How the fuck am I meant to meet people as a 26 year old man The only advice anyone ever gives is "get a hobby!" as if everyone's hobby is taking a fucking cooking class at the local library or some shit The vast majority of hobbies don't actually involve meeting anyone and the ones that do are already inundated with single men there to hit on women after reading about it on reddit
>>34355757I'd also like to know>Just go outside broOkay>Goes outside>Every woman I see is with a guy
>>34355757>or some shitI would strongly suggest that you stop being a nigger or nigger adjacent.
I've met people at the gym without trying to socialize.>>34355760Proof of success
Relationships with people are to be built not instant.
>>34355757>The vast majority of hobbies don't actually involve meeting anyone Depends on the hobby. Team sports by definition require you to meet people, and they're a great way to make friends. Basketball, Football, Baseball etc, I'm sure there's amateur clubs near you. They're also good for bonding because there's friendly competition and team play required. Same goes for martial arts. You build a bond of trust with the people you spar with, and you learn and grow together. Don't worry about how to make friends, just actively involve yourself and it'll happen. Even if you're not super social or communicative, others will be and will automatically integrate you into the group. Volunteer activities are also a great way to meet people. Here we have volunteer firefighters in pretty much every village for example and these people form very genuine, deep friendships. If you think none of these sound appealing, try them anyway. Sometimes you find things you immensely enjoy outside of your comfort zone. If you don't you can still quit. Don't worry too much about the friendships part either, just focus on the activity and the social stuff will happen by itself. >I'm autistic, this shit doesn't come to me naturally Reading people is a skill and can be learned. Allistics do it automatically, autistics need effort, that's all. >single men there to hit on women after reading about it on reddit Those don't usually stick with a hobby long and if they do it's so obvious to everybody there that they'll be avoided and excluded.
>>34355757I know several people that met their partner through leftist political organizing. The right wing equivalent would be church.
>>34355757You are absolutely right. There is no point in trying.That WAS the answer you were looking for, wasn't it?
>>34355788Tell that to all the people who have known me for years and never got close to me and never any romantic interest from any of them despite me wanting it. It's not enough to just show up. I am scared to act and I don't have self worth and I don't have the skills to do those things
>>34355757>as a 26 year old manassuming you have ZERO irl friendscommunity rec leagues> basketball> flag football> softball> bowling> tennis / pickleball> surfing communities> church outings> live music outings (bars, parks)> bike path (walking, jogging, biking, skating, etc)when people say "go outside" they don't mean > loiter
>>34355771>I've met people at the gym without trying to socialize.thisif you go to the gym regularly, you don't have to say anything...people 'know' you. if you got to a muscle/gear head gym, women will be social and talk with you (because they're whores). I used to meet a lot of girls this way
>>34355757https://youtu.be/gKjWzWmuHLU?list=PLd9Xg2cwkOlNFjoKwiT6MI3cmS1IB3PZe&t=857
>>34356675Stop being so smart being too aware of the risks and just try. If it makes you feel better as long as you approach people gently and lightheartedly you should be fine. Someone who can not accept that hates kittens and puppies.
>>34355757The truth is there is nowhere to meet people in the current year. There are very few single women walking on the streets anymore, they all drive but the main problem is most women are in relationships already starting with high school and college. They will tell you to go to bars and pubs but it doesn't seem to work anymore, in the past sure maybe but not anymore. Then they tell you hobbies, to get hobbies and sign up for shit, but most women don't have hobbies (their hobby is socializing over the internet and in real life) not to mention the countless other guys that get into hobbies to meet women. If you don't meet a girl in high school or college it's over in 2026, there is nowhere to meet women anymore, unless you cold approach in places where young women hang out.
A lot of women are single. Mostly younger ones. You have to work and go to school to survive nowadays and you have to live with your parents. Most people don’t have time to date. I would say get a retail job that’s social, or go to bars and clubs if you drink. Try running clubs as people there skew young. Any hobby with young people is a good bet
There’s an app called Meetup. You could try. After going for a while yThere’s an app called Meetup. You could try. After going for a while you can reach out to other people to see if they want to hang out.
>>34362258Boomer app
>>34362271I was born in 1981
>>34362273He’s right. You’re out of touch.
Meet your coworkers. Meet your neighbors. Shop regularly in local shops. Join a club, a team, a gym, a church. Check supermarket bulletin boards for local activities. Take a random evening class. Do volunteer work.In short, get out of the house.
>>34355757>the ones that do are already inundated with single men there to hit on womenSo? Isn't that what you're there to do too? Don't look down on your own kind OP.
>>34356675>Relationships with people are to be built and not instant.>I am scared to act and I don't have self worth and I don't have the skills to do those thingsYou realize you just agreed with him right? You haven't built anything, and it's not other people's job to do it for you. Women are not obligated to give you romantic interest.The problem here truly is you. And I don't mean that in a "blame le victim" sense (which I'm sure you'll try to interpret it as), but in the sense of strategy. As is we could drop you in a room full of people, hell I'll do one better and say in a room of single women specifically looking for a man, and you'd still end up just as alone. Because of, and until the following things (your words) are addressed:>I'm scared>no self-worth>no social skillsYou have to do some soul searching and rebuilding first before you worry about how you can meet anyone. You should be worrying more about what you will do if/when you do meet someone instead.
>>34356767I've been going to the gym for 10+ years now and have never once been approached by a woman outside of "how many sets do you have left?"I have no idea what sort of gyms you're going to
>>34364445If you had smiled and said hi to any of those same women you've been seeing there for the last 10 years, do you really think none of them would have reciprocated?>no no, you see I'm special and it's WOMEN who have to approach MEWhatever you say princess.
>>34360840This a trvthnuke unfortunately. As someone who was homeschooled from K-12, and went straight into the trades which are 99% male. I still never had a gf or anything close to it at 26. I've tried countless hobbies, went to different churches and tried the apps for years all to no avail.The only young women at churches are only there with their boyfriends/husbands for the most part. I rarely see any young women going to church by themselves. And everything you've said about the hobbies is 100% truth, tho it wasn't a waste a time for me, I still do some of them to this day and still enjoy doing them despite there being a near 0% chance that I'll ever meet any women through it.Obviously everyone here knows the problems of the apps.Like I'm not ugly or short. Im 6' and have been rated online as a 6.5/7 before. And im not socially awkward eithier, im a good conversationalist. My problem is only the lack of opportunities to even see or be around women my age in my day to day life which is near impossible outside of school.It sucks but I do feel somewhat ok about it. I gave it my all and tried everything I could possibly do, Its out of my control.
>>34355757>How the fuck am I meant to meet peoplethis isn't difficultdo you even know how to start a conversation? I'd bet you dontcan you greet and socialize in environments you're not familiar with? I know you canthttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a8cnLHvySn4
Anywhere just depends on who you wanna meet
