How do I stop wanting to be special? I always want to be the smartest, the most beautiful, the most talented. Being better than other people is very important to me.
>>34274526you can use it to your advantage, competitiveness is the thing that makes us keep goingembrace it and be better that the others, just don't be an ass about it and if you lose do better next time
>>34274526Narcissism is the shadow of Confidence. Both Narcissism & Confidence aim for the same goal: To be better.Narcissism however only craves to try to be better than others.Confidence on the other hand knows that it will be better, full stop. Not better than others, just better than the self of yesterday. Confidence only uses the self as the measure of growth. Narcissism relies on other people as a measurement of growth, that's why narcissism requires comparing itself to others to gauge it's own perceived value. Narcissism is what happens when someone wants to be confident yet lacks a strong sense of self to measure himself with, so it becomes twisted into narcissism.The narcissism should not be hated. After all it was your mind just trying to find a pathology to help yourself grow. So don't try to cease the narcissism. Instead, use it as a source of strength but repurpose it into a mold of confidence slowly over time. Use narcissism to develop a strong sense of self and rely on using others less and less over time.
>>34274634>>34274526Another way to think of narcissism is this: It's just molten egotism, liquid confidence. Wet cement that's meant to become a true solid and real ego and sturdy confidence. Understand that narcissism eventually becomes those things, it's your ticket to a real sense of self and solid confidence that will last a life time without effort soon enough. What gets narcissists into a lot of bother in life is the external processing part. Aka, the narcissist needs others to verbally acknowledge they are superior. If you can avoid that pesky feature, you can remain as narcissistic as you like without having to get into self sabotage, because that slows the process of internal growth down.
>>34274526Realize that wanting to be better than other people objectively makes you worse than other people. If you want merit, then be humble, gentle, kind, compassionate and patient. That's where merit comes from. Lacking those qualities makes a person worthless.
