>I have xx chromosomes
pics or gtfo

>>34312618
You're not a broken person, it just takes you forever to get going. My woman's kind of like that too.
Not sure how personal you want to get but also not sure what foreplay means to you.
For us, foreplay means I usually get her off at least once before I actually go in to the deed. You said you were a virgin so there's a chance you really don't know your body as much as you think you do.
What kind of stuff gets you aroused?
The thought of penetration?
Erotic touch?
Licking? Pulling? Biting?
Actual penetration?
Persistent touch/penetration?
There's a lot of factors you'll need to get personal about for better advice.

>>34312618
probably when you get into it you start moaning and enjoying yourself which leads to your chump bf to shoot his load ending the segz.
maybe you feel horny when you get into the animalistic phase of sex and stop being in your mind.

>>34312652
Hmm I don't think I get any especially sexual feelings or become horny from stuff like licking, pulling, biting, etc. I like penetration lol maybe that's being too frank. This feels awful to say bc I love my boyfriend but I often feel like I'm not quite wet enough at the start (when piv starts), but then slowly but surely I start to become a bit horny finally, and then once I get wet "enough" thanks to the penetration, I become horny since it starts to feel really good at that point. But at that point it tends to be kinda too late, and usually the sex ends very soon after just as I was starting to get properly horny.

Maybe it's kind of basic but I think one thing that gets me into the mood is when bf gets into this "taking control" mood rather than both of us touching each other or kissing while I'm wondering when the piv will start.

Also, idk if it's just a porn fetish for me but I like the idea of bj's as well (when the woman is on her knees, the normal bj position), but my bf only seems to want it from a certain angle, when I'm on top of him and he's laying down (usually while I'm wearing tight pants of some sort bc he has a fetish for that). It's a really uncomfortable angle to be putting something deep in your mouth so I really don't like it lol. But he hasn't seemingly ever wanted to do bj's the "normal" way, like when the man stands up or sits down and the woman is on her knees. I've always found the idea of that position really hot, but my bf doesn't want to try it I think. I once tried to explain to him what I explained here, how me being on top makes it really annoying and uncomfortable to put something in your mouth because I have to bend down at such an awkward angle, but he didn't seem to get it or agree (he seemed to silently disagree I guess) when I explained that it would be more fun if he were in a normal position for a bj and I wouldn't have to bend down from an upwards position. but yeah sorry, long reply lmao.

>>34312715
It seems you like being submissive (shocker)
Tell your bf to start being a man and take control/dominate you more. Does he pull your hair while you suck or get fucked? does he slightly choke you? ever tried bdsm?

>>34312740
Yep I guess so lol.
in theory I would like light hair pulling but I think I'd get too insecure about my hair ngl, I'm trying to grow it out and it looks kind of awkward. And I don't think I'm too into actual bdsm like chokers or tying someone up. I'm also just way too awkward about this stuff to be able to actually say out loud that I want him to take control more. I think I'd rather try another approach for that, like trying to figure out something to say during sex itself that would activate that mood for him consistently or a bit more often at least. And he hasn't ever choked me, Idk if I would ever be into that either. We do share one bdsm-adjacent fetish that he introduced me to, but it can be a bit of a pain because I really prefer when things happen spontaneously or when things at least feel spontaneous, but this fetish thing requires a few mins of preparation, which kind of goes against that preference I have about things happening and going along spontaneously.

Then make urself horny

You already have paragraphs and paragraphs of things that make you horny so go do it/think it

Just lay there for 2 minutes until he finishes then? Being a woman is so fucking, easy holy shit.

>>34312618
>I realized I never really feel horny during sex.
Are you on birth control? You might want to get off it for a while and see if that changes.
Anxiety medications and other SSRIs can also kill your libido when paired with birth control.

>>34312618
ask your doctor about it.

>>34312618
You're doing sexual things that you don't enjoy with someone who is bad at sex. No mystery here.

>>34312715
>once I get wet "enough" thanks to the penetration, I become horny since it starts to feel really good at that point.
Have you tried using lube?

>>34312715
Taking control is good but it also sounds to me like you guys just aren't spending nearly enough time doing foreplay. You guys should be making out, doing mutual masturbation, oral, etc until you're soaking wet. Personally I would finger you and pin you down and eat your pussy ideally until you had an orgasm before we even began PIV. Then PIV and if I finished before you I'd probably eat you out again until I was ready to go a second round of PIV. It sounds like he just doesn't understand how much work he needs to put into pleasing you. Am I right in guessing that he's never given you an orgasm? Have you had one on your own?

>>34312618
It sounds like your bf is bad at sex tbdesu

>>34312618
First, quit birth control pills if you're taking any. And antidepressants and medications like that, of course if you're taking them you can't just quit, but tell your doctor the medications you're taking and that your libido is low and it's affecting your relationship. Second, directly tell your bf those things you mentioned here, that make you horny. Don't be embarrassed, he will love it. Finally, if nothing else works, microdose testosterone. It will almost certainly work.

don't over analyze it, men are programmed to be ready for sex nearly instantly, whereas summer take a while to get in the mood. most normal people just know and accept this as a matter of fact. the real question is what turns you on, and is your partner doing that throughout the day?

also never take SSRIs or birth control, both kill sex drive

>>34312618
get your thyroid checked ml

>>34312618
Very similar situation to mine. My ex was also my first everything. I also never felt horny with him and only had sex with him out of obligation and because he'd be upset every time I'd refuse him. He blamed about anything for my low libido. My SSRIs, my depression.

We recently broke up and I had a brief sexual relationship with another man. Eye-opening experience. You are probably either with the wrong person, or you are a lesbian. Any medical explanation is extremely unlikely in comparison.

>>34312715
>Hmm I don't think I get any especially sexual feelings or become horny from stuff like licking, pulling, biting, etc. I like penetration lol maybe that's being too frank. This feels awful to say bc I love my boyfriend but I often feel like I'm not quite wet enough at the start (when piv starts), but then slowly but surely I start to become a bit horny finally, and then once I get wet "enough" thanks to the penetration, I become horny since it starts to feel really good at that point. But at that point it tends to be kinda too late, and usually the sex ends very soon after just as I was starting to get properly horny.
If penetration gets you in the mood, why don't you have him finger you to get you in the mood (as in stick fingers inside the vagina)? or use a dildo or something like that?

>>34312618
How long does PiV sex last for you?

Building on my previous post, Try having him penetrate you with his fingers or a toy for a similar period of time before you start PiV

>>34324397
you aren't a woman, btw. never will be either.

>>34324462
I'm not a tranny. Unfortunately I can't nut in a bitch and have to bleed from my hole every month.

>>34324477
bullshit, I don't believe you.