everyone helps them and yourself

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>How old are you and where are you at in life?
25 and just graduated from a degree I don't think will get me anywhere. I'm waiting for my family to move to my old university so I can get another degree, this time one that is much more useful and will get me a well paying job
>What has been on your mind?
The passage of time. It's been almost 6 years since the pandemic and since then, my life has just been a blur. I know I probably have changed a lot since then, but I don't feel it. COVID-19 lockdowns feel like it happened maybe 3 years ago at max.

It's jarring to also know that just 10 years ago, I was a 15-year-old who would soon find this website and regularly use it. I vividly remember what it was like to be a teenager living in the middle of the great plains of America, talking to my highschool friends about our favorite sci-fi and looking forward for the next state my family would move to. What is really scary to know is that 10 years before that, an equal amount of time between then and now, I was just 5 years old and innocent to the world, not knowing a thing about life or politics or really the idea of the world in general. It's scary how 10 years just passed so quickly
>What are your current goals and hopes?
Get my drivers license and eventually get a bachelors in an engineering degree
>What is something positive about the last couple weeks in your life?
I found some genuinely cool friends in VR chat a couple weeks ago and we regularly play online games now
>Any advice you want to give?
I know this sounds stupid and obvious, but if you ever find yourself so infatuated in a game or a show or a series so much to the point where it takes over your life, to where you find yourself scouring the internet looking for the latest fanfics, art pieces, and dedicate more than 3 hours of your day to it, please cut it out of your life. I wasted so much of my vital young teenage years on an anime series

>>34269425
30, no college, no real career, working an okay job that will take me nowhere. I have okay savings, I'm not paycheck to paycheck, I'm splitting rent on a house with 2 other people, haven't been in a relationship in 5 years now. I find it hard to establish goals or even hold hopes, anymore. On one hand, I'm probably the most stable I've ever been. Grew up rough, very chaotic household, and up until the last few years I've just been doing what I can to survive. My last relationship drained me in a lot of ways. In retrospect, I shouldn't have gotten into it, or let it go on as long as it did. I had more income, yet spent a lot more than I should have because of it.

I dont have a lot of friends, and I think that's really what bothers me the most. I've had some, and lost most of them over the years for various reasons. I have no real hobbies, anymore. Been trying to establish one that I used to be passionate about, but I lack the confidence or motivation to get out there. It would be easier if I had someone to do it with.

Best advice I can give is, don't wait on life, or on the "right time", or for yourself to be ready, or for you to "know what you want". Just do things, even if it's a massive investment, even if you don't think you can, just do things, take chances, because that's how you figure life out. If you even think that something sounds interesting, give it a shot, and don't quit until you're absolutely certain it isn't for you. Otherwise, you'll waste all your time waiting for things to feel right rather than getting out there and finding out what is right.

>>34269425
I'm 34, engaged and will have a beautiful baby girl this year with my fiancé. I own a property with a house on it, and not having to worry about where to live anymore is such a blessing. I am currently hoping to switch jobs. While I like mine in principle and vibe with most colleagues, the pay is inadequate for dealing with irregular shifts, 6 workdays a week and never knowing my schedule more than a week in advance with changes to it sometimes two days before.
>Any advice you want to give?
My life used to be shit once. It's not anymore. The reason was consistent effort. Change doesn't happen in massive events, it happens in small steps. It's easier to walk 10 miles than to sprint 5.

>>34269425
24, dead end job, saving up to move out of parent's house and travel the US and will settle wherever i decide is most acceptable. i want love and romance, i don't know if i deserve it but i don't think it's my place to decide.
nothing positive.
don't brush with death unless you're ready to want to do it again.

In my 40s. I have on and off 4chan for ages. Life is pretty good, I still come here for fun.

I'm 35 and my gf left me yesterday. I'm extremely sad and a bit dead inside.

None of my friends are available as they're all busy with their partners and lives.

I'm decent looking and have a very good business. I lift and work out 3-4 days per week.

Right now I'm just at a loss on how to proceed with my life. I feel hopeless and it really sucks having to start over after you spent over a year getting to know someone and sharing everything with them.

I don't know if I have the energy to look for someone new right now. It takes so much effort to be funny and make people laugh in my current mental state. I thought I'd be on the verge of starting a family by now. I'm going to be 40 before I know it and I feel so doomed.

Just typing into the void.

>>34269425
24 and still in college, working a dead end, not in my line work job, its comfy but makes me feel like a loser.

A couple of people text me, cant really call them friends though, dont really care about their shit.

Havent had a relationship in 6 years and I think the problem is me. I seem to get into fight whenever I go.

Overall, Im tired and I have no real ambition, I keep telling myself Im gonna change, but Im too lazy for that lol.

Its been almost 10 years since my depressive episode, Ive got some of my esteem back but Im mentally still in shambles I guess. No real growth, but things dont change unless I change.

On the brighter part, I got to spend some time with my family and I feel good. Also, I finally have a steady income and I can save some for future plans and shit. Was thinking of signing up for some volunteering in another country.

Atm Im in no place to give advice, nothing in my life that Ive truly overcame

>>34269425
I am 30 yo, my own apartment, decent IT job.

I regret 3 things.

1. Not taking exercising as #1 priority all the time
2. Wasting time on toxic people & partners
3. Not taking more opportunities in dating when women were actually interested

When you go out with someone and feel that it's a waste of time being with them, you are 99% right.

>>34269425
28. I just started living on my own, which has been wonderful. I work a weird serving job that makes me a lot of under the table money. I don’t have an education and I find that very embarrassing, I always envisioned myself as someone who would have a university degree, even though I came from a family of drug addicts and losers.
I’ve been getting back into reading esotericism and theology, which tends to happen when I feel motivated. I swing between depression and motivation often, so I’m trying to make the most of this motivational swing.
It’s been nice to take a breath after 7 straight years of horrible stuff happening, and I’ve noticed that my independence has contributed a lot to feeling much better, even if it’s only been 3 weeks.
You can’t change or fix people. I ruined multiple family relationships trying to lift up my drug addicted and mentally unwell siblings. Put yourself in the best position to succeed, and find whimsy and laughter in everything.

25 and doing the Disney College Program. Currently my life is going great but I haven’t even met my leaders/trainers yet so I don’t what to expect at my location

>>34270228
>24 and still in college
Don't feel bad for this

>>34269425
>How old are you and where are you at in life?
21, working full-time, on my third job since I moved out and went overseas
>What has been on your mind?
My lack of direction and feeling alone, mostly boredom and a little home sick though
>What is something positive about the last couple weeks in your life?
Started going to gym regularly again, waiting to get my car license exchanged, got my boat license though
>Any advice you want to give?
Yeah, do shit that's hard or you're scared to do, or the regret will poison you

>>34269425
Need to access my own sub-conscious and convince it that i deserve more. When you do that, things come to you naturally.

I sit around all day imagining what my life would be like if I had friends.
Sometimes I fantasize about being a streamer.
I have a negative relationship with my own voice and image that I think is keeping me in a box.

I'm 34, just hoping my career plans work out this year, that I can hold onto my friends, that I can continue finding enjoyment out of my hobby after a slump I had, and that I can get to the bottom of my health problems.
I guess that's a lot, but overall I'm doing pretty good. Nothing terrible in my life.
Advice... Get out of your comfort zone more.
And if you have trauma in your past don't wait to confront it, look for books on the subject. It doesn't just go away. Sometimes it can feel like we're not "worthy" of being traumatized, that our problems are too small and other people have it worse. But your issues are what they are, you have them regardless of whether you "should" or not.
Once I dealt with my trauma, my anxiety lessened a lot and that just makes life so much easier.

>>34273064
is there a book that will tell me if I'm suppressing something?

>>34269425
37. Don't own a home. Don't have any kids. Don't have a career.

Waiting until 40 to end it. Or if my mother goes first, the day after that.

Advice? None.

>>34269425
>How old are you and where are you at in life?
32
>What has been on your mind?
Do I like her or is this just latching on due to lack of options, and does it even matter if it would never be anyway, we're so compatible it's sickening, but none of that means a damn thing if the other person doesn't feel the same way

I need to get a better job and move out this year, it has to be this year. Something awful is waiting for me if I don't do it this year
>What are your current goals and hopes?
What I mentioned above, and finding someone I can pour my heart into
>What is something positive about the last couple weeks in your life?
Last weekend was one of the best times of my life in a very long time
>Advice
Can't think of anything that hasn't been said a thousand times before, so no not really

>>34270070
this kinda made me emotional. congrats on the baby.

>>34270167
You still have value. And your love came from you, not her.

>>34269425
24 this year, currently jobless, I'm currently chilling, goal is being self sufficient and hope I can move away and live on my own. I was able to talk my worries with people I trust and being open to them. I would give the same advice as >>34270070 but here's another for the depressed, how this world works has reasons, so many negative happens when it occured and I didn't realise why I was being like that until after a few years it was because I lost my loved pet. If you mourn/combat it properly by accepting and moving on, eventually it might return normal hopefully with time. So if you wonder why you/someone you know is acting strange lately, its best to examine what happen in the past and once identify try to solve it, it hastens the recovery plus you get to understand yourself better in ckntrolling emotions.

>quit my job before christmas due ot burn out
>apply for jobs 5 hours away semi-rural
>one of them calls me back, teams meeting interview goes well
>they offer me the position, I accept over the phone
>pre-employment medical required at a clinic of their choosing
>clinic needs my medical records from my current clinic
>5 days, no updates
>ring my local clinic, they sent the documents 5 days ago via registered mail
>they give me the tracking number
>tracking number goes nowhere, looks like the post office never recieved it
>ring back the clinic, said they'll chase it up with the post company
>I ring them again 6 hours later for update
>post company is looking into it

So firstly I'm going to miss out on this job and by extension my new life, due to post office incompetence. Secondly the post company has lost a REGISTERED letter that contained my medical history, making myself a possible future victim of identity theft/fraud.

I'm seriously considering engaging a lawyer.

Early 30s. Feel kind of fucked, but weirdly optimistic. Have been working a job I hate for the past six years or so, will probably quit it soon to go on a sabbatical and recover from the burnout. During that time I bought a cheap condo and saved a bunch for retirement. I'm ready to take a break and figure out what I want to do next. I'll probably need to work towards a new career, I think my current one is over.

I'm almost done writing my first serious story, laid out an important scene tonight for it. I think that's the most positive thing that's happened this week.

Live below your means. Learn how to invest (properly). Stay in shape. No you don't deserve to be treated like shit, surround yourself with people that treat you with respect. Learn how to spot manipulative or Machiavellian people, how to deal with them. Read all the commonly recommended self help books. Your employer and corporate can and will lie to you, they do it all the time to get their way. Aaaaand global warming is real and humanity is currently causing a global mass extinction event (or the start of one).

38. feel like my life is a mess atm.
I'm at the point of being able to improve everything, yet I feel like I need to check every detail to make sure that everything goes well because otherwise things might end up being worse
regarding my love life... no gf, I fucked up some things in the last 2 years... but I'm trying to change my situation

>>34273064
What kinda books did you read, if you don't mind me asking?

29, wasted 10 years as a NEET, more or less understand how humans and society work now and don't want to participate in it, pessimistic about future. Hoping for society to fix itself, or killing myself if it doesn't happen. I guess I'm in the process of trying to real talk with people up one last time, so I can at least say I tried then, though most people aren't very receptive to reality. Or maybe I'm just too ahead of everyone else and impatient. Anyway, if things ever get better, I'll be 40 by then and it'll be too late. I guess I should start now just in case, but honestly I'm just tired and can already feel myself solidify into a societally non-functional person with the flexibility soon gone.

>>34277375 (me)
Advice: Don't think about things too deeply choose carefully which realities you need to confront and which to leave alone as delusions, you'll only find disappointment and others won't follow you into the abyss and then you are alone. Form close social connections to satisfy your social sense of security and purpose. Adapt to each others' delusions, make sure you have common delusions, (innate need for religious thinking) and stay up to date with each other through physical proximity/regularity and avoid social/online media which will drift you apart. Don't be NEET for longer than a year.

>>34269492
>>Any advice you want to give?
>I know this sounds stupid and obvious, but if you ever find yourself so infatuated in a game or a show or a series so much to the point where it takes over your life, to where you find yourself scouring the internet looking for the latest fanfics, art pieces, and dedicate more than 3 hours of your day to it, please cut it out of your life. I wasted so much of my vital young teenage years on an anime series

True cept extend that to just nearly everything abt youth and modernshit

Advice
Fuck all social rules (but use them to conduct shit and assess ppl's character too)
All socialshit is a farce
Never devalue yourself in comparison to another. Just cuz someone else has XYZ doesn't mean you don't have VWX anymore. Spend a fucking lifetime reclaiming VWX cuz got brainwashed as fuck into devaluing the self.
Your gut instinct is probably wrong and right, so figure out how it's wrong and how it's right.

There, buncha vague unwarranted advice

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>>34269425
>How old are you and where are you at in life?
I’m in my late 40s and doing well. I own my own house and I lease a luxury car. My job is enjoyable and pays well.

>What has been on your mind?
I have been wondering more about what kind of lifestyle I can afford to live after I retire. I also wonder about getting married and maybe having children. The retirement issue is more important for me right now, but I’m open to future opportunities.

>What are your current goals and hopes?
I want to get to a point where our company is really successful so we can all cash out and retire in peace. At this point in my life, I’ve done another things for me to be satisfied so I’m fine with dying tomorrow as long as it doesn’t involve too much pain.

>What is something positive about the last couple weeks in your life?
I just started a new project at work that I’m excited about.

>Any advice you want to give?
Having a passion is very advantageous in life. It will help you develop courage and perseverance because you working towards something you really care about.

>>34269425
25 and still living with family at the moment,really lots of stuff at my mind like between trying to better follow on faith of christ (although thinking at times i do a bad job at it) and for hopes to start that i live long enough to be at a old age and having a family (with not dying a virgin) among least learning how to draw and lose some weight and getting a job as the first half of goals in positives of my week i guess is making puppy chow n granola bars at this independence program im in,advice?
work on yourself be better
enjoy life and challenge yourself here and there along reading the bible and meditate from it applying as much of the teachings from it in your life
as well just not believe in yourself but be able to work on yourself and love others

24. Bachelor's degree nearly done.
I've been thinking about how many of the tasks in my field are very much useless for society in the present and that I was naive to think there wasn't gonna be layers upon layers of shit everywhere built by retards that explicitly want to take roundway trips around another galaxy to reach the fucking neighbouring house. But I suppose that is the basilisk making people run around like headless chickens. Horizontallty consuming our attention and creating some kind of circular and ever growing symbiotic feedback loop. Idk might be schizo but it's kind of there if you zoom in and out.
I got kind of interested about making music again which is nice, but I need to be way more intentional and obsessed with bringing forth stuff I actually hear in my mind for it to be any good.
Advice for myself. Do not be afraid to disagree with or challenge a person that is hierarchially above you in some environment even if staying quiet would be of benefit to you. In short: hold your principles and state your raw opinion