To anybody who has dealt with this before, how & in what way did you get over your first love as a young adult?I am 20 years old now and I turn 21 in August, I met her online when we was 15, she lived a different city almost 100 miles west from where i lived at & i was so into her i would make a drive to her every weekend, eventually we started living together at 16 and have been ever since.We got to live a good portion of our teenage lives together sharing stories and got to know each other unlike anybody else does so of course we both think this could last forever and the world will end if we ever lose each other.She has told me that she wishes she would have had more friends when she was still in school before we graduated & regrets not having a good social life, so we start going out downtown together meeting new people and making friends & traveling to places.Two days before Christmas I glance at her phone & notice pictures/flirty messages being sent to another person, so I ask her about it & she drops a bomb on me saying shes been having trouble finding herself & who she wants to be, and feels like she cant keep on putting in any effort towards a relationship.So after all what she told me, I still let her live at my place and sleep on my couch because i still love her and care for her and dont want to let go of her, but she does. and today she is grabbing everything of hers and leaving very suddenly, and this feels harder to cope with opposed to her telling me how she felt about me.It feels hard watching somebody you've loved & lived with for 4 years as a young person have to go. Now I feel stuck by myself now, nobody to talk to while i'm at home & wondering if she will be okay.How do I cope going through this? I've never felt such grief before, maybe I care too much for her? im not sure. anyways thanks /adv/
>>34278299It sucks, it hurts, and then one day it hurts a bit less. I know that feels impossible right now, like there's a dark shaddow looming over you that wont ever go away, but every cloud fucks off when they're out of rain.Spend some time with you, become the kind of man you wish you were and treat yourself the way you wish others would treat you.I'm sorry for the fortune cookie bullshit but that's really all there is to it. Weather the storm and treat yourself well, you'll be alright.
>>34278299It will hurt less with time. Talk to other bitches. Fall in love with another one to move on from the last one.
>>34278299Meditate daily on impermanence. The relationship would have ended in parting eventually, no matter what. Clinging is the cause of suffering, not the end of the relationship itself, so it's good to have had this opportunity to practice detachment.
>>34278299vodka.
