Can yall give advices to have more friends pretty please!! i really try to have friends, gifting things, giving compliments, trying to talk to them, but every time i do things like that they seem to be annoyed because of me talking to them... I'm thinking of stop trying to make friends at this point, maybe i only need my cats and my pc...
You sound disgusting. Stop what you're doing because no one-not even other weirdos like it.
>>34322676you sound adorable af ily
>>34322676It's difficult, but from the advice from people I've gotten who've actually done it the answer is you have to keep tryingDon't be a doormat, but you have to keep going.Volunteering, social hobbies, Church etc all places you can meet and get out of your comfort zone because you're going to have to constantly do just that.Listen to people, learn how to talk to them, watch yt/read books. Learn what they like and if you're compatible, show them you're listening. It's a tiring journey op but it's rewarding if you let it be.
>>34322676Always have weed.
>>34322676If there's one piece of advice I can give you from knowing a few guys in my time who I really wanted to like but didn't, it's that you need to know when to be quiet. Silence is not always awkward. 9/10 people would take silence over poor conversation. Try to become better at conversing but don't force it and if you have nothing to say, don't speak. Also, and this is something I've learned myself, don't give people gifts. Just don't do it. It makes you seem desperate, chances are they don't want it, and chances are they definitely don't want the pressure of feeling like they have to reciprocate.
>>34323994Right Your manipulative blabbering bullshit comes across as desperate and pathetic. You really should shut your mouth and just not speak ever again honestly
Misdirection and manipulation is really fucking pathetic Caring for another is good, communicating with that person honestly in real time without holding back is good, giving gifts and caring for the other is good. Don't sabotage yourself listening to fagots like Colton in any thread.
>>34324006Shut the fuck up you worthless attention whoreThis is from the heart advice based upon three guys I've known in the recent past, nice nerdy guys I liked in theory but didn't like spending time around (and neither did other people around us) because they just couldn't stop talking. Some people are very uncomfortable with silence and that is not good for one's prospects. It's not "manipulative" to know when you don't have anything interesting to say so you're better off saving your breath. And the gifts thing comes from my own experience of buying people stuff, from drinks at pubs to video games for closer friends, and often feeling regret in the wake of it. If you had anything worthwhile to say you wouldn't feel the need to attach a name to your posts, as they'd stand for themselves.
>>34322676I'm a very biased but maybe I can at least give/gain insight>pretty please!!>giving complimentsDepending on how often you do these I'd think you're just trying gain something out of me rather than make a real bond. Flattery and/or needless words do great for distraction/buying time. Useful for hiding lies too, it'd take me a long time to trust you. I'm totally projecting though, are they strangers/anons or enough to be known to an extent?>gifting thingsThis one's new to me, how do you do this?>but every time i do things like that they seem to be annoyed because of me talking to them...What do you say/try to talk about?>>34323719>you sound adorable afAdmittedly to an extent yeah
>>34324027It would be great if the poison shut the fuck up so that it didn't have to be dealt with. I completely agree with that. Healthy communication is direct, these threads are trash. Only expect misdirection that will harm you from these people here
>>34322676I don't want friends, i want sexual intercourse. And i probably don't even want that either.
has op replied to anyone yet or he likes to bait
It'd really suck if it were bait
>>34322676Get a hobby. Made lots of friend through music and board games.
>>34322676Stop trying, Thats your problem. Buying gifts is weird and corny. If someone bought me a gift outside of Christmas time, birthday or a holiday I'd legit think they were a little slow.
>>34324029i give compliments almost all the time... i do it to be kind to them because my old brother always says to me to be kind with others if i want them to be my friends.i usually try to hear what they like so i can buy the things they like to gift them that.idk i always try to ask them things like what's your hobbies so we can continue talking abt that.
>>34328041>almost all the timeDial that down you're pretty much at flirting zone if you do it too much and that's a different animal than making friends. Kindness definitely works, it can be conveyed in different ways than that>ask them things like what's your hobbies so we can continue talking abt thatIt's a bit of a backwards thing, but could try cold approaching with one of your own hobbies/niches. It's a lot more direct and should branch off a lot easier from there>giftOther anons said enough, but I'll play devil's advocate a little and say this COULD work in select situations outside of holidays, but it really varies
