Hello! I’m a 20 year old woman, and I’ve never had a boyfriend, I’ve never kissed someone, and I’m still a virgin. Im literally a loser girl help.The thing is, I don’t think I’m unattractive. I actually get told I’m pretty quite often. I have a nice body, I put effort into my appearance, I make sure I always smell good, and I generally take care of myself. But for some reason, it just hasn’t happened for me yet.I’ve realized I have a very specific "type." I’m really into guys who are cute, sweet, and nerdy the shy types. But in today’s world, I feel like I have no idea where they are hiding or how to even approach them. Since they’re shy and I’m inexperienced idk what to do I’m starting to feel a bit lost. Is it "weird" to be my age with zero experience in this dating climate? To the girls who like the same kind of guys, or to the guys who fit that description:* Where do you guys actually hang out (besides your smelly rooms)?* How do I approach a shy guy without scaring him?* What can I do to make myself more approachable to that specific "nerdy/shy" crowd? (Like actually tell me what you guys like in appearance and behavior) To be more specific about the dynamic I'm looking for: I’ve realized I naturally lean toward being the more assertive person. I’m really into guys who are a bit more submissive or shy, and I actually enjoy taking the lead and being the dominant one. I love the feeling of making a guy a little nervous in a cute way, but since I’m still new to this, I’m worried about coming on too strong and accidentally scaring them off. I'm pretty chronically online myself, I really want to find someone who gets that world, but I'm also just ready to finally feel what it's like to actually have someone of my own.I’d love some advice on this please helppppp
Well acktually as a turbo virgin nerd I'm here waiting for you princess. May I bring my maiden of honor? A figurine of Genshin Impact with me along with thy body pillow. I'll tell you I'll make sure when we meet I'll put on so much axe body spray you'll know I'm the real deal princess. Afterwards we'll go to my house and watch the 29th episode of My Little Pony. Hold on tight because I am showing up in the GMC white van my mom gave me in 1989 I never cleaned.
>>34331985prove it and post your body then i'll give you the information you seek
>>34331985I'm only ever in my smelly room and girls aren't allowed in here. Mom said.
>>34331985The only times I am in public are to take BJJ, or dance class, or to go to a coworking space. Generally, I avoid people as much as I can.
Well gee you all as the normal guy in the room. I'll say I'm quite famished with this female. I'll say I'm a 5.0 GPA doctorate at 25 with a job working as a doctor in the local hospital. Feast your eyes on my 300k a month income and my 6 pack abs.
>Where do you guys actually hang outI like live music so I'll leave my house sometimes to go to a concert. I sometimes walk around my neighborhood but outside of those 2 activities, I don't leave home but to go to work and then come right back>How do I approach a shy guy without scaring him?You could start with a compliment - it's pretty harmless but if you enjoy taking the lead you could even go as far as just asking for his number. It's happened to me several times and I'm nerdy/shy>What can I do to make myself more approachable to that specific "nerdy/shy" crowd?Just don't be ugly, which it sounds like you aren't, smile, and seem like you're very happy to be acknowledged by him and I'm sure for most guys who don't already have a gf, this will workAre you open to online date? (asking for a friend)
>>34332081I’m Latina tho
>>34332044It’s so cool that you dance and do BJJ, I think girls would love that. You should put yourself out there a little more ;D
>>34332174Why does that matter? lol
>>34332181Ill try my best to answer you genuinely as im bored and want to type.>Where do you guys actually hang outI stay alone currently. Mostly just go to work and play music, draw, and collect art books and photo books from Japan through eBay.>How do I approach a shy guy without scaring him?A shy guy will always be kinda awkward, I think best option (if your trying to cold approach) would be to just try and talk to him about his interests (music, games, tv, anime, etc) most nerds will spill the beans on their hobbies.>What can I do to make myself more approachable to that specific "nerdy/shy" crowd?Question of the century for everyone, scholars have thought about how to make oneself more appealing to what they want to "attract" for decades. Try to think "what would the person I want to attract want in someone" and decide from there.Every girl Ive ever dated was when I was In high school or when the one time I dated through online (don't recommend you do that, I think internet relationships turn both parties psycho after awhile) I think what kinda guy you want is not "D&D neckbeard" and more like "soft glasses guy" and to find those types you might have to go find guys at book stores, anime conventions, "alt" music shows, or if your still in school some club. I think right now it's pretty hard to find anyone, especially nerdy people outside. I think the internet definitely did severe damage to this style of man/woman. All I can say is if you see something you like push yourself to talk to them, treat it as if you didn't do that you failed everything. You have to WANT to talk to the person.
when I was 20 I'd be in class, waiting around between classes, or at home. I didn't really go anywhere. I guess it's been like that for a very long time now, replacing school with work...>How do I approach a shy guy without scaring him?man up and talk to him, ask him about his nerdy ass stuff, and when he spills the spaghetti about bionicle lore of some obscure mmorpg he plays you'll know pretty quick if you can tolerate him or not
>anime retards actually fall for itLike clockwork.
>>34332211Thank you for answering I read every single word, and honestly, your response was so beautifully written and thoughtful and I’m definitely going to take everything you said into consideration, but honestly, I’m just going to spill the beans here because I’m going insane lmao I just want to find a cute, shy boy and absoluteley pamper him.I’ve been single my entire life and I am so ready to change that. Contrary to what most guys think, girls like me actually do exist, girls who find shy, nerdy guys way more attractive than the typical flirty and athletic types. Like, I need my shy nerdy boy so bad I’m going to explode lamoI’m naturally assertive and I have zero issues making the first move. In fact, I want to be the one to approach him, make him blush, and make him feel a little shy and nervous in a cute way. I just want to have someone to hug and shower with kisses, but the struggle is real I can’t find them in the wild anywhere.It actually makes me really sad that in my daily life, I never run into the kind of guy I’m willing to give my all to. I’m literally right here, ready to take the lead and be the best girlfriend ever, but it feels like they’re all hiding. Also, I think that your interest in music, drawing, and collecting is sooo cute. Definitely keep going with that!
>>34332182First of all, thank you for your first answer it was exactly what I needed to hear. Also, I really appreciate that you’re cool with me being Latina. Online relationships can be tough, especially with the distance since I'm all the way in Latin America haha, but it honestly makes me happy to know people like you exist. The fact that you have hobbies like music is a huge plus. I actually think it’s so cool that you have a hobby like going to live shows I feel like a lot of guys nowadays lack real interests and to me there’s nothing cuter or more attractive than a man who is actually passionate about his hobbies, Im sure I wouldn’t be the only girl who finds that incredibly attractive, hot and cute. Even if the distance is a factor, I’m glad we could connect here. Thanks again for being so nice :D
>>34332286Now you could answer my question. Where do nerdy girls hang out?
>>34332299Haha honestly I do go out! I love experiencing the world and I’m pretty happy talking to people. But I definitely (most of the time) I have my 'rotten girl' side too I can easily turn into a total hermit in my room for days, catching up on anime, reading manga, and scrolling through the internet If you’re wondering where to find us, I usually hang out at conventions, art classes, or even just at the mall. This is why I emphasize hobbies so much. If you have an actual interest and you engage with it in the real world, you’re bound to meet people who like the same things. For example, since I love to draw, I’ve met so many cool people just by being in art classes, but to be honest, I haven't found 'the one' there yet because my class is literally 99% women. And for the few guys there, none of them are really my type…they don't have that specific 'shy and nerdy' vibe I’m looking for. But for you guys, I think it’s a great strategy because you’d be in a place where nerdy girls are actually hanging out!!!If talking to 'normal' people at a party or a mall feels too intimidating, my best advice is to lean into your hobbies. It’s so much easier to strike up a conversation when you already have common ground. At least in my experience, that’s where the best connections happen. Of course, I can’t speak for every girl out there, this is just my perspective. Just wish more guys engaged with their hobbies so I could approach them and eat them
Nerdy guys will probably only approach what they think is attainable, which actually puts you in a dangerous position. They are obviously looking for someone they are attracted to, but they need to also be "realistic". This translates to looking for women with self esteem issues or that they feel are isolated. Sometimes its a woman who they think they can get at a "discount". Its kind of hard to put into a short form neat paragraph and really, you could make an essay on how some males value women. What I really am trying to say is, dont go for shy guys. Shy guys are not nice guys. If anything, a lot of them are self aware enough about some of their negative traits to consider them flaws but not willing to actually fix them.
>>34331985No man will ever love you fucking ugly bitch.
>>34332181It's not really that easy. I can't date anyone at my hobbies because if it goes bad, I would have to leave. My options is dating apps, and I don't have any decent pics of myself. A woman can just take a picture of her face and body, but a man has to show some fake Instagram-esque lifestyle.
>>34331985>I naturally lean toward being the more assertive persontake it from an oldfag that has hundreds of broads under my belt. You need to QUIT that shit. You will be miserable being the masculine one in a relationship and it will drive you mad. >>I’d love some adviceFocus on being feminine and nurturing. Thats all you need. MEN will pursue you. In a relationship with them it will feel natural and you won't run yourself into the ground in complete frustration.>Attractive>Affectionate>Attentive>Appreciativethis is what men are seekingA man doesn't give a shit about your job, your Pokemon game, your autism...focus on being a WOMANDO NOT cater to these passive FAGGOTS. This will probably mean you won't find any men your age or under 30.
>>34331985>* How do I approach a guy?just look at a man. literally thats all you have to do>* What can I do to make myself more approachable?show up. thats itSeeking out low-effort dorks because you fear rejection is a sure fire way for you to end up a bipolar manic depressive that is a full blown butch lesbian in 4 years.
>>34332286>the kind of guy I’m willing to give my all toeverything you've posted in this thread is garbage. You're a woman. You have no idea what you want. Even if you did, you would fuck it up. What you want is a cat. Go to the humane society and get a cat. When you're ready to accept life as it is, you'll quit being a retard and focus on being a WOMAN.
>>34331985OP what do you get out of these dumb LARPs? Seriously. Everyone here knows that you aren't an actual girl but some middle-aged autist pretending to be a le quirky virgin girl who wants a shy nerdy boyfriend. Those don't exist, even quirky virgin geek girls like popular outgoing guys. If you were genuinely a girl that wanted one, you wouldn't be asking where to find them with the implicit subtext that none of the anons here come within a country mile of being worthy, you'd be asking anons if anyone here wants to date you.TL;DR: Piss off you freak and shove your demoralization shit where the sun don't shine.
>>34332445Are you retarded, do you not realize that if OP wasn't a man roleplaying, she would be the female version of what you described?
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>>34331985I'm open to chatFromSunToMoon
>Where do you guys actually hang out (besides your smelly rooms)?Out in the hills and in libraries. I only visit civilization to purchase supplies for living innahills. I dont have a room. >How do I approach a shy guy without scaring him?Try not to make it too obvious that you like him specifically because hes shy. That will make his shyness worse>What can I do to make myself more approachable to that specific "nerdy/shy" crowd? (Like actually tell me what you guys like in appearance and behavior)I mean i like anything but if im looking for a potential gf i dont like immodesty. Like crop tops are hot as fuck and i wont complain about oogling them but it usually tells me shes a little bit of a hoe which makes her harder for me to approach since i just know shes probably got more experience than me
>>34331985>where all the nerdy guys hiding?At home, you dumb broad
>>34331985Try university in a STEM program. You'll have a feast.>How do I approach a shy guy without scaring him?Its not the approach that matters, you'll probably make them nervous since guys like that aren't used to talking to a cute and will think too hard, and you can't think and talk so they'll probably be awkward, don't take it as disinterest and maybe tease them about it, if you can soothe their insecurity then you'll have a feast
you could take a community college class and probably find someone. i met my wife in medical school
>>34333144>>34333166>>34333177these sequential digits and no replies?todays generation is hopeless
>>34333289The projection here is crazy lmao. Just because you’ve spent so much time in your own bubble that you’ve convinced yourself women are a different species, doesn’t mean I’m a 'LARP’ It’s honestly funny how you to claim we don't exist just because girls like me aren't interested in you. I don't need to ask anons to date me because I’m not looking for a sea of bitter guys who get aggressive the second a girl describes her type and it happens to not be them.And yeah yeah I know this is just some low tier rage bait, and it’s honestly kind of cute how much effort you put into it. Since you went through all that trouble just to get my attention, I’ll give you a reply. And honestly I don't care if you want to believe I'm a guy if anything, it just proves I have more character than you ever will. But keep writing those little essays, it's actually pretty adorable. Stay mad and cope harder cutie.
>>34334509Haha honestly, the library/hills vibe is a massive win. And I appreciate the actual advice. The bit about not making it too obvious is a gold mine. It’s refreshing to find someone here who actually knows how to talk to a woman without having a total meltdown. You definitely seem like the type I’d actually enjoy crossing paths with. Thank youu king <3
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