I want to fuck my gf all the time. I'm always so horny, its painfully unfair that I have such an attractive gf and yet she doesn't want to have sex more than a couple of times a week. I've discussed it with her, we agree that I just enjoy sex more than she does. I want to figure out how I can make sex more fun for her, but she doesn't have any ideas on what to do differently.Obviously the first thing is to set the mood, which I feel like I've done my best at, but we currently both live with other people so we can only do it really late or early in the day. But I'd appreciate any tips to initiate that make her feel comfortable and not intimidate her with expectations.Secondly, I have tried asking her if she'd like to explore different ways of having sex. She has been fairly opposed to this for some reason, she only wants to do missionary. I got her a toy, which she's nervous to use during sex because she feels self conscious. She says something about the toy "making the sex about her", which she doesn't like I guess, even though it helps her cum. Despite this, she loves getting eaten out, but having a shower beforehand is often too much of a barrier of effort. And if I do eat her out, then she is always too tired to have sex afterwards. So it's one or the other.I'm also trying to be as attractive as I can be. I workout a lot so I'm fairly muscular, but I don't quite have abs yet so I'm losing a bit of weight. I'm also 6'2", so I feel like I'm in a fairly good position, but maybe getting a better haircut and fashion sense would make a difference here, I don't know. She says she finds me attractive already, but it's hard to trust an answer like that when she never looks over when I walk into the room shirtless.cont.
>>34367497Other than that, the only thing I can think of is changing her diet, maybe there's a deficiency in something that's reducing her libido. The other thing would be the fluoxetine she was on for anxiety, but she's off that now, and was using that for years and supposedly it should only affect libido at the start.What else should I be considering? Of course one option is to just have less sex, but it's lowering my self esteem as well as leaving me increasingly sexually frustrated. Masturbating doesn't seem to help, there's still a build-up of resentment and I feel shameful and unattractive.
Same issue, only I'm married and I cope with fapping a ton.To my knowledge, you can't really change these things, sexual compatibility between 2 people is basically set in stone. For example she might not have much sex with you, but in an alternate time-line with another person she might have a lot of sex.1 important thing is to not put yourself down because of this, and not stress too much. It's all about sexual compatibility, one woman might be sexually compatible with you and have sex with you 6 times a day, but she might not even love you. For women, sex is a means to an end, for men, it's an end. That's why I've never been opposed with visiting escorts as a man, you pay for a basic service which your woman can not fulfill to your desire. It's like going at a restaurant for a high end meal; doesn't mean your woman's cooking is not good, or she doesn't cook. It's a basic service, and it's only been fairly recent in the human culture that visiting ladies is systematically shamed.You're not profitable if your needs are met. Married men with kids and a nagging wife are the pushing engine of society.
You are not compatible sexually
>>34367501>What else should I be considering?Probably nothing. Not wanting sex more than a couple of times a week is perfectly normal; it's not a sign that there's something wrong. Wanting it two or three times a day is also normal, of course. People's sex drives vary. Your libido and hers are not simply not well matched, and there is probably nothing you can do about that. You need to make a decision: is this something you can live with indefinitely, or is it a deal-breaker? If it's a deal-breaker, then split up; otherwise, live with it gracefully.
>>34367497she just doesn't like you like that, bro. she already got pounded 24/7 by her first love, you're just number 837 out of 1463. it's just your turn.
>>34367501>>34367497You should be setting the mood 24/7. You don't set the mood before sex. If you're not flirting with her constantly, subtly, you're doing it wrong. To put it simply, mentally edge her. My best advice I can give. But you have to keep it completely plausibly deniable. Don't ever let her pin you down as to what you're doing.
>>34367672In my experience this happens naturally when I'm with my girl. All it takes is my voice and seeing me. Communicating directly.
>>34367695I don't know what you're talking about.
>>34367710My girl does
>>34367714Does what?
>>34367497I think you're just uglier than you think. If you have to consciously "try to make yourself more attractive" then it means you're not attractive. A real good-looking man makes all women addicted to him, and more precisely addicted to getting bred by him 24/7. It's not even a question of personal choice, but more of lymbic system. Find another partner, because as things stand she's with you because of other reasons and not because of real love/attraction/desire to carry your genes.
>>34367497Get another girlfriend, but stay secretive about the 2nd one of course.
>>34367735Fuck that, get someone to fuck her for you so you can see how it's done.
>>34367737What?>>34367497Just low sexual compatiblity. I think i could live with a gf who's like this. I'd just look at porn the rest of the time like a already do.
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>>34367497I've never been in a situation where I needed to ask for more sex, women follow my lead all the time. More often I've turned down my gfs. I feel bad about that, kinda, but it was usually cus I had stuff to do, or I was dead tired.I'm kinda curious if she likes you>>34367542You ever just take her holes when you wanted them?
>>34368160Yeah, couple days ago actually but i chafed my dick tip. Doesn't change the fact that sex incompatibility exists, even if I take her and she struggles a bit then goes with the flow of my lead, still doesn't change the fact that I initiated it and not her.
>>34367542I'm definitely trying not to let it get to me, but it seems I instinctively tie a huge part of my perceived attractiveness and self worth to how willing my gf is to have sex with me. I don't know how to choose not to care, and I'm worried I'd do something dumb and look for validation elsewhere>>34367658I'm her first love. She's never done it with anyone else>>34367672this is hard because she currently lives with her parents, and is always busy. But I get what you mean, you're right about the plausible deniability>>34367719yeah this seems quite realistic, but that means there's nothing I can do beyond a certain point. It's so weird though, because she's being very pushy about getting married>>34368160knowing that there are guys who get to have this makes me so resentful. I'm just holding onto hope that with enough effort I can get there with her
>>34367497Two times a week is about average for a relationship that's lasted a while for women. It's only going to drop as she gets older, and especially if you marry her. You just need to find a high libido women. I'd recommend redneckish women with mannish faces and big asses.
issue is some high libido women are whores, first gf I had I nutted in over 400 times in the year we were together, was fantastic, current gf barely once a week maybe once every 2 weeks which is insane, I'm in fantastic shape and when we go out she gets annoyed that women look at me apparently but we barely fuck, she has fucked up insides though and keeps eating junk food which doesn't help despite her being low body fat. The other day some short alt girl in my elevator complimented my arms, sex isn't everything but its kinda annoying.
>>34367497>a couple of times a weekbruh, that's more than most men can hope for, you have a problem.
>>34367497>its painfully unfairlol, how?It's unfair to her for you to expect constant access to her orifices at your convenience instead of hers.Say she had a constant overwhelming desire to stick her finger in your nose at least once a day. Would it be "unfair" to her if you didn't want her to?>she doesn't want to have sex more than a couple of times a weekThat's not even remotely unusual you spoiled child.
>>34367497>make her feel comfortable and not intimidate her with expectations.Nigga it's about you, not her. She seems happy sex-wise. Tell her you want more but it's not a deal breaker in your relationship, you'll still love her no matter what blah blah, but you want to fuck more and how should we do it. Really hammer it in that you like her anyway and will stay with her and will not love her less/think less of her, but you want more sex and you want to cum more but it's okay if she can't accommodate. But if she can, you would really appreciate being blown or whatever she can do. Women usually love making men cum, makes them feel desired. > it's lowering my self esteemSHE has lower sex drive. YOUR attractiveness will not impact that. You could be top dude and she'd entrap you with sex and then it will dry up. The ball is in her court but as most people she has hangups about sex and worries it'll make her seem cheap or wrong or a sexual object or whatever bullshit she invented for herself that prevents her from lubing your dick and taking it for 15 minutes and pretending to enjoy it. DO NOT tie your self esteem to sex. Culture pushes the narrative that if you're a manly man or whatever you'll have lots of sex. Nah. Depends on women around you more than on you. >Masturbating doesn't seem to helpYes it never helps don't masturbate and channel it into being romantic. Will it lead to more sex? Not directly, but she'll like/trust you more/enjoy herself more. Being giving is cool as long as you don't bankrupt yourself.> build-up of resentment Don't do that. Create a space to talk about it. If it's a deal breaker tell her and dump her. If it's not, tell her. Be a grown up with yourself at least and figure out if it's a deal breaker for you personally. Then be a grown up with her. Even if she behaves like a child. >and I feel shameful and unattractiveAgain, the problem is not how you look.
>>34370529>knowing that there are guys who get to have this makes me so resentfulThere are no guys who get to have this. He's lying.>>34370721It's gonna turn into daily fuckfest when they decide to have kids and she's ovulating. In my experience women have frequent sex when they entrap you at the start of relationship (months) and then when they want kids.
>>34375611Actually nah, there are guys like that, but it's not about ebin attractiveness. My friend is a guy like that but he just built a relationship that way, he's a manlet. But a fun dude to be with.
>>34375597>DO NOT tie your self-esteem to sex.This
Lmao when people say there's sexual "incompatibility". Mate that's more like sexual ineptitude, sexual dysfunction, sexual ignorance, sexual obliviousness, sexual retardation. You ez just adjust your own sexual drive to whatever level your partner is at. You learn whatever proclivities the other has and you enjoy them together, as long as they aren't injuring you or taking way too much time out of your day. If your partner refuses everything, then they're either too retarded to comprehend sexual pleasure or they don't like you enough
