So I recently started dating this girl. I called her tonight to say goodnight and we were talking. We had plans to hang out tomorrow to a restaurant and she said “if I see you tomorrow because idk what time you get out of work it might be too late”. I told her I would see her regardless because we said earlier today that if we had time we’d go to the restaurant and if not we’d just chill anyway and she said “I just don’t want you to get sick of me”. I kind of took this as her gently telling me she dosent want to see me tomorrow but idk if I’m overthinking or not. I just find it weird that it seemed like we would definitely hang out but now she said “IF we hang out” and “I don’t want you to get sick of me” makes it feel like she’s gently telling me she dosent want to hang out
It's typical cut and dry bullshit reality throws at people. Just try to be happy with yourself first and this type of crap won't get to you.
>>34329371I get you but you didn’t really answer my question.
>>34329380Pick a thought in your head and see if it'll work out for this situation. If it doesn't, it is what it is.
hey OP zach writes retarded.I don't like this shit either OP, but you're always better off not crashing out about it. Tomorrow is tomorrow, you've still got the day after, hell it's not even the weekend yet. I know how time can be so slow when she's away and so fast when she's there, but you have to stabilize yourself. Definitely stay off /adv/. do a hobby you've been putting off, read, anything.to respond to the "i dont want you to get sick of me", just make it a fun response, nothing too serious or explanatory. something fun like "well I wouldn't know since I'm usually the last one to catch a cold."
>>34329415We have both said the “sick of me” a few times so it’s not new, we joke about that because we do see each other a lot like almost every day but I do tend to really analyze things that people say. I just thought it was weird that she said “if we hang out” when earlier today the plans seemed pretty set in stone and I already mentioned that I would probably be out early. She did say we can try another place out but I feel like she only said that to be polite
>>34329420yeah well she chose you in the first place. you should choose you too. maybe she feels like she's not enough for you, why think that she's rejecting you? It's pragmatic, but you should try being ridiculously impersonal to these things. think that everyone wants t be with you.
>>34329426I’m ngl I feel like she’s out of my league. I’m not trying to simp but she’s extremely pretty so I feel like I’m subconsciously waiting for the day she loses interest in me. Do you think I’m just overthinking?
>>34329415Isn't what I said usually what it comes down to though?
>>34329430OP if you act like she is out of your league she may just be that, but I doubt that. You need to believe in yourself.
>>34329365she sounds insecure and like she wants you to say "no, i won't get sick of you. it's okay if you have to cancel, i won't be upset, but i really want to see you." especially if she's said this kind of shit before, i think she's probably fishing for confirmation of interest. or maybe she's just tired and trying to soft launch flaking, which isn't a sure sign of anything bad. i think you'll probably be fine regardless
