I’m a 26 year old man, virgin. I asked out a girl I met by chance and went on a date with her. She’s 19 and goes to the same college as me. It’s a pretty big gap but she’s cute and nerdy so I just straight up don’t give a shit about it.I’m friends with a lot of girls where I can be more of myself. I feel like I have more chemistry with those girls. But I don’t pursue them because I feel I don’t really have a lot in common with them. I’m pursuing this girl because we’re in the same world (coding major and gamers) but I wonder how much I need to have “in common” with a girl to make it successful? I have a chaotic sense of humor. I’ve been told I’m really funny but I also say slurs to my closest friends (which a lot of guys do let’s be real) . Should I be able to act like that around my girlfriend too or does everyone put on a face around their partners?
>>34271697>how muchbetween this much [-----] and this much [-----------------------------]>Should I be able to act like that around my girlfriend tooat some point yes, but probably best to skip the socially unacceptable stuff until she's locked in, or skip it entirely. This may surprise you, but talking about nigs and juice doesn't add value to a romantic relationship.
>>34271752I’m not actually racist. I just have gamer humor from growing up on 2000s internet. I keep thinking about Pewdiepie and Marzia’a relationship. Pewdiepie obviously says slurs in private and Marzia seems pretty wholesome but somehow is okay with it. I wonder how she can tolerate it? Maybe it’s because she grew up in the same era but nowadays probably isn’t popular
>>34271761>I’m not actually racist.she's too good for you
>>34271697>I’m 26 she’s 19I stopped reading. Brother she’s barely an adult. You can have common interests with her but you both are at different periods of your life. I can never understand people that do large age gaps like this unless both people are well into adulthood. It’s seriously weird.
>>34271861bro overdosed on the feminist kool-aid. calm the fuck down
>>34271861>different periodsactually that’s not true. we’re both in college, both broke, both nerds. I don’t really care about having kids any time soon and neither does she. I’m more concerned about finding someone I can be myself with
>>34271861Most people, men and women, are the same immature dipshits they were at 16 even as 26 year oldIt’s only when you start pushing 30 and middle age isn’t just calling, but also texting and DMing, that most people actually grow up and they do it in a hurry.
>>34271697>how much I need to have “in common” with a girl to make it successfulreal men don't change their life around to be with a woman. They certainly don't care if the woman has anything "in common" with him. A man is a man, and he goes his own way. If the woman wants to come along to improve his life, so be it. If she leaves, so be it.>Should I be able to act like that around my girlfriend too or does everyone put on a face around their partnersthere is a time to be yourself and there is a time to act around people you care about. Just how much of that balance you need to do without losing yourself is your own prerogative.>I’m a 26 year old man>She’s 19both consenting adults by legal definition. Anyone thats says anything otherwise are salty bitchniggas. Mind your own business and give them the finger.
>>34272004>real men don't change their life around to be with a woman. They certainly don't care if the woman has anything "in common" with him.Just out of curiosity, how many women have you slept with and what has your longest relationship been? This is wild retard advice so I'd like to know what wealth of experience you're drawing from.
>>34272031>This is wild retard advicecuck detected. There's your (you). Keep trying to make your woman happy- keep changing your life around to appease her. See how that will work out for you later on KEK. Don't say you weren't warned
>>34272042I can't help but notice you didn't answer the question
>>34271761duh marzia's Italianaverage Italian racism level is off the charts, like, instantly fireable by coastal American standards
>>34272031Not that anon but I've been in a couple of multi-year relationships, one of which lasted 8 years, and I've slept with a couple dozen women He's absolutely right and you're the retard>A man is a man, and he goes his own way. If the woman wants to come along to improve his life, so be it. If she leaves, so be it.If you don't internalize this fact, not only will you never get what you want out of dating and romantic relationships, but you'll also be an immature failure in your professional and personal life.Mindset and frame really does trump everything else, I didn't even believe it myself until I experienced it personally. The trick is that it can't come from a desire to be with a woman, or from some PUA book. It comes from having genuine self-respect, which I think you likely lack.
>>34271697It's the 1 in her age that scares you. In six months or so when she's 20 and you're 27, no one will even notice.
>>34271697OP, know this: Every - and I mean EVERY - negative response you've gotten here is based on jealousy. Go for it.
>>34271697>19 and 26early investment. Nice
>>34271697>how much I need to have “in common” with a girl to make it successfulBeen happily married for 29 years to a woman that is almost my polar opposite. You need to be in agreement on children, finances, and sex. That's it.
>>34271697>Should I be able to act like that around my girlfriend too or does everyone put on a face around their partners?Your partner is the one person in the world you should be able to be absolutely truthful with.
Cutting the one on the right head off will help
>>34271861You are either a feminist cuck or literal women, either way shut the fuck up and rope
