I love my girlfriend so much, why did I cheat on her? Now that I'm about to lose her, I realize what I'm losing. 3 years, gone. What am I to do after her? I feel like my heart is going to break from the thought of losing her, especially like this.
Stop crying about it like a little bitch. A lot of guys have side bitches or fuck on the side every once in a while. Grow a pair.
>>34332361She is my everything and I fucked it up, for side pussy.
>>34332371So? Who says she needs to know? She obviously wasn't fulfilling your needs if you needed to find a side bitch.
>>34332358Man up and tell her, I’ll be worse if she finds out by herself
>>34332377She will most likely find out. It's mostly likely going to be soon. Someone who hates me has proof and has said she's going to tell my gf. She knows where me and my gf lives.
>>34332407It'll be over. I'm trying to find the best time and way.
>>34332411You need to tell her the truth before she finds out from someone else. If you wait, she’ll question you and say why you didn't come clean sooner.Just tell her the complete truth. It was a moment of weakness, and you deeply regret it. Let her know that even though you messed up and were with this other girl, it made you realize that it wasn't what you wanted and it didn't feel right. You wanted to be honest because you realized that hiding it was the wrong choice.But most importantly, you have to let her know that at the end of the day, the decision is hers. If she wants to walk away, you have to accept it and respect her choice, even if it hurts. You owe her that much after what happened.I’m telling you this because, I’m a woman, and if my boyfriend ever cheated on me, this is exactly what I would want to hear.
>>34332438I didn't come clean because of how bad it is. It was sorta in her face without her knowing the first time when we first started dating, then recently I cheated again. How can I move on after?
>>34332451If I’m being completely honest with you, you are the problem here. You’re latching onto a relationship that, based on how you describe it, seems like it’s already over for you.You’ve cheated twice now, which shows you don't actually want to be in this relationship you just like the idea of having a girlfriend like her.My biggest recommendation is to tell her the truth and take a break or just end it. I highly doubt she’d want to stay with someone who has done this twice. As a woman, I’m telling you… give her a break and let her go dude (you need that too) You need to find someone you actually like enough to never feel the need to cheat on them in the first place. Trust
>>34332411>Someone who hates me has proof and has said she's going to tell my gf. She knows where me and my gf lives.Damn nigga, you truly are retarded if you didn't know how to cover your tracks. It's over. You better hope that side pussy was worth it and she'll let you keep hitting it lmfao.
>>34332468But what if I do truly love her?
>>34332531You will spare her the pain and embarrassment of being attached to an impulsive retard who can't keep it in his pants.
>>34332531You don't
>>34332371Me looking at this thread pussyless, hugless, handholdless for nearly 2 years and I'm about to turn fucking 30 in a couple months
>>34332358The difference between when men cheat and when women cheat is men feel guilt and women do not.Men blame themselves and women blame men. Men blame themselves when they cheat and when their woman cheats. When a woman cheats and it is discovered she blames the man and he grovels and begs for forgiveness. When a man cheats and it is discovered he grovels and begs her not to leave.A man is afraid a woman is not.
>>34332358>I love my girlfriend so muchI know. Most people will tell you that you couldn't have loved her though. I believe you though.>Why did I cheat on her?Impulse, that's basically it. You hit a stressful low in life, your brain ran to sex and dopamine for the outlet. For whatever reason you and your GF got a communication barrier. Bottom line is, you were unable to tell her you were stressed and feeling down and in need of comfort sexually. (A lot of fake hard asses don't like admitting weakness to women, they get scared and worried they will appear weak and lose respect points from the woman. So they pretend to be stoic or hardcore and posture like dickheads). So the sex with GF and you never happened or slowed down and you got more and more stressed and then in one impulsive opportunity, you broke and went on autopilot and chased an orgasm with a girl you don't actually love. >I feel like my heart is going to break from the thought of losing her>Especially like thisI know. So the only way to stand a chance about saving things is unmask and admit what you are. Show her every inch of your shame, explain to her you are scared and stressed very often and you are dependent on sex to take the edge off, and you wanted more from her but were too afraid to tell her, or, when you tried, your pride and ego wouldn't let you as it it sincerely and vulnerably, you became combative and haughty and bullheaded because you were in the defensive and felt weak so you wanted to pretend to be strong. You got nothing left to lose anyway. Might as well be honest for once and see what comes out of that. Because right now, honesty is the only thing that has a chance to save things. Especially ugly honesty. Because at least she can trust that and work with that.People who leave cheaters don't leave because of the cheating itself, that's only secondary to the problem. The main problem is the cheater can't be honest. So be honest
>>34332651>The difference between when men cheat and when women cheat is men feel guilt and women do not.Men blame themselves and women blame men.If you actually read the thread you'd know this isn't objectively true. I can find you a man who blames the woman for his cheating right now. Here:>>34332377
>>34332414The best time is usually never. No reason to mess her up because you messed up. How is that fair, to hurt people more?
>>34332671I think I use sex for my insecurities. I havent seen myself as attractive for a very long time, so I wanted to go out and prove to myself that I can be seen as desirable. Not blaming it on my gf, but it really never felt like I was desired by her for sexual intimacy. But everything else was good in our relationship. I forgot how shitty I felt after cheating the first time, but now possibly the reality of my actions will be brought up seriously, and I will have to pay if so. I'm in a very rough spot in my life right now with depression and insecurity. I am broke and jobless, on the verge of suicide. My girlfriend is the only thing keeping me sane and warm. She has been the most amazing girlfriend a guy can ask for. Supportive and accepting and sweet. For being honest, I will. But I cant afford too right now. I got laid off and she pays half of the apartment, her leaving right now will be bad. So I was going to wait until I got back on my feet before telling her. But now with this situation with this other girl threatening to tell my gf, I don't know if I do it now. Idk if I even want to tell her, preferably I want to get away from this and change and never cheat again. I was thinking maybe getting us to move apartments since we haven't signed our lease yet. I'm just not sure when this other chick is gonna pop up. My preference is keeping my gf and changing though and hoping this all falls in the past.
hope you're sitting down for this when Jesus found the prostitute at the well, he stopped everyone from killing her. but he also insisted that she never sin again. that's how it works OP. God knew you would eventually sin, and badly. he knows you cheated. but. if you turn away from your sin, and go on the opposite (good) direction, there is eternal life, and god will be with you.that's really it. nothing else in this thread means anything, if you don't understand this.
>>34333940Maybe you do use it for insecurities maybe you don't. Here's the thing about insecurity, bud. Everyone has one. This idea that we're supposed to one day overcome every insecurity we may have in our lives.. it's bullshit. It doesn't happen, and isn't supposed to happen. So even if you have an insecurity where you use sex to cope, so what? That's alright. That's not where you fucked up. The fuck up was how you channeled that insecurity, which you already know was wrong so I'll spare you the lecture.>Not blaming it on my gf, but it really never felt like I was desired by her.You're not blaming her, I get you. As for not feeling desired, it's important to feel desired in a relationship, man or woman. For some it's more important, others less important. In marriage preparation and couples counselling, they talk you through picrelated. 5 love languages.Everyone wants to receive 1 of these the most. Everyone is amazing at giving 1 of these the most. So for you, physical touch is your #1 receiving style. And words of affection #2 I guess right? I bring it up because that's the sort of structure communication should take. If she were made aware of what your needs are, she can accommodate. And if you learn what her 'love language' is, you give that to her in return. That's how the setup for successful relationships work.Had you both known and practiced this, the cheating thing could've been avoided, who knows. But if you do get caught or if you tell the truth and she decided to stay, do yourself both a favour and learn this shit. The 5 love styles, it's the first line method to save entire marriages from crumbling. And I promise you, it works. Keep that info in the back of your head for the future. And look man, if this shit goes south and she leaves. Don't go killing yourself over it. There's value in you, even if you did wrong. Because if you live to do better, your knowledge of what it's like to do wrong can help others avoid similar mistakes
A lot of people will come at me for this but I will always believe, to the day I die, that women only cheat on men they don't love but men can cheat on women they still do love. Men and women are different, get over it.I believe you when you say you love her OP, but love or not you breached her trust. It's the same category of thing as stealing from a close family member or taking credit for a friendly coworker's project. You might still love them and want to do anything for them, but it's forever a mark against you in their mind. Some people can move on from that, some people can't. You also have to consider that her satisfaction in the relationship is also a factor here. She might already be looking for a way out for all you know, and this could be what she needed to take the plunge.My advice is to tell her and break up. I know right now you're a hobosexual >>34333940 but you should start making moves to crash at a friend's place, a relative, anyone. After I confessed to my ex that I had seen prostitutes several times behind her back for a year, I moved out and crashed at my business partner's place for seven months. Just gotta do what you need to do man. I groveled to stay in the relationship but looking back that was NOT the move, I wish I had broken cleanly. If she breaks up with you over this then consider it her final word and don't embarrass yourself by clinging on. Once she hops on some rebound dick a few weeks or months afterwards you'll feel less pathetic this way.Only saying this because from what you wrote it seems inevitable that she'll find out. Your life is about to blow up, but it's possible to stick the landing and build back up. I did it.
>>34332651All cheaters should equally die. Men always excuse their lust. Truly lesser beings. Men cheat more. Loyalty is something men do not understand like honor or sacrifice.
>>34332358>I love my girlfriend so much, why did I cheat on her?Because you are fundamentally a bad person who hurts other people and doesn't care.
My situation in reverse right now. Gf admitted to cheating and is begging for forgiveness.Still have to throw away 6 years of my life.
>>34337273>>34337656Shut the fuck up, you vengeful bratWrath is a worse sin than lust and will earn you greater torture in hell
>>34337980>Muh bibleRelax reverendYou don't need a book to tell you that murder is worse than cheatingI don't know about killing cheaters, but I do know that I hope they lose everything. Unfortunately, the world doesn't work this way. And those that are winning will keep on winning, and those that are losing are likely to keep losing or just stay in the same rut they're inReverend blackie
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