>>34327720
Don't do anything retarded because you're going through an early midlife crisis you dumbass

>will I be much happier when I'm older having built a career and family?
You will certainly be less miserable than you would be if you ruined your life to live some retarded fantasy that won't be anywhere as good as you've got in your head right now.

The perfect cure for not doing stupid shit is remember that all your fantasies are disappointing when you actually do them in real life. Every single one. Even that hot orgy with 20 women you were dreaming of.

Or maybe also the van life thing. Yes I know a lot of them are losers but ive been really attracted to the idea of selling most my assets, renovating a van, and then just moving to a tropical place and working as a bartender and then doing whatever I want in my free time, I don't need much. I love the sound of this honestly, feels like peak adventure, but ngl most of the people I know who have done this have rich parents or did it for like a year before moving back in with their parents. Maybe it is just a dumb dream but when I think about it I can't imagine how I couldnt love it

>go on holiday by yourself
>fuck a few sluts
>start to feel hollow
>go home

>>34327720
you sound like you lack stimulation or lack something to be truly immersed in. I'm in the same boat. constantly thinking about what if. the only time I'm truly happy is when my mind is 100% engaged in something.
and the reality is, there is always a hotter girl. you have to learn to be content with the one your with (assuming she's right for you) and learn to overcome lust for the benefits of commitment.

>>34327771
continuing on, but literally my girl is hotter than both in the picture but I want them more than I want her because of the constant desire for stimulation not even to mention the fact I have ED rn from a fucking pelvic issue atm
this is just how men are. it's never going away so you need to learn to not act on the thoughts. you never will grow up either btw. in your head you'll be 18 forever, but the body just gets older

Any guy who stays in anything or does anything he doesnt like is just a coward. You're afraid of being judged, being disliked, being vulnerable etc. Be a man and have the balls to do what you want and when you want to do it. You're not hurting anyone by quitting your job, youre not a bad person for leaving a relationship you don't care for. You're a coward for doing anything that isnt a "hell yes" to YOU

probably dont abandon kids if you have em though.

>>34327886
>youre not a bad person for leaving a relationship you don't care for.
You absolutely are a bad person for abandoning your life long partner because you're hitting a midlife crisis and selfishly want to indulge in hollow pleasure at the cost of everyone who loves you and relies upon you.

Your actions have consequences for other people. Fucking imagine how your parents, siblings, spouse, and children must feel when you just fucking abandon them to go fuck some sluts in a shithole.The hell hole you'll throw them in because of your impulsive decisions.
Imagine the regret when you're 50 and you have nothing and nobody.
Imagine the regret when you're 80, and the other senior at the nursing home have family visiting while you're spending the final years of your life with no one to love you or take care of you.

>>34327901
Overthinking. No one is saying to do obvious hurtful shit to others but being like
>huh I dont like this job guess I should leave
And then thinking
>omg omg if I do then my wife will hate me and my kids will starve and I'll die alone
Is female mother anxiety brain and the cause of most mental illness. Stop thinking and just trust your gut, you'll learn whatever lessons you need to learn. Don't you have the faith in yourself to figure things out no matter what?

>>34327720
you'll be happier. stick it out, if this girl is the one. imagine being 45 and being able to go enjoy tropical beaches and come home to the love of your life, versus nothing. All the beaches in the world don't mean shit if you don't have a nice comfy home to return to.

Why does everyone on /adv/ think you need to be in a relationship to be happy? There are people who aren't unhappy for a second when single, it can be a very nice life

>>34327720
>I've been really wanting to run away from it all and just become a beach bum
Come on. At least be a little original in your fantasies

>>34327720
You don't have to do the girl-chasing life until you're 40 man I think 1-2 years of that shit will be enough for you to decide.

>>34327720
It's possible that you will feel like shit.

I'm 30 now. I completed a medicine degree, started residency and nearly killed myself from abuse in it. I can't go back to medicine, it would be like going back to an abusive partner. That means I have nothing. I don't have what you have. I am a bum. And on top of that I never learned the socialization skills or to deal with the anxiety of meeting people and behaving in an expected way. My upbringing is like being an alien in this country.

I think you should go and fool around, it's important for you, you will definitely regret not doing it because the window closes. Good fucking call that you're aware of it. I wish you well. Maybe wishing you well is a way to make sense of me having to forego those things. This world is cruel.