>be me >mid-late 20s, tested 145+ a while back (WAIS, not meme test), always knew I saw/thought about things differently >decent looking, fit enough, stable job, can hold conversations on surface level >but every relationship or even promising date just... fades I just feel so disconnected.Talking to most women I've dated feels like I'm gently steering a conversation with a pet cute, affectionate, they respond to tone and attention, but there's no real back and forth depth. I end up carrying everything, explaining my day without boring them, picking topics they'll understand, laughing at the right times. They seem happy, they get attached fast, tell me I'm "so sweet" and "thoughtful." But inside I'm dying a little more each time because I realize I'm basically babysitting an emotional companion instead of sharing a life with an equal. I've tried everything to make it work: - dumbing myself down completely (works short-term, but I feel hollow and resentful after a month) - finding "smart" women (either taken, or the spark isn't there because personalities clash in other ways they tend to be so neurotic ) - lowering standards to just "nice and kind" (zero intellectual/emotional reciprocity, I feel like the adult in the room 24/7) cont...
The loneliness is the worst part. Physically I'm not alone, but mentally/emotionally I might as well be on another planet. Sex happens, cuddling happens, but the moment I try to share something real it's met with blank stares, "that's deep lol," or changing the subject to drama at work. I don't want to be the guy who looks down on people. I hate that I sometimes catch myself thinking "she's like a happy golden retriever" during dates. It makes me feel like a monster. But pretending forever isn't sustainable either I burn out, get distant, they sense it, and it ends. So /adv/, serious question from someone who's tired: How do high-IQ (or just very cerebral) people cope with this forever? Do you just accept shallow relationships and find meaning elsewhere (hobbies, friends, work)? Do you stay single and deal with the isolation? Have any of you found a way to rewire so the intellectual gap doesn't feel so crushing? Or is it actually cope and I should just accept I'll always feel this alone? Feels bad man. Do I go to med school hoping it sorts out the normies and I'm surrounded women filtered by the Mcat or something IDK
you aren't that far off. i met my wife almost immediately after starting medical school. up until then i was an incel who thought I'd be alone forever.
>soft gore OP image>glowspeak-ridden vent post
>>34329024nice>>34329013don't overthinkand yeah, if a relationship feels like you're working in the coal mines, don't keep doing that shitit's suppose to enhance your life ultimatelyrelationship should take care of itself if you're living "properly", whatever that means, it depends on what you want
>>34329013>Do I go to med school hoping it sorts out the normies and I'm surrounded women filtered by the McatThat's what I would do in your shoes. I got 162 on the WAIS and met my wife in grad school. Happily married 29 years now.
>>34329012IQ is the brightness of your intelligence flashlight. It helps you see things clearly. However, it only describes the brightness, and not the spread of the beam, or the flashlight's battery life. If those are low, you might be able to focus and see certain things more clearly than others, but not a lot of things at once or over a long period of time. Also, in a particularly dark room, your bright light makes it harder to adjust to see things outside the beam; a dimmer light might be better in those instances.
Yeah I can relate OP. Believe me though - med school is not the solution: I'm in med school and I've been out with a couple of girls on my course. The majority of women, even high-achieving ones, are unable to engage in independent, rational thought. That's just how their minds work - they have an inherent desire to fit in. Therefore, the socially acceptable group opinion comes first.However, I have met women at uni who can hold stimulating convos, instead of just talking about other people, drama, celebrities and other kike shit like TV shows. However, most of these women tend to be highly neurotic, which puts me off . Right now, im considering going out with a girl like this - I think she's just lonely and having a partner will 'fix her.'You've got two options - either settle for a dumb qt and feel like you're babysitting a pet or try to find your intellectual 'equal'. The latter is infinitely more difficult but will be much more rewarding.
>>34330255completely wrong, sorry to be blunt.you are supposed to seize a woman, marry her, and mold her to what she is supposed to be. What you're advocating is passivity.>babysitting a dumb qtdon't do that. you're supposed to force her to analyze her life and beliefs until they match up with yours, then you both can proceed together>try to find an intellectual equalimpossible, the point is to mold them, they'll never be like you
>>34329012the WAIS is indeed a meme test that only measures how good are you at answering the WAIS.
>>34330473I'm not advocating passivity. I'm saying that the majority of women are retarded and can't hold a conversation unless its about drama. In my reply, I suggest finding an intelligent woman. It goes without saying that she should also be compassionate, kind and caring.> mold themSorry but you can't increase somebody's intelligence or make them into a more compassionate person. If her only defect is neuroticism, you can change that by simply being with them.
>>34330473>t KHHV
>>34329012I'm 160 (WAIS) and desu I've just been near-constantly stoned since I became an adult. Went to college, grad school and couldn't deal with most people there except for like a cadre of math/physics/chemistry students and faculty. I now work for a F500 company with a salary that'll set me up to retire by 40. My biggest problem isn't finding someone to date (although I think we do share similar detachments) but more so that everything is just so much easier than I anticipate. I've always been tuned to extremes so it took an embarrassingly long time to find out that I just needed to put in a modest amount of effort in anything to get really good results, which, in turn, caused me to completely devalue most shit people view worthy of attainment. At the end of the day, what I and those i keep around myself want most is to be unencumbered by the trivia of everyday life. I can go indefinitely without play. I can get play tonight. Either way, if I'm doing something, I want it to be because I want to do it. I don't go into relationships wanting an intellectual equal because the rest of my life is structured so that I don't need that.All this is to say I wouldn't worry about finding relationships (right now) because if a perceived intellectual gap is that big an issue, there are probably other elements of your life that are affecting this perception. Not to be all "focus on yourself" but do try to build a fulfilling life elsewhere and I think it would reward you more than putting all your intellectual stimulation onto one person.
IQ is a meme metric if ur fluid intelligence is really so high go do eSports let's see how you do
>>34331466>etric if ur fluid intelligence is really so high go do eSports let's see how you dolmao REALLY
>>34331733Time to get processing-speed-mogged
