I want to go back. To my old life. I find this whole thing extremely tiring, mentally and emotionally. I crave solitude and she just won't let me be by myself. I tried talking to her and explaining that I want to be alone sometimes and not have to respond to her texts every 5 minutes. Doesn't matter, she just gets angry at me.Worst is that she's obsessed with me (for some reason) and keeps talking about getting married. How do I get out of this? I don't really know what to tell her, I don't have a reason to dump her other than the fact that I enjoy being a weird recluse and that i'd rather work on my hobbies. I'm honestly considering throwing my phone into a lake and driving far, far away.I know many of you are desperate for a relationship of any kind. I don't care. It was nice for a bit, but the novelty wore off. I don't want to be this chick's slave and emotional tampoon anymore.
>>34334374Idk, you could ask ChatGPT to write you a breakup script. But you seem kind of retarded too because you can just ignore her if she annoys you.
>>34334374How long have you been together? Is this your first girlfriend?It's not complicated at all, if you don't like how it's going then talk about it (which you did)If things don't get better, than tell her you want to leave and why. Listen to what she says and make a decision off of that.You sound like a bastard, a sad lonely bastard.
you need to figure out how to establish boundaries with her. this being your first gf, you're just discovering what amount of attention you are capable of providing, so it might take a bit more learning.for example, if she "needs" to see you every day but you need a day or two just to yourself, you need to communicate that to her clearly. if she doesn't like it and demands you compromise on this (or worse, starts using emotional manipulation like questioning whether you really love her or w/e), consider how that effects you long term. do you want to constantly be crumbling to this person's whims?im one of those never-gf-havers, but ive also been around plenty of friends to see and hear their problems. one of my close friends is currently going to couples counselling with his gf of 5 years. like you, he regularly laments feeling stifled and unfulfilled in life because of how emotionally demanding she is and how unstable she gets when he expresses wanting to spend more time alone or feeling more independent.this is the type of problem that leaves you in a miserable relationship (and eventually marriage if you bow to her pressure) tending to an emotionally immature person while resenting every minute of it.
>>34334652A pity you are a never-gf-haver. You have a remarkable maturity that would go very far in a secure stable relationship. I'm not OP btw, but I am married myself and I gotta say you got good insight
>>34334374Nice larp
>>34334374Don't get a clingy one next time.
>>34334374>I find this whole thing extremely tiring, mentally and emotionally.sounds like you have a girlfriend alrighthappy now, bitch?
>>34334719indeed
>>34334652It's much too late for that. We already live together. She moved into my place, and now she wants to go rent some other place together. Because as it stands, technically the place is in my name, but she wants a place that's OURS. I really don't want any of that, but I feel like I've been losing the willpower I used to have to actually go against her wishes. Because she just throws a tantrum and/or ignores me and treats me like shit until I apologize and do what she wants.I'm honestly at a loss because I don't think I have the courage to break up with her. And I like her as a person despite all this. I just wish I had just rejected her and kept living life at my own pace. But now I feel like I live my own life for someone else's sake.
>>34334374My life is an endless cycle of going back and forth between being single and longing for a gf and getting a gf and finding her annoying and wishing I could go back to my gymcel lifestyleI think if I could reliably find casual hookups I may feel differently but usually with those I end up pursuing a relationship with them
>>34337313>She moved into my place
>>34337313>going back and forth between being single and longing for a gf>>34337313>she wants a place that's OURSyou're both too old for "girlfriends"you need to either be> find a woman to marry and start a familyor> find a fuck buddy/whores
>>34337313>Because she just throws a tantrum and/or ignores me and treats me like shit until I apologize and do what she wants.I know this is going to sound like woman talk but its true. That's emotional abuse. She is wearing you down.>And I like her as a person despite all this.You and every other abuse victim says the same thing. You need to leave now before this gets worse.
>>34334374unforced error
>>34334374Just tell her she's smothering you
>>34337313WHY DID YOU LET THIS CONTROLLING IDIOT MOVE IN?WHY HAVEN'T YOU KICKED HER OUT AND CHANGED THE LOCKS?WHY ARE YOU A SPINELESS TARD? Holy shit.
>>34337313me againsounds like you've already taught her that her emotional outbursts work, so unless you grow a spine and actually start telling her no and standing by it, you can expect the same dynamic to play out for the rest of this relationship.>I feel like I've been losing the willpower I used to have to actually go against her wishes.just consider where this leads. if you keep capitulating, you will no longer be living your life, you will be living her life. renting a place together will lead to getting married given the way you bend to her, and if she wants to have kids it's a foregone conclusion that she'll get the babies she wants, too. literally sit down for 20-30 minutes and imagine this. does this make you feel good about a future with this person?
>>34334374subtle demotivational thread #553312334
