I'm sick of guys. Empathy is a cornerstone of society, because we need to be able to connect and relate to each other to cooperate, and guys don't seem to have any empathy at all.I've been spending my free time helping an old person with schizophrenia in his day to day because he doesn't have any family to help him.My boyfriend keeps asking me to stop bc he thinks the old man is going to murder me (because he assumes mental illness = crazy murderer or rapist or something like that).So I asked him, "How would you feel if you couldn't tell what was or wasn't real and nobody helped you or checked in on you?"And he just stopped to process that for a minute like it hadn't occurred to him. He never for a moment wondered how that old man might feel, he only ever thought about the old man like a threat to be wary of. Realizing that about my bf just shook my opinion of men to its core and now it feels like it makes too much sense why the world is the way it is. I'm not a lesbian so I guess I'll just stay single for the rest of my life. I can't have an emotional connection with a type of person that can't grasp empathy and the need to support others.I always hoped I'd meet a guy like Kamen Rider (I know it's stupid but hear me out). Someone who sees life itself as precious, where his strength isn't to smash a problem but to uplift the people around him and protect those in need. I want a guy who cares about people more than he cares about getting a fancy truck or a big house or any of that crap but I just don't think they exist anymore.Am I just doomerbrained or is the situation with men as bad as it seems?
>>34359601so bc your bf wanted to protect you from a mentally ill geezer he has no empathy? maybe go back to your femcel board retard
>>34359601Nah, you just chose to date a man who doesn't have empathy. Women are attracted to powerful men, and power is usually inversely correlated to empathy.
Why would I have empathy for trash like some mentally ill old faggot
you're a total retard. you're spending your free time with strange lonely schizophrenic men and he rightfully worries for you, and so you begin talking about you being too good for him. nah. you don't deserve him.
>>34359601>why the world is the way it isYeah, in the world are bad people without and with empathy.Don't generalize about what men are like based on a single experience with a dumbass>who cares about people more than he cares about getting a fancy truck or a big houseLike 1/3 of the men in the world lol. Not everybody is focused on get fancy useless stuff, but (maybe) the men you knowBtw, Kuuga the Goat
>>34359607He wanted to protect me from a harmless old man because he can't conceive that just because the old man has a mental illness that doesn't make him dangerous.>>34359609He works at a garden supply store and I make more money than he does. He is NOT powerful. I did not find myself attracted to him for power, I was attracted to him for his heart when I believed he was compassionate and kind.>>34359610Because nobody knows where they'll be in 10, 20, or 30 years and some day you might be the one who is mentally ill and alone in the world?>>34359622Why do you try to frame supporting a sick elder as a bad thing? Supporting sick elders is a responsibility we have to tend when we're young because otherwise they just fucking die or rot away miserably and they're people deserving of care and consideration whether or not they fit cleanly into society's coolie cutter molds.
>>34359715>He wanted to protect me from a harmless old man because he can't conceive that just because the old man has a mental illness that doesn't make him dangerous.says who?lots of girls literally got slaughtered and raped by 'mentally ill' person or niggers bc they were told from social media to not be racist and blabla it happens, just bc it didnt happen to you yet doesnt mean it cant you are a naive retard thats all
>>34359720I'm not disagreeing that bad things have come from people being too trusting. What I'm disagreeing with is shutting down the option of trust for no reason because you can't conceive that a sick person might just want someone to talk to.
>>34359601Both you and your boyfriend are very young and dont have a developed understanding of the world beyond the physical. Mental illness is an incredibly abstract concept and by extension, empathy is too. > "How would you feel if you couldn't tell what was or wasn't real and nobody helped you or checked in on you?"Nobody can tell whats real or not, some people are tuned in further to patterns which lend themselves to survival like your boyfriend, others, like the schizophrenic guy, are "malfunctioning" in a way and lack consciousness, they seek patterns which are confusing and frightening to others compulsively and without knowing why. Schizophrenia is the disappearance of the "I," I'm no expert on this but to my understanding schizophrenia is more of a "primitive" state of mind, almost a self hypnosis. >nobody helped you or checked in on you?Again, nobody can actually help these people, they can only help themselves.>my boyfriend is worried about me getting killedHelp people in a way that has more security and red tape if you want to compromise, ie soup kitchen, group home. Social workers are important but you need to take your safety seriously, something bad will eventually happen, thats life, not a matter of if, its when. Don't help out randoms unless you want your boyfriend to resent/dump you, he is already upset over this.
>>34359715>just because the old man has a mental illness that doesn't make him dangerous.Cautious is always a better condition than regret
>>34359601I have empathy and I care about others greatly. I have empathy for my girl and I will do anything for her. Nothing will stop us being together, because we will do everything and anything it takes to remove those things that attempt to harm us. I care for her above all else. My empathy for her is greater than anything else.
>>34359601There's a difference between schizophrenia and someone maliciously larping to influence emotions and emotionally blackmail someone
>>34359601men with empathy exist, unfortunately men also don't know how to cope with their problems so they are often alcoholics, drug addicts, etc or sometimes just use empathy for manipulation. stay single until you meet the literal perfect person.
>>34359601>"How would you feel if you couldn't tell what was or wasn't real and nobody helped you or checked in on you?"Why is that your responsibility? And what have you done (if at all) to prepare for or prevent the negative outcomes that could result from the situations you are putting yourself in from going south?It's one thing to be charitable, it's another to be reckless through a severe lack of caution. And an overinflated sense of self importance. Mental illness isn't just a disability, it's a severe dysfunction in the person's ability to weigh and judge appropriate actions in society as a whole. You aren't even remotely prepared for the kind of burden that results from thinking your involvement in such a person's life isn't going to bring about negative consequences. Here's what you haven't asked yourself>How would I feel if I were in the reverse situation where my boyfriend is doing something perceivably very stupid that could get him killed? But my concern for his wellbeing were responded to with hostility and accusations of being emotionally stunted?Say one day he decides he wants to buy a motorcycle and use it to commute every day. Would you have no concern for his safety and try to discourage him from doing that?When you are in a relationship you lose independence because there is another person who will be directly impacted by all of your decisions.You having a lack of self-preservation is stressing him out.
I made her a promise to care for her and part of that is protecting her. I will never harm her ever. If If ever have to take action it will be to remove the threat and the bad future. Whatever the cost, I will not allow that future to be here in this life. I promise that.
>>34359737its not like he forbid you to ever go there again, i dont know what you want, seems like youre just attentionwhoring bc femcel board is down
Looking forward to when you get Ryan Carson'd in front of your bf.
>>34359601Men have loads of empathy, they express it different ways though because our internal worlds are very different from women. In this case though, I suspect his concern for your wellbeing overrode his natural empathy until you directly pointed it out to him. He was being protective of you, and once you asked him to consider the other point of view it sounds like he understood. That’s an empathic action, if he didn’t have empathy he wouldn’t have been able to compute the feelings of being schizophrenic because he isn’t and has never been schizophrenic. People without empathy literally cannot comprehend feelings for consequences or situations they themselves have not experienced before. Your boyfriend sounds fine, try not to ruin your relationship because you mistook his concern for you being his priority over a stranger’s emotional life as an inability to put himself in other people’s shoes.
>>34359601The fact that your boyfriend lacks empathy does not automatically imply that all other men do too.
>>34359601>Women>having empathy
>>34359607>>34359609>>34359610>>34359622m*n are fucking insane.
>>34361683I have no idea what you're talking about. Sounds like your projecting your own internal faggotey and patheticness. How about you take accountability and deal with your own bullshit instead of pushing it on others
I meant what I said and I keep my promises
Didn't read any replies and only read half of OP's story, is this bait or nah?
>>34364670Yes it is very clearly bait
Men serve a different function generally. We do have empathy but we also don't view other people as babies.
>>34359601Not performative empathy, no.Well, aside from male feminists
>>34359601>hangs out with a literal schizophrenic all day>DUDE WTF WHY DOES MY BOYFRIEND FEAR FOR MY SAFETY AND NOT THINK OF LE POOR SCHIZO BABBY GRANDPA :(women are legitimately insane
>>34359601bro I would drown 1000 indians personally for a new truck or house.
You should be ashamed of using Kuuga for a shitty bait thread.
>>34359601>I've had a bad experience with an individual of a particular group. Does this individual represent each individual of said group?
>>34359607As if an old man who needs help with basic day-to-day activities could seriously harm anyone Kek
>>34367818it will happen if that time comes. Guarenteed
>>34367845Why does every retard in this thread have PPD
>>34367845>>34359607>>34359720People with schizophrenia are 14 times more likely to be abused than to be abusive. You have never read anything in your life. People with schizophrenia are also more likely to commit suicide than to physically hurt someone else.
>>34367882i don't have schizophrenia, that is just you narc emotional blackmail false narrative manipulation of perception. It comes across as childish, desperate, and pathetic.As well as a waste of words because the line is absolute as well as what happens after
>>34367906Literally no one cares about you Mikey-boy. No one here is talking about you. No one is saying you have schizophrenia because no one cares about you. But yes, you don't have schizophrenia. You're just an attention seeking bpder/npder
>>34359601As a man who is extremely empathetic, if my girlfriend were spending all her time hanging out with some schizophrenic random rather than spending time with me or doing a productive hobby I'd dump her.Just because you have empathy doesn't mean everyone deserves equal consideration. I feel bad for children in Africa but I'm not going to send 50% of my salary to them and spend the other 50% on my own kids. I'm going to spend 100% of it on my own kids because our familial relationship is infinitely more important than the well-being of someone across the world in a different culture
