Do I talk to him about it? He didn't say anything, but I saw him in short sleeves for the first time, and they were pretty obvious on his arms. It doesn't bother me, I just want to be supportive in any way I can. So, is it best to bring it up myself, or is it something to let him address when he's ready? It's still early and I don't want to take things too far by talking about a serious things like that before he's comfortable. Any advice is appreciated
Just hold his hand when he's alone with you and say you're here for him if he ever needs to talk. Don't bring it up, but make him feel safe enough around you to open up on his own, otherwise it would be like forcing a wound open if you insist on talking about it when he isn't ready. All you can do is love him and support him.
>>34363324As a guy with self harm scars, I am extremely embarrassed by them and I would never want anyone to bring them up or talk about them. I did it to myself when I was a retarded teenager while drunk and depressed
>>34363324No, unless he brings them up. Speaking as a dude who also has them, I would suggest you don’t. Don’t even do what >>34363538 said, just leave them be. He’ll mention them in his own time.
>>34363324Maybe they're just dueling scars? Or the result of a tragic chainsaw accident?
>>34363324Make suicide jokes to him.>hopefully what i just said didn't hurt too much, it would be a shame of you cut yourself again
>>34363324>I saw him in short sleeves for the first timeIt sounds like you two started dating pretty recently.>is it best to bring it up myself, or is it something to let him address when he's ready?It's tough. You shouldn't bring it up yourself if you're not sure he's ok with it, but it's also very unlikely that he'll just bring it up himself. If you do bring it up, you'll have to be gentle and make it clear that they don't bother you. Also don't say anything close to "promise you'll stop for me"
