My girlfriend and I have been dating for over half a year now and not soon after we met it was apparent our views were vastly different. I'm a libertarian chud and she's a socialist egalitarian who hangs around communists.She's my first girlfriend at the ripe old age of 24, and I'll admit I sort of forced a filter on myself to not be a giga chud in front of her whenever politics or racial issues were on the table, which makes me a tad bit uncomfortable.Despite those differences we do get along pretty well. We agreed to disagree for a while and not touch on those hot topics to try and manage a normal relationship. However anytime those discussions surface things get a little tense. Not in the sense of being aggressive toward each other, that was never an issue, but rather each of us take a step back and reevaluate the whole relationship.Currently, we're going through such a scenario, and I'm really thinking about our future and whether it's really worth dating someone you have to hold yourself back for in an attempt to avoid conflict.It's been proven over time we cannot simply just ignore certain things. We do love each other a lot and I'm really at a crossroads, because if this recurring friction continues I wager it will result in an inevitable breakup down the line anyway.My friends are all telling me it's not worth it, what do you guys think? Have you seen or experienced first hand a relationship where a political divide is present? How did it turn out?
>>34336711>Have you seen or experienced first hand a relationship where a political divide is present? How did it turn out?We're happily married. Learn how not to bring things up. It's a vital life skill.
>>34336754To what extent do you guys disagree? Because having a mismatch of core values can be a massive issue
>>34336711>I'm a libertarian chudYou need to change this. At least you are self-aware enough to know you are a raging moron.
>>34336711who gives a shit as long as she didn't fuck niggers
>>34336913Not as far as I know, but she was pretty sexually open. She contracted HSV2 a while back and I caught it
>>34336961bro.
>>34336711From another libertarian, if you just want to marry and have kids and not be good friends, you can probably just keep your political stuff unsaid most of the time and just live around it. It'll work, as long as you've agreed that the kids will hear both sides and they get to decide anything they like.If you intend to actually WANT to grow old with that person, then I doubt you can work around these things. If that's your case, discuss it now calmly to the end. Find what's your fundamental difference in opinion and then maybe if it's not a big deal you can both accept each other's basis. If she can't even discuss to that point, I'd bail hard.
>>34336974I know, I know. Another important thing is that she has male friends, and doesn't want children. We had a whole ruckus at the end of January because one of her friends (bi dude she met on Tinder and told me she's not attracted to him) was sleeping over at her place, she even considered being roomates with him to have an easier commute to college (she's living a couple miles away now at her parent's), but we had a talk and she decided to respect that basic boundary of mineI trust that she didn't do anything (bear with me here, I know what you're gonna say), but it was a very strainuous and stressful period, we almost broke up then. She doesn't really want to live with me either citing that it would strain our relationship and downgrade it to merely a "roommate" status, which doesn't make sense to me.She COULD change her mind in the future and explained that those decisions aren't concrete>>34337043I doubt we could marry and successfully raise children without being good friends. I mean we do get along pretty well besides politics and the incident mentioned above
>>34336961You're a fucking retard for staying with someone who gave you an std.
>>34337228My feelings made me overlook that fact and forgive her
>>34337239Do you want to be 28, and only just having the courage to leave this girl? Do you need her to destroy more? What does she build in your life? Will she divorce you if you have kids
>>34337358She told me she'd have an abortion if she got pregnant. >What does she build in your life?Well, companionship and affection is mostly why I sought out to get into a relationship in the first place. I was quite lonely before and I had a great time with her when we met>Do you want to be 28, and only just having the courage to leave this girl?Fair point, and that's what I'm thinking about when making this decision
>>34336961bruh. lmao
>>34336711>Have you seen or experienced first hand a relationship where a political divide is present?Not first hand but my great grandpa was a bible thumper who went to confession every week whilst great grandma was a card carrying communist during nazi occupation, happily married for 60 years and had 8 kids together.The solution is simple, just don't fucking discuss politics, ever, don't watch political news, don't listen to political podcasts, you're never going to change anyone's mind, your vote doesn't matter, focus on that which is immediate aka your girl and the relationship you have together, take her on picnics, take her to movies, take her on dates and for the love of god don't drive her away with /pol/tardation
