How do you move on from an ex when you have to see her every single day in college? It's been half a year since being dumped, I thought we were both really smitten with each other, she 'love-bombed' me and I reciprocated. Then suddenly she just started cutting contact with me and dumped me without explanation. Although I can explain it to myself, I'm mediocre compared to other men and she decided she can do better. That's fine, I can't force someone to love me, but I have the same lectures with her, and now she's with someone else. To be reminded every day that you're inadequate, that you're just an embarrassing memory to somebody when they were everything for you, and that now someone makes them happier in ways that you couldn't...it's fucking unbearable. Every single day the humiliation ritual repeats. Ironically since then I've done the whole 'heart-broken' arch meme shit, started going to the gym and what not. I've been consistent with that, studies are going good. Finding some other girl just seems like compromising, and I don't want to be with somebody when I constantly have someone else on my mind, it wouldn't be fair to them. I don't know what to do.
fuck more bitches, loser. Heartbreak stops being real once you realize they're all the same anyways.
>>34367552What if i cared more for the love and affection than I did for the sex? Do you mean to say that it's not real and I'm naive for seeking it? Maybe there's no point in seeking a relationship, if all of it is just playing pretend and if they can discard you on a whim then it wasn't real and I shouldn't want something like that in the first place.
How long was this relationship?
>>343675646 months
>>34367563having feelings is gay as hell. Fuck and dump as many bitches as you can
>>34367546I know in my case she did love me and it was lies and deceit that this other person did to manipulate her and twist perception of me that caused us to lose each other. I am better than him in every way. Once his lies are cleared up we will be back together and he can go fuck off and die
Same kind of larp shit op is pulling right now. Notice the dates and narrative and what it makes you want to think.
I do know because of what happened, he will never have a life with her. I promise you that. It's a fucking guarantee. Just cross that line bud.
>>34367581Why would I be larping? What exactly am I trying to make you think? I'm not trying to villainize my ex or whatever, I just want to know how to ease my suffering. It won't go away since I have to see her everyday, but there has to be something I can do?
>>34367862he is literally having sex with her while you insult people who you think are him. brutal
>>34367866if confirmed by me then that is the line and I end this now
>>34367546You're dumb for falling in love. You're also dumb for feeling rejected. Life is suffering, it's not a fucking Disney movie. People look for their own interests, and interests only. Had you accepted that fact earlier, you a) wouldn't have attached yourself to that whore, and b) you wouldn't be sad now that she very predictably dumped you.Don't try to look for butterflies in a sea full of sharks.
>>34367936You are just stating a false narrative twisted in demoralization and attempting to convince falsehoods of us.We are soulmates. We complete each other. There is no choice in it. We just are. You compare it to a disney movie in an attempt to belittle because you do not know true love, soulmate love. What you describe in your childish atttempt at manipulaltion is wrong. What we have is true love.I was not dumped because of her disinterest, she loved me completely as a soulmate and was manipulated and tricked by c larping as methat is completely different as her feelings that shifted are based in his lies. Remove him.. Remove his lies. We are together and whole againThat is our future.There is no other. That is a promise
>>34367936you want a shark? Cross the line and you won't see it coming before you are gone
>>34367546>she 'love-bombed' me and I reciprocated.That's how it always happens. She loved you when you didn't care that much about her. When you start showing it back then she gets turned off. This is female nature, they leave you if you show them too much love.You think that there will be a woman who is different, but there won't be. It's a biological reality. Women only accept that kind of love from children, not from men. She will never be your mother.
>>34368194This sounds like a plot for a shitty anime and not real life.
>>34368253>MariaLike Silent Hill 2? It's over.
>>34367546She sounds like a bitch, genuinely. Can you even imagine this girl being the mother to your children? In 6 months time you're gonna look back at this and laugh to yourself, wondering why you were this fussed over a retard not worth the tears. You have to stop putting her on this pedestal and realise she's a gross bag of meat just like everyone else. She had impulses, acted on it, and when the neurochemical reactions in her brain gave her diminishing returns of dopamine, she ditched and went to get her fix elsewhere.Focus on yourself but don't be autistic about opportunities that come your way. Gym is already a good start. Keep it up, do whatever bullshit necessary to get good grades (don't be a chigyu about it), cultivate a friend group/social life. Later down the line life's gonna throw you a better girl
>>34367546> To be reminded every day that you're inadequate>Finding some other girl just seems like compromisingThe reason seeking another girl feels like compromising is because your self worth is tied into the acceptance you receive from the opposite sex. Rejection has broken your pride and in your mind only the affirmation that you are wanted/desirable from the offender will repair this. This is not healthy thinking. You must ask yourself why you believe their interest is indicative of your value and not a result of their personal considerations. Being dumped is not inherently a reflection on you. People do not always have meaningful reasons for breaking up with someone (or for getting with someone for that matter). It could simply be a matter of compatibility, temperament, or their current priorities. Maybe she didn't like your sense of humor, or perhaps she wanted someone who liked to dance. You will likely never know. What she didn't like others may be drawn to. Do not put much stock in her criteria. Moreover, in the grand picture of your life this one breakup does not matter. There will be other women, other people to love. I have been where you are. I have suffered a similar breakup around your age. I agonized for so long what about me was unlikable or undeserving of affection. Ultimately, I came to the realization that their desire to terminate our relationship had no bearing on my worth. It simply meant she wanted something else. What that could of been ot why isn't a concern. My value as a human being has nothing to do with it. Quite frankly, with perspective, I believe it was the right decision. I don't think we were a good match and if I had stayed with her I would not have found the woman who would later become my wife.I know this feels humiliating, anon. But know it only does so because you've misjudged how much it actually mattersThis is a bump in the road and nothing more.
>>34369030[spoiler] That girl I broke up with is now fat and has made SEVERAL attempts to get me into an open relationship so she can fuck me btw. Time can really flip things around. [/spoiler]
>>34369047I always forget you cannot spoiler on every board
>>34367546This is the classic avoidant narcissist woman pull away. This kind of girl chooses a loving decent man like you and then when she sucks your blood enough, she can leave just like that. You can move on like this: Cut all kind of contact. Delete her socials. Remove her number. Throw away any kind of reminding photos, gifts, sweaters. It is completely normal and natural to grieve the relationship and have your self-esteem get destroyed. Please don't punish yourself for these feelings. The way forward for you is that you use this grieving pain as a momentum to catapult you.I've been through a few breakups like this you mentioned and I discovered that the grievance gives you some sort of buff for a while. The buff is that you can get really really into something because when you pick up a new hobby, lets say, drumming, the more you learn the more dopamine you get and that starts collecting your self-esteem back. The difference is you actually stick to this new hobby like you found water in the fucking desert. Because in before, you wouldn't really stick to it. Apply this to anything you seem worthy that might affect your life. It can be intense gym routine, diet, learning a language, travelling, learning an instrument etc.If you want examples, for me I started drawing in my first breakup, second one made me join two jobs at the same time to exhaust my mind, third made me get in shape and get a strict diet. All added up to my life. Now I hope the same for you. You will have a moment of clarity once you realize this type of women tend to come and check in on you after a few years to see if you are the same pathethic bitch or have you done better for yourself. In all instances they came back for me and the moment where you don't care much for them anymore can give you a measurement of how far you've come as a man. Good luck.
>>34369091>>34369030>>34368758Thank you guys, your thoughts and advice truly mean a lot to me and I'm grateful that you took the time to write this. I promise that I'll keep moving forward.
>>34367546>when you have to see her every single daywith great difficulty.get out there and meet someone else, only cure.
