i lost my virginity last December with the love of my life. he is 8 years older than me and has been with many girls.its LDR and we cant have sex more than 7 days every three months. i was sloppy in a bad way. didnt know how to kiss. gave terrible bjs. didnt know how to ride his cock. he enjoyed that my pussy was tight but thats pretty much it. i also was really tense. i dont have a nice body, small boobs and butt, bad posture, thin, no hips. he likes Goth/Emo Latinas. he also sent me an of he likes (because i asked) and she was thicc, looked nothing like me. his crush is also thicc.he likes clowngirls. tried to do clowngirl makeup for him more than once and i felt just ridiculous. i dont understand how this kink works.im afraid i am terrible in bed and not his type. maybe he just likes me because i am nice, easy, inocent and cute. i want to get good before the next time i see him. i asked him and he wont admit i was terrible in order not to hurt my feelings.my nudes are also bad.can you give me advice please? or any tutorials? should i watch porn?i am sad and i feel really insecure
Just get drunk before you have sex.
>>34271300so I puke in his mouth or on his cock? no thanks. i also dont drink alcohol anymore because i am a sad drunk
>>34271305Then just drink enough to get buzzed. It will numb your anxiety but you won't be drunk enough to puke. Or you could try phenibut, gabapentin, or some other anti-anxiety drug.
>>34271311I tried Diazepam, Lorazepam, Olanzapine, Quetiapine. Aripiprazole, Prozac, Sertraline and Paroxetine. Nothing legal works.
>>34271323>ParoxetineAre you sure this isn't making you sexually dysfunctional?
>>34271340i mean i cum when i touch myself, i get wet and aroused, so I guess not. that's for man I think. the problem isn't that I don't get pleasure. the problem is I am bad at it.
>>34271288practice bjs on one of your beta simp orbiters
>>34271371i don't have any, even if i did i wouldn't cheat on my bf
>loml>ldr>"bf"You are delusional. This "I won't cheat on him" talk... This is NOT a commited relationship lmao. He is likely fucking other girls. You can fuck around too if you want practice. But you give this much of a shit about being some far far away guy's side piece? Maybe get your priorities in line. Worrying about pleasing a stranger miles away sounds like the least of your concerns.
>he also sent me an of he likes (because i asked) and she was thicc, looked nothing like me. his crush is also thicc.Are you actually in a relationship with this guy or just FWB?Anyway, let me give you the easiest tip: Pay attention to his cock. Act like his cock is a wonderful treat, your favorite dessert that you want to savor. Don't try to be sultry like a porn star, the key word is eager. You are EAGER for that cock.Other tips: work on your endurance when it comes to fellatio and riding his cock. Use your hands during sex by grabbing him and squeezing. And if something feels good, tell him it feels good and keep doing it
>>34271388we talk for hours a day, i met his mom, he bought me a ring, he met my parents, we are doing tramits for me to move there with him. he is not playing with me. its a serious relationship.
>>34271390we are not FWB, we are in a serious relationship.thank you so much for your advice, this makes sense.
>>34271394Yeah great, sure, but you never really know someone until you live with them. I don't care what performative gestures either of you do for each other. It's nice to fantasy land it and rely on the convenient fee fees the words on the phone give you, but chill out. Some person you only see once in a blue moon is not someone you know. You're both still in that limerance phase. Don't call a stranger your boyfriend until you get past the bored "can I do better" stage. What even is this shit-- he's sharing that he pays for OF girls with you? This is not shit a man with a "girlfriend" should even need to be indulging in, let alone comparing his "girlfriend" too. This is what passes for "dating" these days? Nah, you two are just convenient enough for each other. Don't aggrandize it, for your own sake. Like I said, worrying about his sexual pleasure is the least of your worries with this arrangement
>>34271473what the fuck am i supposed to do? he lives far away and i love him. we try to talk as much as we can to get to know eachother. we don't have any other ways to do this.he doesent pay for it, its piracy.
Why do you do this to me?
>im afraid i am terrible in bed and not his type. maybe he just likes me because i am nice, easy, inocent and cute.ProbablyAnd why do you like him?
>>34271288What makes a woman good in bed? Number One, way above the rest, is the ability to enjoy herself and to let him know she's enjoying herself. Inhibition or shame or shyness are your biggest enemies. Oh, and know that EVERYONE, male or female, has a "type" but very few are limited to their type. The very fact that he is with you shows that he is attracted to the person inside the packaging, and that attraction means more than how thicc you are.
>>34272154Find someone nearby who can actually prove himself for an actual relationship? Stay single? Just don't put all your eggs in a "ldr" basket... Shit never works out. If you only fuck like once a month then who cares. Put out for him, get fucked. Call it whatever you want, but there is no reason to try to "improve" something you can't consistently practice for the sake of a distant porn addict you're obsessing over. Sex requires two individuals to learn each other. You can't learn anything consistent or important in a ldr about him or his body. Maybe this fact should wake you up to how in over your head you sound about this e-fwb you call a boyfriend. You're BOTH probably naive as fuck.
>>34272412Turn someone doesn't want others to be in a long distance relationship huh
>>34271288You need to learn to control your vagina. Do your kegel exercises, feel how things tighten, practice, learn to do that in different rhythms, then do that when you're on his cock. You can practice blow jobs with vegetables that are similar size to his cock, make sure to get the tongue involved. More than anything you need to be confident, start practicing what I've said, get comfortable and the confidence will build.
>>34272527Ok thank you so much!
>>34271288>real relationship with love of your life>he also sent me an of he likes (because i asked) and she was thicc, looked nothing like me. his crush is also thicc.Not to try make you feel bad or even more insecure but are you sure he cares about you as much as you care about him?
>>34272565i hope so
None of this will happen. It's over.
>>34271288i'm male and i never had sex but, at least for me, the more saliva on the penor the better. Also a blowjob while sucking plus twisting hand motions on it - making sure you hit the penis head underside (!) - probably will make him cum quickly. You probably know this, but touching the underside of the penis head gives the most sensation out of all the areas on the penis. If he's uncut, just pull the skin back to access itif you guys want to experiment you can touch his prostate or something but i have no clue how that worksif you have a vibrator you can gun it onto his penis head even lol
>>34273157What do you mean?
>>34273187thank you so much!
>>34271288also feels refreshing to hear that my opposite gender also is worried about sexual performance, kind of like me lol
>>34273195You know what I mean
