i like constructive criticism and all, but he seems like he gets pissed at every little thing i do. ill be stirring a pot or flipping pancakes or something small like that and he will tell me im doing everything wrong and lecture me for 30 mins on why its wrong.
criticism is just a malformed bid for connectionhis mom or dad probanly was always up his ass criticisming him and so he associates that with love and affectionif your dad weresn't like that also it will probably be friction on your feelingsthe good news is that it is a malformation of his psyche which is a good deed to reprogram so if you can explore this together and move to other ways to connect you will have done something beautiful
>>34357376Perfectionists are hard on themselves. But even harder on others. He tears into you with sharp criticism because that's exactly what he does to himself all day
>>34357388whenever i try to tell him to stop treating me like that he just says shit like >well its not my fault you do xyz >you cant handle criticism >you are too sensitive and somehow my reaction to what he was doing to me makes him feel like the victim of me and acts like his heart got broken or some shit. am i the bad guy??? i cant tell. i feel like i cant say anything to this dude without pissing him off. i don’t wanna break it off with him cus hes my first everything. hes just so mean sometimes. and by sometimes i mean a lot. 4chan is predominantly a male site so i figured you people would be able to help
>>34357376He has love self esteem and low self worth So he is attacking you to make himself feel better about himself
>>34357495*Low self esteem
>>34357376Guy is probably a keeper. Likes finding the best way. That is the best way to do things bestly.
>>34357550He sounds like not a keeper. Throwing a tension like that his childish and taking it out on her and choosing that to be how he is with her? That's a failure. I would never want to be with someone like that
Maybe, just maybe, it's cause you're doing everything wrong? Nah couldn't be... it's him who's wrong... yeah that makes more sense
>>34357587She can do whatever she wants, if she wants to test spaghetti on the ground and dance in it that's fine. But him throwing a tantrum is ridiculous. If he's actually the one for her he will either support her in growing out of her spaghetti throwing phase or dance in the spaghetti with her
Why would I ever choose to be with someone who constantly criticizes and berates me because of their low self-esteem?
>>34357376He sounds great. You should definitely stay with him so he can continue to do this to you for years and years and years and years.
>>34357624Exactly, he's worth nothing and you were going to be much happier with someone who actually loves you and is with you in a way that is compatible
>>34357376Have you tried listening to him and taking his advice?Women think with their emotions, men think with your heads, and so in most cases you're going to find that he is correct, and he is criticizing you for things that he thinks you should already know. The fact he even bothers means he thinks you're actually capable of logic and reason, so the least you could do is not let him down.
>>34357660>>34357376This is every foids advice, typically by miserable and alone foids who never shut up or take anything their men say seriously.>Break up with your boyfriend, you can do better!90% of the time you're also doing something fucking stupid or retarded, but rather then accept an iota of accountability for anything in the relationship, you're just going to run along to the next guy to gratify your insatiable ego, and the next guy and the next, over and over until you grow old and your value deteriorates.Just nut up and talk through it. If you truly claim to be the more emotionally intuitive sex, then what the fuck is stopping you from actually having these conversations with your man and working through it on your own? Why the fuck do you need to run to get advice from strangers on an internet forum? Did no one ever teach you how to communicate in a relationship?Weird trick, but you can actually get guys to apologize for things or come to an understanding by having conversations with them, and more often then not you will both find something to improve in yourself.Or don't do that and just continue to cry and run away whenever shit gets tough.Jesus H fucking Christ Women these days...
>>34357682>90% of the time you're also doing something fucking stupid or retarded, but rather then accept an iota of accountability for anything in the relationshipIf your response when someone is doing something stupid in your relationship is to have a meltdown and start belittling and insulting them then you're a child and you deserve to be alone.
>>34357571I swear there's a few retards on this board that go into every thread and either make fun of people or offer the worst advice known to man. It's quite pathetic
>>34357668Why should I take the advice of someone who is clearly lashing out because of their own issues at me. I want to have fun and be with someone who loves me. Not everyone have to agree with you. >>34357682You sound really retarded
>>34357682It doesn't sound like you listen to what Mike was saying at all. He said that the person should instead be either supportive of her and grow with her or be compatible in a way that what she's doing does not bother him and he does the same.
>>34357705There's also some retards who just overly criticize a specific person because of their own issues or as an attempt to manipulate others to see someone a certain way Mike is great, grow up
He doesn't like you anymore, he resents your presence. If you want to stay with him, then you will need to reflect his criticism back at him and crush his ego. This might cause him to break up, so you should probably just do him the favor.
>>34357376Your boyfriend sounds like an ass, it's one thing to be critical and wanting you to improve but getting angry over every little thing is autistic.>>34357403Yeah he sounds like he has some issues he needs to work out.try giving him a taste of his own medicine, be overly critical of every little thing and if he says that your being a bitch or whatever say then "if you can't take it then don't dish it out"
>>34357739>>34357748Exactly.
>>34357717What? I was agreeing with Mike kek
>>34357817Kek i apologize. I was annoyed seeing someone responding to every time Mike gave good advice with some horrible take. It's like that Anon stalks him from thread to thread to be negative at him
>>34357701Women don't listen, refuse to take accountability for their part in anything, rationalize the actions of their men to the point where they themselves are nitpicking and finding flaws, and then glorifying them for an audience to get sympathy points and to reinforce their neurotic impulses. If you had any degree of self reflection you wouldn't be posting here in the first place, the issue would be simple, and you'd solve it. The fact OP is posting here is evidence that they are not emotionally mature enough to handle their own relationship.>>34357714Right, so now instead of gleaning the silver lining of my post you're immediately shifting blame onto what I said because you found it emotionally unwelcoming. You have to take some degree of accountability for your own life at some point. Nobody is telling you not to have fun, but if that fun is reckless or shortsighted and consistently landing you in a bad situation then are you going to keep pursuing that behavior? Loving somebody also means acting on what you know is right, not what they emotionally want to be correct but isn't. Love requires hard decisions.>Not everyone have to agree with you.That's my entire point exactly, so if you want perspective or criticism on a public messaging board, you might want to get used to this, and maybe try to get something out of it rather then just attention seeking.
>>34357716>>34357716You can do all of those things and also hold each other accountable when they do something wrong. But from the sounds of it, this person does not want to be held accountable, or accept and criticism no matter its emphasis, and is instead trying to deflect and blame the person she's with then nutting up and trying to actually solve the problem.>Hey honey, I am listening to what you're saying but can you maybe speak to me a little more kindly?That's a good start. Communication requires that you voice your concerns, not bottle them up for internet dweebs to nitpick with you later on after you've given up on the situation entirely.The man is clearly getting angry in this situation because he's being repeatedly shown that she is not listening to him, and actively ignoring him, and it's probably a compounding issue that has gone on time and time again, causing him to get more frustrated.If you cannot listen to or communicate with your partner, and if you waited till you posted this shit online to even try and figure out a solution, then you are not mature enough to be in a relationship, and if anything, you are attracting man children by being a woman child of your own.But no, keep blaming the man and refusing to do anything about it, clearly you have the moral high ground for so long as everyone tells you pleasant words, and you never learn to communicate or speak up for yourself. Great plan!
>>34357571You’re wrong tho. I am the same kind of asshole as the bf and I am rich.>>34357376You like money? Everyone does.
>>34357571I mean seriously, are you going to consider this good advice? With the limited information given on the situation you immediately started shifting the focus to the man being the bad guy and refering to not being with people like "That", that which refers to a person you know little to nothing about and came to a snap conclusion on just to appease the darker side of the foid.Why not start by asking questions? >"How long has this been going on?">"Was he always like this?">"How often do you guys communicate with eachother and talk through your issues?"Right off the bat you took the limited information about this situation and found a way to make it worse by vindicating the very emotional immaturity that leads to the formation of these kinds of relationships in the first place.
Taking responsibility means accepting "You can't fix him". Fixing a man never works. First step to a healthy relationship: the guy you're with isn't going to change for you and vice versa. Unless both of you can accept each other's flaws it won't work.>>34357908>>OP is posting here is evidence...Everyone's posting here for the lax moderation. What's your point?>34357682>Weird trick, but you can actually get guys to apologize for things or come to an understanding by having conversations with them, and more often then not you will both find something to improve in yourself.That's really henpecking. Nagging back to get apologizes isn't good to do, have you considered?
>>34357908No, You're just wrong Correct, I don't agree with you
>>34357920Second part about you saying that the person is clearly angry because of some frustrations from prior mistake is complete projecting. You are completely assuming this of this person. They could be flipping a lid and throwing a tantrum over every single thing. We don't know what this person has done in the past, we just know that right now in the current based on what OP said he is throwing a tantrum and not choosing to be with her in a healthy way that a good person would be with the person that they love. If he would communicate with her in a healthy way where they grow then that's awesome, but instead he threw a fit and yelled at her. So no, you are wrong, the guy is in the wrong. He either fixes his immaturity or hits the road because he's not compatible with her and not mature enough to be with her in a relationship
>>34357925You can be an asshole and you can be kind, neither dictates whether you are rich or not. You are in the wrong because the boyfriend is clearly acting like a child throwing a tantrum and not mature enough to be in an actual relationship with someone
>>34357961Yes, that is good adviceIf the boyfriend is immature and throwing a tantrum at her and not able to be her partner and grow with her, be compatible with her then The boyfriend is a failure and not compatible with her. Yes I would not want to be with someone who is a child like that.
>>34357987Absolutely, the boyfriend is a child and needs years to grow up. Right now he is throwing a tantrum and screaming like a little kid would. Either understand this and raise the kid correctly, or if you want to be with a man go be with a man who is willing to listen to you and raise you right if you are doing something wrong or do what is wrong with you because they are the same way.
>>34357987>What's your point?A. It's a public forum, and if you don't want advice then don't post on a public forum. You know exactly the kinds of responses you're going to get are only going to reinforce your bias one way or the other.B. Posting here is evidence you don't know how to communicate, and if you want to learn how, you need to accept harsher criticism and make an effort.>Fixing a man never works.Have you ever, I don't know, had a conversation with a man for more than two sentences at a time? You're reciting old platitudes because you're not capable of the actual difficulty that a relationship entails. Acceptance of flaws means accepting your own, which it seems quite evident that the foid is not in any capacity.
>>34358034>>34358039>complete projectingAh yes, the foid response:>You're totally projecting onto me right now! Maybe you're projecting onto me that I'm projecting onto you? >You are completely assuming this of this personThere is no assumption involved in this whatsoever. Posting on an internet forum citing limited information and capitulating to all the people telling you to end it is not mature or responsible whatsoever, the foid had her mind made up before she even posted, she just wants reinforcement of her bias because she is unable to form a conviction of her own.>They could be flipping a lid and throwing a tantrum over every single thing.Right, so you are in fact the person making an assumption, and rather then responding to the heart of the situation, i.e. the foid posting online rather then talking to her boyfriend, you're going to jump on the man hating band wagon and just assume that the man is wrong and the woman is right, because emotionally that makes you feel better.>he is throwing a tantrumThe post literally says>he will tell me im doing everything wrong and lecture me for 30 mins on why its wrong.You assume that is a tantrum without trying to judge why the man is acting in this way, because just like OP, you don't know how to communicate yourself and your emotions.I refuse to jump on that bandwagon without any clarification of what she is doing in response to this situation, other then bitching about it to strangers.It's the same mentality of>"Daddy said I can't have X! Daddy is mean! I want mommy!"You respond to any criticism or accountability by just saying anyone who doesn't let you have or get away with XYZ is Mean! They're bad! But you never self reflect as to why that is happening in the first place, it's always somebody elses fault without any further consideration.
>>34357376well you probably suck and ARE doing everything wrong. that's worth being pissed about. it's like dealing with a adult bodied toddler. just going around fucking shit up all the time and making problems a real adult will have to solve in your wake.
>>34358862>old platitudes People used to have wisdom. Go to therapy and take drugs to get rid of your toxic masculinity or something modern.>Posting here is evidence you don't know how to communicate, and if you want to learn how, you need to accept harsher criticism and make an effort.Take your own advice >Acceptance of flaws means accepting your own>If you truly claim to be the more emotionally intuitive sex"It's okay to admit you're wrong"You guys have some pretty bad experiences with women and you're used to bad behavior. Obviously it's familiar but why not skip the song and dance?
>>34358041All people are at their base children.The mother's job is to raise children. Trying to replace her is a stupid errand.
>>34359069Reread the thread again.>Op: "My boyfriend gets mad and rants at me sometimes.">Replies: "Omg break up with him he is so immature."There is no elaboration here, no scrutiny, no accountability, and ultimately zero maturity expressed by either OP or the replies. On top of this, rather then try to refute the logic of my statements, namely that you need to try and communicate with your partner more before you immediately jump to this knee jerk break-up conclusion, and so you've all immediately resorted to straw-man personal attacks to continue to insulate your infantile emotions.This entire dynamic is further evidence of our collapsing civilization, where social trust and communication skills continue to erode, and we all wonder why we keep getting divorced, keep getting involved in shitty relationships, and why the world keeps getting worse:>"It's not my fault, it's the billionaires, it's the immigrants! It's men's fault! It's women's fault!"All that could be true, but if you're not trying to find more constructive solutions to the issue then you are very much a part of this problem.>"Who are you to judge? You've had bad experiences with women! Are you in a relationship Mr. wise guy?"Nothing about my personal life would matter fuck one towards the conclusion of this issue or the validity of my statements, I could easily lie and say whatever I wanted to appeal to your emotions and your sense of authority, because again, I am a stranger on an internet forum, and you attributing any kind of emotional reaction to strangers is retarded, and very much a part of the problem I'm trying to relay.Am I ranting repeatedly at you for no reason at all? Am I just another big dumb moid? Or is there actually something to my statements that you're actively overlooking because you're allowing your emotions to cloud your judgement.We're here to problem solve, so lets problem solve.
>>34357376Your boyfriend is a piece of shit. People usually don't change. He will be like this forever. You can choose to live a life filled with misery and woe, or you can break up with him. Sure, it will hurt for a while, but it's better in the long term. Unfortunately, assuming you are a woman, you will ignore this warning and continue to live a shitty life. I have seen this one too many times. You are loved and deserve better. No one should have to live like this. I'm not being sexist here. But you have a feminine urge to nurture. Which makes sense because in the wild, women raise babies. But in modern times, shitty men can take advantage of this powerful instinct.
>>34357550God dammit you’re retarded >>34357587Ah yes because abusing people and violating their human rights definitely isn’t wrong
>>34357668He’s an abusive piece of garbage and should be dumped asap >>34357682Nope, I’m a man and have dealt with freaks like this. It’s control mechanism and it’s very abusive. In most countries humans have rights
>>34358912No, he’s an abusive man and belongs in a cell
Sounds like a narc unironically, saw this happen with my dad and my mom and he made her life hell
>>34359127>Ah yes because abusing people and violating their human rights definitely isn’t wrongWhat the fuck is even going on here? Where was this ever said?>>34359129He rants at her, and that's abusive? You people are hopeless, you think with your emotions and thats why you will always fail. ?Or yourea a jew
>>34358912i should probably clarify to the people in the thread that its usually normal stuff that im doing, he just gets extremely specific and doesnt like when i dont do things perfectly. im not gonna listen to people telling me hes an asshole or the people telling me im a dumb woman. what i appreciate about him is that he strives for perfection but sometimes its excessive and the pressure is too much for something as simple as flipping a pancake. >you need to have the pan to xyz degrees>it needs to be this exact color when you flip it. start over if wrong>you got a droplet of batter on the edge of the pan, start over then he will spend the next showing me culinary videos and such and treating me like im an incompetent child.. i dont know. im reading everybodys replies and i appreciate the thoughtful responses, even the troll larpers lol. its just exhausting and claustrophobic at times the way i get treated
>>34359300>im not gonna listenWhat was the point of making this thread on the advice board
>>34359390im not gonna listen to niggers and trolls, only people giving real advice. silly
>>34359408>posters pointing out inconvenient truths are trolls
>>34359417>posters telling me to break up with my boyfriend over a small issue are trolls, thoughbeit
>>34359436>issue so small you decided to make this threadYou won't win, check yourself before you wreck yourself
>>34359300I'm one of the guys telling you that you're a dumb woman, but this post right here is a tremendous improvement, and if you'd lead with something like this you might clear up some of the conflict in this thread.As well as in your relationship, you need to communicate these things with him, express that you appreciate his perspective, and try to find a more effective way for you both to meet your needs.He clearly enjoys spending time with you, you clearly appreciate him, you just gotta communicate, that's all there is to it. Don't blame, don't shame, just say >X is how I feel when you do Y>I appreciate that you do Z>How can you do Z in a way that does not equal XSometimes you're going to have to just accept it, and sometimes you might both find better ways to express yourselves.>>34359436I'm glad to see you have some sense. Half the people on Adv are jewish and love spreading chaos from the comfort of their Iron Dome.>Pic unrelated
>>34357376Women are stupid.
>>34359452>Half the people on Adv are jewish and love spreading chaos from the comfort of their Iron Dome.It's not even that. It's sub-consciously believing that they have a better chance at breeding by creating more single women.
>>34357376You picked him. Match his energy. He won't change. Get used to comstant arguments.
>>34357376You're not doing a good job emptying his balls.
>>34359300Teeny tiny things like that are crazy to harp on. I’d try flipping the tables on him instead of arguing and pretend to seem really interested and appreciative so he feels bad and drops it. Switch it up and see what happens.
>>34357376i do the same thing to my mom, it's a problem for sure but she is also genuinely doing things poorly which i suspect is the same for youu need to find some sort of balance between telling him to fuck off and trying to see where he's coming from and learn+adopt his methods if they have merit
>>34361160>See a problem>Be petty and vindictive instead of trying to solve it with sincerityYou're either a woman or spiritually a bitch.
>>34357682Trvke
>>34357376life is too short to waste your time and youth on jackasses. just move on, don't make him your project, you can't fix him. lift the bar off the fucking floor and find a man who can be nice to you. it's the bare minimum of having any kind of standards at all
>>34357682foid here, i'm in a loving happy relationship with a man who is nice to me, does everything for me, and treats me really well. i would have never found him if i wasted my time with jackasses like the one described.OP, moids like this one benefit from women having low standards because when women have any standards at all, they can't get easy desperate pussy that they can abuse and treat like shit. don't listen to him. everything he says about loneliness is projection of his own fears that no one will ever settle for his unpleasant ass.
>>34361839This. Good advice
>>34357376I've seen people trying to cook wrong before, and yea, I'm going to correct you, especially if we're married and living together. why would you let someone continue doing something wrong if you had a chance to correct them?
>>34357376Is he a Capricorn?
>>34361839>moids like this one benefit from women having low standardsAnd yet your standards do not include the most basic elements of healthy communication and the establishment of boundaries. You expect the men you date to instantaneously and outright magically comply to your reticent standards without ever endeavoring to communicate them through your own faculty of voice. But given how much you crave drama and attention, you internalize your own ineptitude to such a degree that you project it onto every man you speak with without the slightest sign of introspection on your part, and then further adapt your own neuroticism by using the notion of psychological projection in an attempt to shut down the conversation so that you don't actually have to substantiate your point and risk collapsing your loony paracosm.You further insulate yourself through the positive reinforcement of cuckholds like >>34362003 , because what you crave is not actually a strong man with his own strong sense of conviction and morality, but men who are weak to your bullying and more likely to simply bow down and comply with your every arbitrary demand.>You're Wrong and I'm right!>Yes Honey, you're right and I was wrong!And just like that you can get away with whatever you want, not by actually having standards, but by maintaining the appearance of standards through your weird feminine bravado. You'll never grow with your partner, you'll never learn as a person, your moods will become more irate as middle age hormones set in, and until your dying day you will never take accountability for anything in your relationship, rather then learning to actually talk to your partner and accept some personal accountability from time to time.It's that easy, but you're just too difficult.
>>34357376underlying issue. you probably are draining him financially
>>34363926I'm not making anything up, I'm responding to exactly what you've demonstrated in this thread, which is a complete disregard for elucidation on the situation, and a knee-jerk yes-man tool who agrees with and encourages the worst in all the women almost as quickly as they've made their posts.You may not be entirely a cuckhold, but simply based on the context you've provided of yourself in this thread, you have certainly demonstrated some rather obvious cuckhold behavior, and I think that's unacceptable and you should be called out for it.
>>34364783That has nothing to do with me. You are projecting onto me your own insecurities and issues. I am Marias first and only. All of her and all of her first are with me. That is a promise she made me and she is keeping it with me. Just as I've got my promises to her
>>34364794Okay, so your balls are in a jar on some woman's shelf then, thanks for clarifying.
>>34357376You're not sucking his dick often enough or well enough.
>>34357376>>34357403Dump his ass.
>>34365095Narc emotional blackmail attempt at belittlement really makes you look desperate and insecure lashing out like a child And then you write this in an attempt to push a action >>34365159I won't boast, but I will have her in my arms, all of her, myMariaSignnedMike
>>34365790Emotional blackmail is simply whatever makes irate illogical human beings "Feel Something".I'm not in charge of your emotions, I'm simply recommending you think with your head instead of the hormones.
>>34365990No it's creating a LARP situation that uses details that are specific to a person and then using a false narrative to then manipulate someone to think something of someone else that is not true to drive their decisions in your favor. That is emotional blackmail, deception and lying. To harm another who has done no wrong and is much better and more compatible than you will ever be
>>34357376lmao he's going to kill you, honey.
>>34357376But to answer your question on a psychoanalytic level here? He expects you to be perfect because that's the ideal that he built in his own mind of you. And you're not living up to whatever internalized standard that he gave you. He's not outwardly letting you know this because this would obviously cause conflict in your relationship with him. Did you ever ask him why he's so hard on you?
>>34366007>>34366010What are these posts trying to make you think and about who? Ask that question when you read these things. Who is it trying to push down, who is it trying to rise up. What does it make you want to feel and what is it trying to make you do
>>34366026Shut up, retard
>>34357376I don't know what his problem is, and it doesn't really matter, but he's trying to make it YOUR problem and you are definitely not responsible for managing his feefees. Tell him to get it together and treat you with respect or get up and leave.
>>34357550>That is the best way to do things bestly.Do you normally speak like a toddler?
>>34366001Sort of like how you all encouraged this woman to break up with her boyfriend because you manufactured a narrative about the situation based on limited evidence to reinfroce your own dysfunctional world view?>That is emotional blackmail, deception and lyingThis is the language of people who don't know how to manage their own emotions, and will forever blame the rest of the world for their mistakes. There is nothing else to say to you, come what may.
>>34366050Right, and here we have yet another exhibit of>"I don't know anything about the situation, but just based on the mere fact that a man is criticizing a woman I'm going to call it evil and gaslighting and immature and not pause for one second to do some self reflection, and also neither should you."Communicating your thoughts and feelings is actually how you maintain a relationship sweetheart, though maybe its too much to expect from a group of people whose vocabulary can be put to shame by a fucking Sabrina Carpenter album.
>>34363331hey, you made a lot of assumptions in your post, probably because you felt emotional and called out, so try to calm down. clear communication requires respect. he doesn't respect her, there is nothing more to communicate. try not to have a melty again big boy
>>34366571I'm rubber you're glue, whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.
>>34366597sheeeeesh i got pwned
>>34366340I don't know what you're talking about I have proof Colton is doing this to Maria and I If she broke up with him, good. He was never meant to be a part of our lives. He manipulated it lied and deceived her about me and then continue to lie to her and manipulator to even get it in, using things from my letters and repeating them at her because he knew that she's attracted to me
>>34366340>"Identifying when people are gaslighting and manipulating you then saying it out loud actually means you can't manage your own emotions"You have to be 18+ to post here
>>34366637Thank you for calling that out. I appreciate you
>>34366614I have no idea what your talking about but it sounds like you are really getting your emotions involved in this thread, hence my contention from the beginning with all of you.>>34366637Define Gaslighting, honest to god tell me what you consider to be gaslighting, because all it sounds like thus far from all of you is that none of you know how to communicate your boundaries or emotions, and you expect your partner to read your mind, and on top of this, you are so mentally fragile that anything non-egosyntonic is immediatly classified as abuse in your mind.You have been pampered all your lives by a sad culture and sad role models, and I honestly don't blame you if this is the best you can do, but don't project your own dysfunctional relationship skills into other peoples matters if you can't separate your emotions from your advice.You are absolutely worthy of criticism, and any wise partner you have, provided he isn't a doormat, will always push back against you and lecture you for your stupidity, because you invite that very response with your own behavior.
>>34359100Wft is this shit?>you've all immediately resorted to straw-man personal attacksYou strawmaning?>You can't fix a man.Every trait is acceptable or not. Nagging over and over again to change how he is doesn't work.>further evidence of our collapsing civilizationTrying to fix men doesn't work. Feminists have tried. Learn something for once.
>>34366872>you just go off on your narrative in an attempt to sidetrack from it Right there you've just proven my entire point, you don't actually pay attention to what I'm saying, you compartmentalize what anybody tells you without acknowledging it rationally, and then just double down and call me or somebody else abusive because you don't want to actually acknowledge the statement itself.You are immature and lack communication skills. Good night sir.>>34366886>Nagging over and over again to change how he is doesn't work.Right, so if that is happening, then why is it happening? Could it be because the other participant in the relationship isn't communicating or setting personal boundaries? Because that person is not listening to what is being said? And that the frustration that arises from this failure to communicate could easily be solved if both parties sat down and talked through to get both of their needs met, but instead, you're just dogmatically clinging to one side and calling anyone who attempts to break through to you abusive or immature, when in fact, you and your failure to communicate is just as much a part of the problem.The problem is both men and women being raised in a culture which does not teach them decent interpersonal skills. I invite you to take a look around at how dysfunctional modern society is and maybe, I don't know, reflect on this issue instead of just blaming one side or the other? Because if you want to play that game, there is much more quantifiable evidence that does not bode well for your narrow feminist perspective.
>>34366862>Define Gaslighting, honest to god tell me what you consider to be gaslightingGaslighting is if I stomp on your foot and then when you say "ow" I tell you that you're just being too sensitive. Its an extremely simple concept to understand. Manipulative people instill doubt into others to shift the blame for their behaviors. A person will gaslight you by doing something shitty and then avoid accountability for that shitty behavior by rewriting history, using emotional manipulation (i.e. if you call them out they say things like "oh okay so I'm just the worst person in the world" or "thanks now that you've called me out I feel super shitty about myself and depressed") and convincing you that the shitty thing they did is actually your fault and/or you're just overreacting i.e. "I only did this shitty thing because YOU upset me and if YOU were a better girlfriend/boyfriend I wouldn't do shitty things".
>>34366978No point in listening to you. I know what ColtonDid and does to us and I don't put up with it. Best I can do is stay for her until she's home with me
>>34357376Your boyfriend is a bitch and you should shove a remote up his ass to let him know who's the boss.
>>34357403He's trying to teach you how to do it better and you don't want to listen. Maybe his way is better and maybe it isn't. The lecture is an explanation. You have three options. 1. List and do it his way. You may find it ends up being easier or better.2. Tell him that if he wants something done a certain way, he can do it. If you're the one doing the job, you get to do it your way.3. Dump him.What you interpret as mean may not be. Showing you that you're wrong about something isn't necessarily mean. Or maybe he's just an ass. I'd have to actually witness the interaction a few times to judge.
>>34367557>ListListen*
>>34362262I'm a Capricorn ascendant. Sun Cap Bitches HATE when the real Lords of Karma bite them back with their same poison.
>>34363891Yeah behind every angry bitter little man there is a frustrated sugar that knows he can't measure up to what he knows he can't pay so he lashes out.Then they go for lower once the relationship dies.Predictable as hell is frozen.
>>34373406This 100 percent
>>34357376because you deserve it
