so I've been fucking this married woman for the past couple of weeks. Before you say anything, it's an open relationship, so her husband knows and also sees other people. She's really hot and it's really fun, we can fuck for hours easily. But she told me that her husband is bi and frequently sees men which sort of worries me because I've been cumming in her raw, and I know how prevalent STDs can be in gay communities. I haven't asked how much her and her husband have been fucking because I feel it'd be too personal. But what would be the chances she got something from him and then I got something from her?
>>3436502820%
>>34365028Test? Bring it up in conversation? Since you fuck I don't think it would be awkard to do so...
>>34365028lmao five more meetings and he'll be balls deep inside you while you eat her out.
>>34365153Wait, is that gay?
>>34365161I used to fuck with swingers, nudists, and bi couples in my 20's.Yeah kinda.
>>34365028>I haven't asked how much her and her husband have been fucking because I feel it'd be too personal.Dude, talk to her. Are you really going to risk catching Hepatitis C because you're embarrassed to bring it up? Honestly, though, when you're involved in this kind of relationship in any capacity you should always use condoms.
>>34365169polymorphs and bisexuals are walking STI petri dishes. It's precious that he thinks he's her only lover whilst her husband double dips after ass fucking grindr randoms.Bro get tested.
>>34365028Man up, talk to her, and get tested for crissakes. If you're fucking someone raw and you don't know their STI status, that's a good way to get infected with something. Her and her husband should get tested too.
>>34365070>>34365215I just need a way to do it without it sounding like I’m accusing her of being dirty. And I just got tested and was clean for the most part. The only thing I’m waiting on is my hsv test results.>>34365169Yeah that’s why I’m starting to get scared shitless.>>34365178I know she fucks around. It’s an open relationship. She’s told me about other hookups she’s had.
>>34366610the chances that you catch something from her if you are literally rawdogging her is about 100%, the tests are not reliable but desu a person like you who engages with such persons in such activities... hello? like its obvious this is gonna happen
>>34366615Test for what specifically? I’ve only fucked her twice. And she didn’t tell me her husband was bi until the last time we met tbf. But yeah it’s pretty wise to cut things off unless she agrees to get tested or I start putting on a rubber. I’m too hypochondriatic for this shit. I don’t see how people do hookup culture and stay sane.
>>34366610>I just need a way to do it without it sounding like I’m accusing her of being dirty.If she takes offense at it I'd be laughing because it would show a critical lack of self awareness, she's already dirty as fuck. She's a married woman who fucks strangers on the regular. I hope they don't have kids, their "marriage" is an open wound asking for infection. The infection being some strange man they allow in molests their kids.
>>34366656>I don’t see how people do hookup culture and stay sane.Because it's for people who already lost their marbles, had their wires crossed, or otherwise went a bit crazy. Hookup culture is by default a psychopathic practice. I don't mean the spooky evil edgy meaning of "psychopath", I am talking about the real clinical definition here: Using other humans for short term gain or satisfaction at the cost of affective empathy, that's what that is. Casual sex requires a lick of that psychopathic practice because that's how to do it: Use someone else for casual sex (short term satisfaction) at the cost of affective empathy (feeling for them). That means you can't get too close, can't catch feelings, can't care for their wellbeing or safety or get involved too much. It requires a bit of dehumanisation of each other to pull off, only identifying one another as sexual actors and not full humans. That's why when you have the casual sex you get that weird cognitive dissonance flaring up, things feel complicated eventually and you ask yourself "how do people do hookup culture and stay sane" lol. The answer is you don't stay sane bud. And the ones who are comfortable doing it are those who lost their innocence and sanity a long long time ago. Also you are gonna get fucked by the man literally eventually. The reason why the woman brought up her husband's proclivity is because she wanted you to know. Because he wanted you to know, she was speaking through her, prompted by him to gauge how you feel about men because he wants a threesome. That should be obvious to you but you're neck deep in the shit pile so you won't see it
>>34366656>I've only fucked her twice.And I have the flu and I only sneezed on you twice.I get not wanting to call her dirty. Most swingers are understanding about sexual health. So you can and and should bring up your concerns if you want to keep it going. Also, raw dogging in a poly anything is stupid.Also, other anons are right, the husband wants to fuck you. Think about if you're good with that. Maybe try a dildo first when you're alone if you're considering it. And if you're straight, that's fine too. Don't get pressured if you're uncomfortable.
>>34366656>I don’t see how people do hookup culture and stay sane.They use condoms. >Test for whatChlamydia, Gonnorhea, Syphilis and HIV are the more common ones. If you can find a clinic that does a blood test for herpes, that's useful, but many don't test for herpes unless you have symptoms. Hepatitis A, B and C and HPV are also possibilities - again, not all clinics test for them.If you're not vaccinated against HPV, get vaccinated. And the same applies to all three strains of hepatitis.
>>34367458She doesn't strike me as a dirty person. Last time I was over at her house it was spotless, no lie it looked like you could eat off the floor. She's very well groomed and works in software sales. Honestly on the outside looking in no one would ever suspect she's into this lifestyle. I don't know how much this cleanliness translates to sexual health, but yeah. And she did tell me she wants kids one day, but not while she's doing the open relationship thing.Also some more info I forgot to mention. She said her husband didn't reveal he was bi until after the marriage. And the reason the open relationship was even brought up was because he would always joke to her about her being able to get hotter men than him. She said she always blew it off until she released he was serious, so apparently, it started off as a cuckhold thing. And she's said I was a lot taller and athletic and better in bed than her husband. She also said she hates the idea of him seeing other women, so I guess he exclusively sees men if I read in-between the lines? See I'm really curious about their relationship but I feel it wouldn't be my place to pry. I wonder if it was a sexless marriage and the open relationship was a way of coping with that.>>34367477Yeah. Out of all the casual sexual encounters I've had, which hasn't been a lot tbf, 90% are awful because there's not enough time for chemistry, and the remaining 10% that are good, I want continuity and more intimacy but that eliminates the point of a casual hookup in the first place. And I can already tell I've started to cop feels for this girl. Besides the sex being really good I genuinely like her as a person. After we got done fucking the other night I could have laid in her bed for hours just talking to her. But I had to leave because her husband was coming home. I don't think I'm mentally cut out for this.
>>34367630For things like HSV and HIV, in serodiscordant couples, the per act transmission rate of regular vaginal intercourse, pretty much 90% of what we do (we do oral some too), hovers around a fraction of a percent. I think it comes out to a cumulative annual risk of 2-4% and 1-2% respectively. I'm trying not to catastrophize lol.>Also, other anons are right, the husband wants to fuck you. Think about if you're good with that. Maybe try a dildo first when you're alone if you're considering it. And if you're straight, that's fine too. Don't get pressured if you're uncomfortable.Can't tell if your trolling or not. I'm straight. So no, that's not going to happen.>>34367643If she had something serious I wouldn't want to be fucking her with or without a condom.>Chlamydia, Gonnorhea, Syphilis and HIV are the more common ones>herpeswas clean of these.>Hepatitis A, B and CWhich one of these are kids routinely immunized against? I probably have a vax for one of them.>HPVI don't even think males can get tested for this routinely. But yeah I've been looking into the vax for it. But what's the deal with the age requirements on it?Honestly I'm mostly concerned about the incurable diseases. For the rest you can just take some antivirals or antibiotics and be good to go if I'm not mistaken.
>>34368432>I feel it wouldn't be my place to pry.Why not? >I wonder if it was a sexless marriage and the open relationship was a way of coping with that.Unlikely.>I don't think I'm mentally cut out for this.You definitely aren't. I suggest you cut your losses. Open relationships aren't for everyone.>>34368432>If she had something serious I wouldn't want to be fucking her with or without a condom.Absolutely anybody *can* have something serious, regardless of whether they're in an open relationship or not, and many people who have an STD don't know that they do. You never know for sure. Using a condom is like wearing a seatbelt: you don't *know* you're going to crash, but it makes it much less fatal if you do.>>Hepatitis A, B and C>Which one of these are kids routinely immunized against?None of them.>HPV>But what's the deal with the age requirements on it?It's routinely offered to pre-teens in some countries, but you can get it at any age if you pay. It won't flush an existing infection out of your body, though.
>>34368442>Honestly I'm mostly concerned about the incurable diseases. For the rest you can just take some antivirals or antibiotics and be good to go if I'm not mistaken.Chlamydia, Gonnorhea and Syphilis can usually be cured with antibiotics, although antibiotic-resistant Gonnorhea is becoming more common, and all of them can be very serious if not treated: Syphilis, in particular, can cause permanent brain damage or even kill. HIV is treatable, but incurable: you have to stay on the antiviral drugs for life, they're expensive, and they have side effects - if you stop taking them, you probably have about ten years to live. Hepatitis A one usually recovers from in about 2 months; Hepatitis B you usually get over in about 6 months, but it can turn chronic; Hepatitis C often lasts forever and can cause liver failure. HPV isn't curable, but the body usually flushes it out after 7 years or so; some strains cause genital warts; others occasionally cause cancer. Herpes lasts forever, but outbreaks tend to become less frequent with time.
>>34365028>I haven't asked how much her and her husband have been fuckingAnon...he is gay. They probably havent had sex in many years.
>>34365028You deserve to get an STD.
>>34369371>why notBecause that’s between her and her husband? I know she’s in an open relationship but that doesn’t give me the right of way to ask every detail about the sex she had with other men, so I’d think. How do these things typically go?> You definitely aren'tWhy do you say that? I do genuinely like her outside of sex.> None of them.Google says hep A and B are. No vax for hep C>>34369393That’d certainly calm my nerves more.
>>34369642>Why do you say that? I do genuinely like her outside of sex.I'm not commenting on whether *she* is someone you like, I'm simply saying that you're not mentally equipped for a non-monogamous relationship, irrespective of who it's with. Most people aren't. It takes an unusual sort of brain to be able to handle non-monogamy.
>>34368432>She doesn't strike me as a dirty person. Last time I was over at her house it was spotless, no lie it looked like you could eat off the floor. She's very well groomed and works in software sales.That's not the context I was intending on when I said "dirty". By dirty I mean a whore, a slut, a jezebel, a siren, a banshee, a harpy. A loose woman, a woman who walked around a few blocks a town bike, a blow-up doll. A woman who lets strangers bust in her on the daily. Dirty in morals and dirty in value.>She also said she hates the idea of him seeing other women, so I guess he exclusively sees men if I read in-between the lines?He's a hypersexual pervert. He'd fuck anything with a Zip code. Wife is a woman, and women are submissive creatures by default. She indulges his cuck bisexual fetish because she doesn't want to lose him but she draws a line at him fucking other women because she is terrified of losing him. So she lets him fuck around.>See I'm really curious about their relationshipThe woman is the type to neurotically control and contain psychotic types, it's all she knows. The dude is the psychotic type. Neurotic x Psychotic romance. Everyone gets fucked, mentally and physically.>After we got done fucking the other night I could have laid in her bed for hours just talking to her. But I had to leave because her husband was coming home. I don't think I'm mentally cut out for this.Wait until it hits you that you were valueless to her, just a sex toy with legs to entertain her weird husband.
>>34369746I’m not being defensive I’m just curious. Are you saying this because I’m neurotically obsessing over the STD thing or me admitting I’m copping some feels for her?>>34369810> Wait until it hits you that you were valueless to her, just a sex toy with legs to entertain her weird husband.We didn’t do any cuck play involving her husband. And I don’t want her to be exclusive to me. But it would be nice if she thought of me as a good friend that she enjoyed having sex with.
