I wish I wasn't so neurotic and that my main motivations for doing things wasn't the fear of what happens when I don't do it. It'd be much nicer if I could be motivated to do something because of what might happen when I do it.

>>34326833
>I'm not attracted or really interested in her
>I'm a 27 year old man
it's time to lower your standards buddy

>>34326833
Go out with her.
After that you have two options
1) Find that you enjoyed it >> hang out again
2) Didn't really enjoyed it. >> Tell her and that's it

>She isn't ugly, but she wears no make-up, and dresses like a slob.
if you have a problem with that, ask her if she can change it for you

>>34326841
You're so dysfunctional.
If not even your penis can get you to make an effort to interact with girls you should see a therapist.

>>34326833
Impregnate

>>34326959
is probably the only right answer. That's your best shot at getting your genes out there for a guy like you. After that, move out of the country and start a new life.

>>34326833
Go out and friendzone her

>>34326833
If you’re not attracted to her don’t waste her time.

>>34326833
sounds like she clocked you as equally attractive as her. if you want better prospects you gotte be a better prospect. but she might be your type if you can get used to a real human womans face and not shooped makeup gooner material. i suggest 5 sets of eye contact till failure. have fun on the date and forget that its romantic.

hope this helps :)

>>34326833
go out with her regardless, maybe you'll like her

Fine I'll fucking go out with her

Also I'm not dysfunctional for not being attracted to a girl who doesn't really take care of herself. That's stupid coomer logic.

>>34327119
you made a thread on 4chan.org/adv/ and admitted you have nerd hobbies and dont like socializing. its called an inference, faggot.

>>34327119
>doesn't really take care of herself
acne and smelly, or doesn't spend 30 minutes on makeup daily?

advertising is unavoidable and warps your perception of beauty
normal people only look great for moments at a time
so give the uggos a chance - be polite, talk about things you like, and see if you still think she's ugly when she's laughing

also don't be afraid to pump the breaks if she tries to fuck you and you're not into it
post nut regret sucks

>>34327157
>acne and smelly, or doesn't spend 30 minutes on makeup daily?
She comes to work wearing a cheap ass t-shirt and sweatpants without fail. If she at least put on jeans or something I'd be less hesitant.
Having a hard time imagining myself introducing a girl to my friend group and family if she's wearing what's basically a pajama all the time.

>>34327203
How cute, this faggot is afraid this girl will never change and decided to base his whole outcome on some retarded assumption

>>34327203
sounds like a chill girl, what do you wear skinny jeans or something? fuck you!

>>34327203
anon what if she's a stealth trillionaire beneficiary scouting for a good man that can handle the wealth?

>>34327240
Nigger don't pretend that wearing a pajama to work isn't a reasonable turn off. It does signify a lack of self care.
I don't even know if I want a girlfriend. I certainly don't want a fucking project.

>>34327255
Jeans would do.

>>34327259
I'd rather not make weird fantasies about people I actually know.

>>34326833
Go as a colleague and friend. Split the bills. Make it clear you consider it a hang-out and not a date. Enjoy her company on that level

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>>34326833
Go out with her, make her your GF and then slowly mold her to your desires. That's how you make the best GFs.

>>34326856
This is the only advice you should listen to OP

>>34327203
>>34327261
who cares what they look like at work?

where are you going for the date?
if you're worried about this kind of thing: communicate that
>joke about jeans being fancy-dress
>call ahead and ask what she's wearing so you don't dress inappropriately
>say she looks very comfy in her work pyjamas (try not to say negative things about girls' appearance)

>>34327261
Damn you seem like a boring bitch. Spare the poor girl and stand her up.

>>34327305
I bet you're just jealous that I actually got asked out and are being a little baby about me having standards.

>>34327291
If she doesn't snow up wearing at the very least some jeans to the date I'm not going for a second one.

>>34327332
>has a great time on the date
>both laughing to tears
>end of the night
>"so when can I see you again?"
>um actually you wore sweats so I don't like you
that's you
maybe slit your wrists if you don't like her pants

>>34327383
Damn he's mad.
I'm sorry I got the date you wanted so badly. Life's a bitch isn't it :P

>>34327393
>im mad that you're a faggot
ok

Knowing that there is someone out there who is this envious of my very mediocre problem has really boosted my confidence.

>>34327440
NTA but I think he was just saying that nuking a connection if your date goes well because you don't like her pants is retarded.

>>34327383
He's some wierd homo

>>34327526
yeah I figured it was a troll when he didn't give info on where the date was
retards go about socialising in such a weird way

>>34327526
>>34327560
>Noooo! You cant have strandards! You must be desperate like me!
Funny how you assumed I'm trolling because I'm not putting up with someone who doesn't take basic care of herself.
I know you're desperate because you're having elaborate fantasies about my date with a woman you don't know or haven't even seen. I bet you think she's cute too. She's not, and it's not because I'm a gooner looking at insta thots. Out of all of my female colleagues she's easily the least attractive out of all of them. She's not cute anime plain like you're imagine she is. She's on the border of ugly. The only reason I'm considering it is because we have similar interests.

>>34327504
I doubt the date will go well if she puts so little effort in it that she won't even dress nicely. I also wouldn't be able to enjoy myself in public if I'm walking with someone who looks like she's ready to sleep.

>>34327657
tldr
lol

>>34326833
>>34326841
Just do it faggot, relax, you're overthinking it

>>34327203
She probably just wears that stuff to work. Have you seen how she dresses outside of it?

>>34327704
I haven't, so I can only hope.

>>34326833
>She isn't ugly, but she wears no makeup
thats pretty based by her. i too, seek a women that does not wear any chemplant complex in her face and doesnt look like a ww2 shrapnel
>dresses like a slob
idk. u mean like a whore, tits full frontal assault, visible string ect ect or just without wasting a second thought on her looks, like that trash balenciaga 2022 look? maybe she got tig bitties and she tries to hide them ie insecure? (this is exploitable)
>pj look
so she likes to be max comfy (exploitable). even more based, but ur right.
>she's a girl who shares a lot of my nerd interests, and doesn't like going out to clubs or bars (which is a plus for me because I don't like those places either
sounds even more based
>But on the other hand I'm not attracted or really interested in her either.
are you gay perchance?

i say 200% take the chance. you still can decide later if you like her or not. chances are high, that oyu will see her in different light after the date.
just take note how she is going to dress for your occasion and how she behaves.
sounds like you might win the lottery OP. dont fumble it.

>>34326833
OP you sound like an undeserving faggot, do her a favour and turn her down

>>34327657
If you're so sure this woman is so ugly, why even ask in this thread wether or not you should go?
Seems like you got it all figured out even before you asked the question

Today her sweat pants showed off her legs.
They're not shaven.
They're hairier than mine.

I'm just gonna go on the date and then turn her down gently..

Also looking at her up close just now when she asked me a question she clearly has a bit of a mustache too.

She's just too unattractive for me.

>>34327263
can you elaborate

>>34326833
>But on the other hand I'm not attracted or really interested in her either.
You might become interested once you spend some more time together and get to know her.

>>34330645
Just tell them what you like.
I got my wife to stop wearing this terrible gold eyeshadow because I told her she looked better without it. Same thing for with clothes. If I feel her I don't like something she generally won't wear it. If I say I do like something, it pushes what she does or likes in that direction.
You just need to read the person a bit and see what reinforcement is most effective. Just start casually and don't insult.

don't listen to the incels here, go with your gut. she seems like a mess by your description unfortunately.

>>34326833
Shoot her a text and say something came up, you can't make it.

>>34326833
You're being neurotic. Just go on the date. If its fun, keep doing it. If its not, say "Thanks for the date but I'm not feeling it". People do this all the time. It isn't a big deal at all.

>>34326833
Dating a chick you're ambivalent about is actually ideal because you won't really give a shit about impressing her.
This will make you more laid back and relaxed during the date, which will make her feel more comfortable and probably cause her to enjoy your company more.
I just got back from a 2 PM late lunch date with a very chinky looking Vietnamese grad student, and we both had a great time. We're going to dinner next week.
When I first asked her out, I didn't care if she was gonna text me back. I didn't care how it was going to go.
I admit I care a bit now because we seem to be developing some actual chemistry, but the goal for a first date should be minimal pressue conversation and/or shared activity. Evaluate your vibes first, then worry about romance later.

>>34326833
be a man of you word, next time just say how you feel "im interested but no promises" or something like that

>>34327203
you sound like a HUGE faggot tbqh