Am I stupid for expecting my girlfriend to surprise me and bring me joy? She keeps starting arguments with me, sitting there being butthurt and expecting me to make her feel better even though I can't, blowing up over tiny things and complaining to me about everything. If I have an issue with her she has temper tantrums where she screams an swears at me. I keep trying to get her to apologise for these things but she never does without me prompting her and puts in the bare minimum of effort - as in when I try to discuss it she gives 1 word answers 1 minute after the question. She gets butthurt if I mention our problems around other people though. She says she cares about me but she never shows it. Why is she even with me and why doesn't she just leave?I have been starting to resent her. I remember last year she forgot my birthday, she only got me something for Christmas late (a shirt) because she wanted to get the shirt too and match with me, and yesterday I asked her if she remembered my middle name and it turns out she forgot it. She likes to smoke weed and whenever she does she just sits there focussed entirely on herself and expects me to sit there with her. I keep putting up with her because I keep waiting for her to surprise me with a display of thoughtfulness and effort that balances out all the bad things she did but it never comes. It genuinely demotivates me in other areas of my life. Am I retarded? Are all women like this and I'm not doing it right? Is the life partner stuff just bullshit and I should keep women at an arm's length because they won't care about anything but themselves anyway?
>>34334755People don't fundamentally change at the drop of a hat and you're expecting your partner to be a completely different person because that's who you feel that you need. The better question might be why are you still with her? She's not he type of lover that you want nor does she seem to have that much emotional intelligence and just acts like a spoiled brat.If you're not happy and you're growing resentful the best thing you can do is just leave. There's no reason for you to stay other than emotional attachment. You can deal with some flaws and no one is perfect but she's clearly not fulfilling your needs.>Are all women likeNo. I think you should refocus your efforts into selection until you find someone with the qualities you need.
>>34334755Haha your girlfriend has ADHD.
>>34334755Adopt a cat, you fairy faggot
>>34334755>expecting my girlfriend to surprise me
>>34334755>expecting my girlfriend to bring me joy
>>34334841So what you're saying is women are for putting your weiner into and all their attempts to "connect" with you are actually a siren song leading you to your doom
>are all women like thisTo some degree the answer is yes. Your woman just sounds like the usual entitled weed smoking low impose control woman. People do not change if tell them to, they usually change because they want to become a better person. If your girl is not on a trajectory, without regards to you, to becoming a better person, you need to leave.
>>34334755Dealing with women as adult is futile.Try to deal with them as 6 yo and you will see how far you can go.
>>34334755>Am I stupidYes. Also extremely naive.>She gets butthurt if I mention our problems around other peopleAs she should. Your problems are nobody else's business.>I keep waiting for her to surprise me with a display of thoughtfulness and effortlol. lmao, even.>Am I retarded?Quite possibly. Also extremely naive.>Are all women like thisNo, but a fair number of them are.>Is the life partner stuff just bullshitNo. But you have to find the right woman, and apparently yours isn't one.
