>>34359794
Nothing is ever a secret.

>>34359794
You're a piece of shit for marrying just for a visa, and your parents are bigger pieces of shit for forcing your wife to convert, and you're a bitch for worrying about what your parents want when ya just became your own man by marrying someone and trying to hide it from them. Literally everything you said disgusts me.

>>34359794
This - 2 ceremonies - is done all the time, for innocent reasons. A couple may marry impulsively and later have a big wedding just to please family. Or there may be a delay in assembling family for a big ceremony. Or there may be other deadlines to meet. And some married couples "re-affirm their vows" in a second wedding years after the first.

The civil authorities don't give a damn.

>>34360818
i am the wife posting this and two both of us are not religious we are larping infront of them. he is not using me for a visa, i want him to live here with me which requires a spouse visa

>>34360896
thanks

>>34359794
I think you're overcomplicating this. Do a low-profile registry-office marriage for legal reasons. When you decide to go public, have your boyfriend convert and then do the nikkah ceremony *without* a legal component. Then if anyone asks, just say (truthfully) "oh, actually we were legally married a while ago, but we've been living apart". Your parents will care far more about you being Islamically married to a Muslim than they will care about your legal status; and once you are Islamically married, so long as there *is* a marriage licence, no one will care that it pre-dates the nikkah. Obviously you and your husband can't have sex or kiss or anything until after the nikkah (or at any rate your family mustn't catch you doing it!) but otherwise you should be fine.

>>34361190
My parents want me to be married after I'm done studying in 6 years and don't want me being with anyone until then so I cannot say that we've already been together before and visited each other. I want him to live here with me which requires a spouse visa so we have to get married in secret in order to be together

>>34359794
Just marry him openly in defiance of your terrorist father and openly dare him to honor kill you as your backwards religion demands he must. You'll find that he respects you more for trampling his deeply cherished beliefs.

Or he beheads you. Either way you have an answer.

>>34361240
It's a waste of a life to let your religion and family control you completely.

>>34361334
This. Things like family, duty, faith, and tradition are just manmade traps. You should live hedonistically for yourself and help contribute to the fall of civilization.

>>34361240
If you want to do it that way, marry now in secret, and then in six years time introduce him to everybody and do the nikkah. You don't have to tell them at that point how long ago you got married, just say you've already done a registry office wedding (and imply that it was only a week ago) and now you want to get married before Allah so you can actually be together. (Quite honestly, you'll probably be divorced six years from now, and it won't even matter).

But I think you're overstating the problem. If you bring the guy forward and say "I have met this guy. Obviously we haven't kissed yet, but he wants to convert to Islam and marry me, and I want that too," your parents will be perfectly happy with that. They're worried about your immortal soul; but so long as you get Islamically married to a decent Muslim man and you're a virgin on your wedding night (as far as they know!) I really don't think it's going to be an issue.

>>34361700
thank you