No longer have as much desire to make friends as I used to, couldn't be happier. When I've attempted to fit in with others it always ended up with me being singled out. Used to be somewhat desperate for friends and may of been clingy towards them, but this stemmed from social anxiety which in turn led me to be perceived as "annoying" by others, although I couldn't help it. What made the difference was quitting social media 2 yrs ago.I no longer have to worry about:>being gossiped about behind my back>one-sided effort into maintaining the friendship>judged for my choices>getting used by others for personal gain>having to listen to others monopolize conversations>managing others negative feelings or insecurities>frequent mockery & belittling>pressured into doing troublesome activitiesI could go on with what i've dealt with from others.While I understand the significance & importance of friendships. I just notice I am alot less anxious since i've lost the desire to make friends. Although this could decrease my empathy for others over time.And I'm comfortable expressing my mind on here. After being here long enough i've realized what they've said negatively about 4chan is exaggerated.
And to anyone that has been in similar situations as me.It is not over
'Incapability' is such an understated concept in your forwardings
>>34297946Don swing too far in the opposite direction. You are overcorrecting and you are very close to a breakthrough. not some immediate snap that will change how you see things, but You have begun to come to terms with losing dependence on other people which is good. Becoming an isolated hermit incapable of social interaction is bad. It is easy to cope and say well if it's bad/not easy for me I'm better off without it. Humans are social animals and everything about your existence relies on other people. To say nobody is worth the time severely deprives your future self of opportunity. The longer you sink into this mindset the harder it is to get out of it. Right now it is a choice. Keep it that way. Social skills are like a muscle. You don't need to be working it every single day or pushing yourself to extreme discomfort, but if you don't use it at all you will wither to a point you can't do shit. and also, no 4chan isn't entirely what outer internet makes it out to be, but make no mistake it is a shithole that fuels delusion and in light of recent events likely a massive psyop at this point. If you could see most the people you talk to on here face to face you would likely feel very differently about saying this place is not so bad
>>34297995As in?>>34297995>Don't swing too far in the opposite directionI know.>To say nobody is worth the time severely deprives your future self of opportunityIn what context?>But make no mistake it is a shithole that fuels delusionOfcoarse, i'm not sugarcoating what 4chan is.
>>34297946You are making one quintessential mistake in your logic. You aren't happier without friends. You are happier without your CURRENT friends.You will still need to find a contact with new people who share your sentiments, or else you will end up like a sad virgin neet like the rest of this pathetic board. Switching the setting has its merit. But unreasonable self-isolation is only path to mental suicide.
>>34298011>I knowyou don't. You just made a long post about giving up on having friends entirely>In what context?Nobody does anything sitting at home in their room. everything happens outside in the real world with other people. That doesn't have to be your everything but you need your own internal life alone plus external interaction providing movement in your life and opportunities. Better jobs, new partners, fun activities, developing your social skills if only for novelty and acquiring resources. A support network for the day you come to need it. You don't genuinely want to pay someone every time you need help with anything for the rest of your life and when you look back on your entire life one day everything you ever did was alone. But probably more importantly the internal growth and gain from what you can provide to others. Mattering in the world is important for your own self image. Even in small ways but one day you will find that what you can do for others is more important than what they can do for you, and that provides rewards
>>34298055>you don't. you just made a long post about giving up on having friends entirely. When did I say entirely?>Nobody does anything sitting at home in their room. Everything happens outside in the real world with other peopleYou're just proving to me that you don't know what you're talking about. I am able to enjoy different activities by myself.>>34298053>Current(Previous) FriendsYou're right. I honestly didn't really like some of the people I was around for different reasons including what i've mentioned in post.
>>34298064you are coping super hard so anything I say will just be rejected to protect your ego. Good luck with your self imposed isolation
>>34298069So I must have a big network of friends like everyone else?
>>34298073no.>you need your own internal life alone plus external interaction providing movement in your life and opportunitiesmost people don't have a big network. you have small shifting interactions over time and some of those will become friends. You don't get the chance for small interactions if you become a recluse. It sounds like you trying with a bitchy friendship group which is incredibly common
>>34298080My bad. Most of the people i've surrounded myself with were horrible.
>>34298087and you've removed yourself which is good. don't let negative experiences push you into black and white thinking. The world is full of shitty people but to take that as everyone is shitty is delusional. There is as much good in the world as bad it's just harder to find and takes longer. If you're genuinely comfortable alone the you are actually in a great position because it allows you to explore options and easily cut off what don't work. Just be self aware, it's easy to blame everyone else. It may well be entirely their fault but consider why you let other people treat you that way in the first place or you'll just repeat the same cycle
>>34298092I do genuinely enjoy solitude. I've been working on my self-awareness significantly since i've quit social media(despite being judged for doing that).
