Broke up with my ex of close to a year in early december. It was a mutual breakup, however, it is clear we both still miss each other very much. I'm adamant on not getting back together however after coming off of my antidepressants about a week ago I can't get them out of my head. At the same time, I've created a hinge profile and am trying to look at other girls and matched with this one who's kinda cute a couple days ago. We've only been texting back and forth for a little bit, nothing serious yet but I feel it is close to setting up a first date kind've thing. However the issue is that I still talk with my ex quite regularly as friends. We still send each other memes and tiktoks. And we still text all the time when we're stressed with something. I know I don't want to get back together with my ex, however I am so very stressed out about talking with this other girl while still having so many elements of my previous relationship present in my day to day. I haven't fully moved on from them and am terrified of hurting this girl I'm talking to. I'm not really sure how to go about communicating this to her and on her profile it lists she wants a long term relationship, i don't think im ready for one. I think if I were to see this girl casually it would be okay but any ideas of committing myself to her while also still being attached to my ex in a way would make me feel so guilty and awful idk what to do.Is it still too early to date post breakup? Part of me is terrified of going no contact with my ex too, or even letting her know I'm trying to see someone else. I don't want to hurt anyone but i feel like there isn't a choice. Do i just drop this girl I'm talking to and continue to grieve/heal? And just sort of, accept all the sadness and depression that'll come my way?Pic unrelated
OP here,Some extra details, I'm 25 m, both of these individuals are close in age to me. My ex was my 3rd real relationship and only my 2nd one into adulthood as well as my longest and most enjoyable to this day. They are a part of my life now whether I want them.to be or not as they became friends with my friends before we started dating. Another part of me is terrified of moving on from them as I'm so stressed and paranoid that no other girl/person would be as accepting of me and what i have for interests as they were. I was going on hinge to just sort've look at other people and compare options to my ex and sort've make myself feel better with my future chances of finding someone or even just find someone to make me stop caring so much about my ex. I don't know if I want a long term relationship rn but if I could see someone for a bit, maybe it would push me to stop being so afraid of moving on from my ex.
>>34271168What do you like about your ex that you still wish to speak to them? Lacking context there.
>>34271186I feel lots of joy and comfort texting to them. When we were together there were times I wasn't as excited to get texts from them, however, post breakup, they are one of my favorite people to text. I find I still very much so have feelings for them and find it very hard in my head to cut contact.As to specifically what I like so much about them is that i can talk to them about literally anything and they'd be naturally supportive of whatever it is. Even super tmi stuff. I still care about them and their life a lot so keeping up with them makes me happy and feel happy for them.
