exposure therapy. you can pirate a cbt workbook from the Internet and do it all on your own if you don't believe in doctors. you just have to do the steps and follow through on desensitizing yourself to approaching people and being rejected

>>34272320
yeah, but I've gone as far as I can go. I can't really bring myself to take the next step.

btw, i'm a woman

>>34272314
You need motivation.
You've decided that means you need a partner but that's not technically the case.
Let me just say that I completely get it. I was a neet for YEARS and had zero motivation, was pretty sure I was going to kill myself. Then I got into a relationship and was motivated to create a pleasant future for that relationship to exist in. Now that it's gone doing things "for me" isn't motivating. I don't want anything that doesn't include a future with that person. I don't want anything for myself I just want to lay down and make it all stop.
Instead of waiting for a partner to fix you why not be motivated to fix yourself so you can find them?

>>34272889
I think I am motivated. I'm just very stuck in particular patterns of thought and behavior, and don't have proper support.
It's very hard for me to beat that voice in my head that says "you look like a homeless man, and you don't belong here", whenever I go anywhere.

>>34272893
Tell that voice to shut up
Treat it like a 3rd grade bully

You have to be able to quiet your mind enough to logic your way out of that shit. Another person isn't going to be able to get that shit out of your head you have to.

>>34272895
other people can hold my feet to the fire, and dispel my delusions.

>>34272898
Doesn't work like that.
Unfortunately you are in charge of those.
I get that you're holding on to hope that it would work because you feel like you can't do it yourself but it's not gonna work.

>>34272906
the thing is I have tried very hard, and I think I've pushed to my limit.