I'm employed. I shower. I can hold a conversation. I'm not an unfuckable cave troll, girls had crushes on me back in high school. By all accounts I'm just a failed normie, the only thing holding me back is not having a clue how or where to meet people.My hobbies are solitary, my job is solitary, I don't even have pictures for apps because I'm a friendless shut-in. I have absolutely no social circle or connections. I lost contact with everyone after graduating and just never figured out how to make friends as an adult. 6 years later and I've still never dated because I literally just do not know where people are. I feel like such a fucking retard.
>>34367566Go to a coffee shop, easy to hook up there for me.
Quit selling yourself short anon and stop justifying to the world you are some asshole. It doesn't matter if it is right it is unhealthy to yourself. Now, I think if you want to meet someone it is best done had you opened yourself up and tried to challenge yourself a bit, okay? You're afraid of humiliation because you think you'll get your ass kicked, sued, rejected, fired, and so on and so forth. You don't have to be a boastful asshole, you need a little bit of moderation okay? Look at all of the greatest scientists in the world and notice what would have happened had no one discovered their texts on the world. I think you need to start making that text to that girl you like so she will discover you.
>>34367566What type of women do you like? Muscle mommies? Go to the gym. Art hoes? Go to bookstores. Fit girls? Go to a yoga class. Unless you live in rural hell, most of these places are going to have some kind of event boards with things you can attend that other people go to. Go to the things and be a modest humble person, don't be a desperate antisocial freak. Repeat until you generate a social circle.>I did that and don't know anyone!You have developmental or personal issues, go to a specialist or practice extreme introspection.
>>34367587>What type of women do you like?Women who enjoy talking to me and are generally decent-looking >some kind of event boards with things you can attend that other people go toI guess this is my struggle. Where do I find events and social spaces? Finding a gym is obvious of course but anything more hobby- or interest-related is a mystery to me. Seems like you'd already need to know people into it to know where to go. >You have developmental or personal issuesI probably do but it's really just "avoidant personality + didn't socialize enough as a child" and I don't really think a therapist will help nearly as much as just getting myself in to social spaces
>>34367625>Women who enjoy talking to meThis is not what women are for. I'm not saying this to be an epic podcast andrew tate but women are not for or interested in having 'deep' 'engaging' conversations. They happen to listen to you talk about whatever stupid shit you're into because they want you to fuck them. You know who is going to enjoy listening to you talk? Another man. Another man with autism. >Where do I find events and social spaces? All spaces where people are congregating are social spaces. If you feel like you 'already need to know people' to go to the gym or a class or a meetup it's over for you and I recommend you spend the rest of your life on discord. > I don't really think a therapist will helpCorrect. Probably 1 in 10 therapists are actually useful. Helps if they're male.
>>34367634>If you feel like you 'already need to know people' to go to the gym or a class or a meetupNo, I feel you need to already know people to find them in the first place. I can't just google "meetups in (city)", you'll just get shit like computer classes for the elderly at your local public library. Anything worth going to is going to be advertised in some sort of social media community of people already involved in the hobby.
>>34367641You either didn't read my post or you're being intentionally obstinate. >What type of women do you like? Muscle mommies? Go to the gym. Art hoes? Go to bookstores. Fit girls? Go to a yoga class. Unless you live in rural hell, most of these places are going to have some kind of event boards with things you can attend that other people go to. Go to the things and be a modest humble person, don't be a desperate antisocial freak. Repeat until you generate a social circle.You in no way need to know people to go to these things. If you feel otherwise it is 100% you. >But I disagree with that because...You are wrong.
>>34367645Ok, and if my interests aren't specifically "going to the gym" or "going to the yoga studio"? Retard
>>34367566Everyone is online now. Get on the apps. Looksmax. Also if there is any non solitary hobby you want to try, do it.What are your hobbies anyway?>>34367579While nice sentiment, he doesn't know any girls to send a text to.
>>34367634You do sound like an epic podcast andrew tate. At least you're aware of that. Some women don't like sex that much and do enjoy talking. Just like men. Some men really like sex and others have low libedos. It is very foolish to generalize all women just like it is to generalize all men. Women also enjoy a good conversation about a shared interest. The problem is many men and women do not have a shared interest.
>>34367671Women LOVE talking. About gossip. I'm sure you can talk with women about whatever you want. But if you want to court women, which I'm assuming is the meta context of this thread, you not going to do it by having friendly conversation and you are not going to have deep meaningful convos with women about niche interests. You're not. It's not that you don't share interests, it's that men and women parse reality in fundamentally different ways. Friendly chats and meeting women are two totally different sports.
>>34367566I don't know your exact age, but "graduation+6" seems to be WAY too late for that. All the normal/good-looking women are long taken by that time. You need to realize normies already fuck like rabbits in high school. They either find their love right then, or they decide to stay single to "explore" by going to clubs and fucking everything there or just go get rammed by the school's football/basketball chads. It was REALLY bad back then, but I can only imagine how bad it is nowadays with all the dating/sexting apps. This "exploring" goes on through college/uni and slightly beyond until the women feel like they're starting to hit the wall so they settle with someone. This means that whatever is left for you is the absolute trashiest of trash possible.
>>34367663>What are your hobbies anyway?Collecting vintage junk from thrift shops, been trying to learn game development, bought a classic car recently but haven't gone so far as to actually start working on it yet. Basically the most woman-repellent hobbies you can imagine. I don't even consume "nerdy" pop culture like anime or anything, don't really pay attention to any media outside of the occasional video game.>>34367743>graduation+6" seems to be WAY too late for that. All the normal/good-looking women are long takenDidn't really specify but I'd be looking for women younger than me anyways, like 18-20. I've still got decent skin and a full head of hair, people regularly guess I'm a few years younger than I actually am.
>>34370791Going to say some stuff you may already realize for the sake of covering all the bases.>thrift shopsThis won't help you here.>Game developmentThis also won't help you here.>classic carWhile primarily a male hobby, there are women who love cars. Maybe not the fixing them up part, but looking at them. While you are working on your car, start going to the car meets. Get to know some people. Mention your car, especially if you find someone who has the same one. You may just make some friends. Lots of old people at these things, but you may get lucky and start to date somebodies daughter.
>>34367569>Go to a coffee shop, easy to hook up there for me.Maybe its just bc I live in a suburb, but this is profoundly strange to me. No one in my local coffee shops interact with each other or indicate they want to talk to anyone else.
>>34367634>Another man. Another man with autism.Women with autism don't exist, apparently.
>>34371280>No one in my local coffee shops interact with each other or indicate they want to talk to anyone else.False. you believe this because you are stuck in your own head, not perceiving reality for how it truly is.
>>34371490I absolutely agree with you. But even adjusting for being a mentalcel, everyone is on their computer doing work.
>>34367569what kind of coffee shops do you visit? 90% of coffee places are just offices where people have headphones on
Any man who knows of ogzellig (idk how to spell it) is a friend in my book
