How do you cope with a failed life in your mid thirties? For reference I'm turning 35 this year, have never experienced intimacy, lived with my parents till my early thirties, had a huge period of being a NEET, struggled academically (community college equivalent dropout) and currently struggle to hold jobs for more than a year, I'm a low earner. More subjectively (but accurately) I'm also highly unattractive.I'm just wondering how people kind of cope with this sort of existence beyond "lol drugs and alcohol". It's too much to fix at this point, being dumb as fuck and uneducated especially holds me back a lot obviously.
>lock in and do better Or >accept failure Honestly based on your description anon, you just need to do better. It's almost over for you. You can do better but you have to want to. Having been in a similar situation I can safely assume you suffer from a victim mindset. Accept that no help is coming and it's up to you to do better. Nobody owes you shit so start small and go from there. >Struggled academically Ie you didn't apply yourself >Can't hold down jobs Again, a you problem.
>>34273466OP, I feel the same way wholeheartedly. I'm living in the corrupted timeline. When I die, I'll be reincarnated into the corrected timeline. In this one, I've learned everything too late. Life is 99% misery, loneliness and depression, and 1% happiness at absolute most. I'm so excited for the next timeline which will include fulfilling relationships and financial freedom. I'll escape the rat race on my early 20s and spend the rest of my life enjoying women, friends, experiences. It's the only thing I look forward to anymore. In this timeline, there is no God, or Jesus, or Holy Spirit. But in the corrected timeline, I can hear and feel Jesus. He exists and blesses me. In this timeline, Jesus is nowhere to be found. No God whatsoever, I've never heard or felt God even once in my 35 years.This is how I cope. I highly recommend you cope in the same manner. I've spent so many years consumed by immense crushing regret and overwhelming suffering. But now I can let it all go. A tick bit me at age six, gave me Lyme Disease, and ruined my life permanently. My timeline was corrupted the moment that tick bit me. And this is how I know for a fact that there's no God. Why would God allow a mindless tick to live an additional 24 hours in exchange for ruining my entire 70 year lifespan? There is no God or Jesus. I truly wish there was. I wish for a supernatural encounter but know it will never happen. So I have to let it all go. We're both living in the corrupted timeline OP. So you have to let go of all the intense misery and just make the best of the short remaining time we have.
>>34273701>I'm so excited for the next timeline which will include fulfilling relationships and financial freedom. I'll escape the rat race on my early 20s and spend the rest of my life enjoying women, friends, experiences. It's the only thing I look forward to anymore. In this timeline, there is no God, or Jesus, or Holy Spirit. But in the corrected timeline, I can hear and feel Jesus. He exists and blesses me. In this timeline, Jesus is nowhere to be found. No God whatsoever, I've never heard or felt God even once in my 35 years.This sounds like an anime.
>>34273701If your for real anon that's rough man. In the next life perhaps .......in the next life.
>>34273466By not seeing yourself as a failure and appreciating what you have in life. By making an honest commitment in your life to do better, without being self-deprecating. You might find this video helpful, it basically shows how big an impact your mindset can have on your quality of life, irrespective of the hand you've been given: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQYfvLTId0QGenetics and life circumstances can fuck a person over. But mindset is also huge, it's something that makes a big impact while being fairly easy for a person to control.
>>34273466Have you been assessed by a psychiatrist? Probably would do you a lot of good. I was a low achiever most of my life, then I found out a combination of ADHD and an anxiety disorder explained most of my problem behaviours... I was able to actually start fixing most of my issues rather than not knowing what's wrong with me and hating myself for it.If you're in the US, I know going to a doctor for this stuff might be expensive and maybe not within your reach. But if you can, it's definitely worthwhile.
>>34274152No, I also have untreated ADHD but it's borderline impossible to get treatment for it in my country. Just the wait list is over 60 weeks.Being in the US would in this, surprisingly, make it better.
>>34273701i'm sorry all that happened to you, but everything you're saying sounds like it stems from mental illness.I dunno if there's a next life or not, but it's possible this life is all we get. I know I have this life, so I'm determined to make the most of it. Telling yourself you'll have some kind of ideal reincarnation just kills your motivation to make anything better in your current life. It's just learned helplessness.
>>34274154where are you, if you don't mind me asking?Sorry to hear that, us with ADHD usually figure out early on we don't fit into the world, and go through life hating ourselves for it. Everything is an uphill struggle. But we do have a unique ability to hyperfocus
>>34273466I don't, just do the best I can every daystill a failure but I'm not gonna let future chances to get away
>>34273701If you truly believed, you'd be dead faster.Your brain is freaking out cus its jar got scratched
>>34273466would you like to be with the woman in your picrel?
>>34275014Yeah.>>34273701I don't believe in God not do I think this world is just misery and loneliness. I however do like to cope thinking reincarnation exists, but all I wish for is to be reborn as myself with support groups and who tried at the important things in life from the start. I'll be ugly all over again if I could get that.
>>34274068Unfortunately, mindset cannot change the past and future is uncertain for the worst.
>>34273466>highly unattractivedid you try posting your face on a rate thread on /soc/?
>>34275084>did you try posting your face on a rate thread on /soc/?Fuck no, I don't even look in mirrors anymore.
>>34273466>How do you cope with a failed life in your mid thirties?Im just going to snap and kill myself one day. Theres no other way.
>>34273466Once you reach the stage where you truly have no attachment to life anymore, it means you are here by choice, so you can start living how you want instead of some notion imprinted on you by suhciety that you no longer believe in
>>34275099i know that this is corny as fuck but i think there really might be a person on /soc/ that does like your face. I'm 100% sure you're not an unlikeable ogre, appearance wise. There are women with weird weird facial preferences, and who knows if there is one woman that finds your specific face attractive. You can even post it here to prove me wrong. BUT i'm not forcing you to this; i understand that you might want to keep your face off of the internetbut if you do have a super greasy unwashed face then i'm sorry but this will narrow down the amount of women that are attracted to you. However i'm sure it isn't something that can't be dealt with
>>34275152My face is never going to be on the internet with my consent.
>>34273466In my experience you don't really cope or not cope at that age. At that point life just starts passing you by regardless of what you do, because there is no more hope left like you might have had when you were younger. So you can pretty much do anything. I dunno if you also experienced this but I'm a bit "calmer" than in my 20s despite not necessarily feeling better.Also like 50% of 30 year olds still live at home these days, you can't use that one to victimize yourself anymore.
>>34277327>there is no more hope left like you might have had when you were youngerHow does one cope then?
>>34273466being a virgin at your age doesnt bother you?
>>34273960Where am I supposed to find explosives?
>>34277473Reread the first sentence.
>>34273466>How do you cope with a failed life in your mid thirties?When people say cope they're not actually looking for solutions, right? It's like when a woman complains but just wants attention and validation, not practical advice?
>>34278535What would be a realistic solution besides coping? Being a passport bro or a groomer?
Watch episodes of "To Catch a Predator" and realize that no matter how big of a loser, failure, or fuck-up you might be, you'll NEVER be as embarrassing and shameful as the guys who got caught on that show. Their embarrassment is IMMORTALIZED on the internet forever, on top of criminal charges, jail time, and sex offender registration.Walls (YouTube) has some hilarious TCAP commentary. I recommend checking his videos out: https://www.youtube.com/@WallsTCAP
>>34278552We have a thread like this every day. The realistic solution is to do the best with what you have instead of continuing habits you know are bad and lead you to this. Because the alternative is compounding misery and retardation. You already know that doing exercise and cooking is superior to jerking off and eating goyslop. But you won't do that, you'll come up with some shitty rationalization why it's better to continue the way you've been going.
>>34278587>best with what you haveOP doesnt have anything (besides his khv status).
>>34278552Get an ugly fat wife who’s just as much of a failure as you are, struggle to survive together while the both of you wage slave for 50 years, and have fucked up children who will resent you for raising them into a life of poverty and serfdom. Either that, or get a time machine and invest in bitcoin in the early 2010s.Don’t call it a grave, it’s the future you chose.
>>34273466>On my 39s>fleed home since 17>was a kind of nomad going from job to job, sometimes giving fake names and such>decided to "change" at my 20s>study and work, and get some office jobs>after being exploited with 16hrs of daily wage, finally land in a 9 to 5 job from monday to fridays>the pay is mediocre, but good enough to live comfortably>been there for a while since>probably have aspergers or something because I'm socially inept and never been in a relationship>decided to learn some martial arts (muay thai)>still kinda hurt from the coworker from another office who told me to stop bothering her a year agoI realized I will be forever alone, and just keep living, I have some hobbies (reading some novels and such) and have a list to complete them, and more keep coming so I guess that's what keeps me from having suicide thoughts.
>>34278630>still kinda hurt from the coworker from another office who told me to stop bothering her a year agodamn what h appened there
>>34278593He has himself.
>>34278667Thats the worst thing
>>34278664there was this quiet girl in another officeI tried to do some small talk and suchSadly it seems I can't perceive human emotions correctly, and it seems she got more annoyed every time I talked to herShe finally asked me what my intentions were and told me that she was just trying to work and to please stop bothering herI got sad, cried at home, and stooped bothering her I tried to just greet her whenever we met by chance, but she just ignored my greetings, ran away or hide in the girls restroom.I "accepted" that she feels disgusted by me and also don't greet her anymore if I see her.I am the kind who usually only responds to greetings or greet acquaintances, but if someone ignores my greetings long enough, I stop greeting them at all.
>>34278587I already had to fix my diet and exercise for health reasons.I just can't figure out fashion or socializing and when I was in my 20s it was just back to back failures and humiliation rituals until around 28-29 when I just threw on hoodies and autism jeans everyday.
