Maybe the reason I'm so fucking weird is because I consciously shut myself off from people. Any attempts at them talking with me end fast because I have nothing to talk about and neither does it interest me for the most part what they have to say, and if I DO say something it turns out to be a little weird and my best guess in socializing is to not socialize at all, takes less energy out of me. Also those recurring thoughts of "those people want to actually hurt me" "get information out of me so they could tell their friends about it" or make some shit up on me. It's been happening with me already and I must say that I'm not all that paranoid about this, I just follow my gut feeling. Because there's just something about people trying to get my opinions on things where we don't usually talk.When it comes to friends, I talk about world issues so much on a daily basis that it makes them not want to participate in conversations with me, despite the fact that we seemingly agree on things - it's like topics they aren't really interested about but rather say those things because it's something we have in common. It has most certainly taken a tool on me, it's like the number one thing I care about are wars, globohomo agenda, women etc. shit that's blatantly insane and it just makes me want to discuss that.How do I fix that? How do I stop talking about shit and get to understand what do people actually want to talk to.Is not talking to people about the things (that are SFW) that I'd like to the way? Is it all about pleasing people with just listening to them? I don't know.
>>34359716To listen, takes direct communication. That's the first step
>>34359716You have two choices. Either find people that are into the same stuff that you are and only talk to them, or try to empathize with other people and get to understand their point of view. The second option makes it easier to find a job.
>>34360111I will have no issue finding a job in my field, it's high demand.And yes I absolutely need to find likeminded "weird" people so that I don't lose my energy talking to them but rather actually enjoy it, sadly the most I've found so far was an insane goth bitch that was just a psychotic narcissist>dude fuck her HEH HEHfuck off
>>34360894Have you tried engaging in social hobbies for people with the same interests as yourself? That’s worked for me.
>>34359716you recognize that you're not able to talk with people how you'd want, which is good & is the first step, but now it's up to you to remedy that.you have to think about how & why you can't continue these conversations, why things you say come off as weird, & why you're paranoid about their intentions. listen to what they're saying, think about it, comment.be mindful of the person & what they might be uncomfortable with, or the mood/atmosphere of the conversation.work off of what they're bringing up.you shouldn't not talk to people, even if you're struggling to talking with them like you'd hope, because we all benefit a lot from doing so in many ways.it doesn't have to be that you feel exhausted either & so focused on 'pleasing' the other person you feel neglected.you can talk with the other person & feel good about it.also you're not weird or bad for doing this. you're a normal, okay person.
>>34362252Thanks this is genuinely good advice. Especially the part about thinking what could make people uncomfortable, some things that I deem normal to talk about are absolute taboo for others or offensive, and here's my question, why the fuck would I even interact with such person? I have some people like that and the only reason I talk to them is because we have a common goal and actually help each other, they are rather useful, but not someone that I can talk about everything. To top it all off, there's a girl that acts screamy when you correct her on some things because she's insecure as fuck about her intelligence lol. She pretends she's the shit but really she's sort of a midwit, it's like minor things to hate someone over but at the same time it completely destroys the image of that person because you try to like her but the way she acts for example just makes you not want to waste your energy on that. I don't know I feel like I'm surrounded by immature people and I'm not trying to make myself look better or anything, I'm no saint but at least I know when to shut the fuck up and not participate in a conversation going bad.I suppose my main issue is that other people don't care about all those rules which you've listed (which I agree with btw) and they just push your boundaries while not really providing anything good.yes this is university, does it get better next year? I'm freshman and really hoping for people to mature at least a bit. I find myself talking to older people (have kids, married etc.) as a more pleasant time.
>>34362286>does it get better next year?It doesn't get better at all, this behavior extends all the way into adulthood becaus adolescence has been extended all the way into the 30s
