Why is it so hard for me to let go of wanting a man? They don't even want me but I can't let go of the idea of finding a ~soulmate~ even though it's a childish pipe dream
>>34362433Soulmates are real, hopefully you'll meet yours soon
>>34362433Why let go? How old are you?I met the love of my life young and we grew into soulmates, it may just come in a form you're not aware of yet.
>>34362433Because you don’t have experience with them. Try using some dating apps and meeting some guys then you’ll no longer want to be with a man. Men are overrated.
>>34364397tell that to the uggos i see outside in relationships all the time
>>34364387men on dating apps are not men in general
>>34362433I'm like this only I want a wife so badly.
>>34363484I'm 28>>34364387What makes you say that? I know gender relations aren't the best right now but I still want to be in a relationship with a man>>34368370You should go on married at first sight or love is blind
>>34362433>I can't let go of the idea of finding a ~soulmate~They don't exist. Every relationship involves compromise of some kind. You'll find that out after dating more than a half dozen people."The one for you" ends up just being the person you would regret not being able to spend more time with.
>>34362433>I can't let go of the idea of finding a ~soulmate~Can't help you with that. You need to grow up, that's all the advice I can give.>Why is it so hard for me to let go of wanting a man?You will always want a man and nothing can change that. It's in your nature, just like men want women.What you should do is lose weight if you're fat and take care of yourself. Just how you don't like fat men, men don't like fat women either.
>>34368450>I know gender relations aren't the best right nowYou have internet brain rot. Men are people too. Some are bad some are good, just like women.
>>34368622Where did I say I don't see men as people ? Cool it with the hostility
>>34368627Then why do you want to stop wanting a man?
>>34368627I'll be honest here and make I few presumptions but I could be wrong. I think you're not particularly attractive and yet you're super picky and want a traditionally handsome man. This is always where this kind of mindset stems from, from both men and women. Your way out of this is acknowledging it and accepting your draw in life and trying to be happy with what's achievable for you, and that may be an ugly or fat man.
>>34368450>What makes you say that? I know gender relations aren't the best right now but I still want to be in a relationship with a manWhoever said that probably recently got her heartbroken. That or this whole gender war thing people see online, which is splitting us apart. >>They don't even want me but I can't let go of the idea of finding a ~soulmate~ even though it's a childish pipe dreamAs a man, I can tell you that while we do not use the same terminology necessarily, for the most part it is what we are looking for too. In fact, most of these threads are from men desperate to find women. While we are told that it is "cool" to have as much sex as possible, it is meaningless and not fulfilling to either party. It is simply the result of hookup culture being forced upon our generation, particularly as a result of the media. My point being is that you are being completely rational.>>Why is it so hard for me to let go of wanting a man? Because that is what you are "programmed" I suppose to want, same as a guy is for a girl. It is the most natural thing in the world. If anything, wanting otherwise is probably a bigger issue. I am not sure how the whole dating scene works from a woman's perspective. From what I have seen, there are a lot of guys to choose from, regardless of who you are. I suppose wanting someone more mature though is a different story. Do not give up though.
>>34368745I don't like the dating apps and my schedule is work, school and grocery shopping. I'm not meeting anyone new and I'm not even sure where I would
>>34368858That's like asking "I don't have enough time to drink water, how can I stop myself from craving it?"Or, I suppose a more similar comparison would be "how can I stop caring about being lonely because I don't have time to meet friends."Dating apps suck, find other ways.
>>34362433Are you a cute black girl cause if you are there's a millions of dudes out there that wanna be called your lil nigga, if not disregard this comment and kys.
>>34369807Aight den lil nigga
>>34369859Ō#_#ŌThank you
>>34362433just live your life and don't settle. it's natural to want a partner, but if you become too desperate, that's when you get taken advantage of. just take a "it will happen when it happens" approach
>>34362433I've spent most my life not wanting a woman, it's only hit me recently in my early 30s. I actually thought I had found my soulmate on 4chan, yes I know that's stupid. But I kept running into her over and over like it was fate or some shit. We got along well but sadly I guess we were incompatible in other ways plus she didn't trust me because of prior weird things I did so she broke it off with me. Now I wake up every day and look at my email hoping she'd change her mind and message me again.
>>34362433Honestly it's cause you really want a man. You could try speed dating. You should want love for what it is and not idealization like soulmate tho I suppose. It depends what you mean cause some people do feel like they complete you and will stay with you forever.
>>34370077What does this have to do with advice
>>34362433If you're a girl and you don't have a boyfriend, that's purely by choice. Your standards are likely just way too high.
