I was in this part time IT gig with a bunch of other ppl who knew each other from working that gig a year ago and even two years ago, one of them had a name like my ex and I didn’t do a shift with her for 2 weeks Literally first shift together we start talking, turns out she’s 25 (3 years older then me) she and I share some hobbies like vidya and gym and she’s nice to talk to and laughs from my jokes, at the end of the shift we had a big conference thing with the CEO and she sat next to me and whispered in my ear Second shift see her outside talking to someone (turns out it’s her bf) and then she proceeded to sit with me for two hours outside and then we went to sleep on mattresses 20 cm from each other and at the same time Third shift she kept giving me high fives and we talked and she punched my arm, then we had a company BBQ and she asked someone to add me to their private group chat without some of the office ppl Fourth shift she invited me to go with her and another chick to go buy something from the grocery store, then we sat talking and she went to sleep when me and the other chick stayed in that room talking (she specifically told me she felt uncomfortable sleeping when some other guy was in the room with her ) also the company bathroom’s lights didn’t work so she had me stand in the door and shine a light while she peed and she did the same for me.Also had a long handshake thingy when she leftNow she had to leave because her semester started but idk if there’s anything there, I think I have a crush on her ? I also am just attracted to her in a personality way, is she into me ? Everyone there is friendly and she has moments of physicality with others there (hugging a guy or a guy putting his hand on her shoulder) but she knows them for months and we spent 48 hours together and some of it was us sleeping, what does it mean and should I move forward? I really wanted her to send me a message or ask for my Instagram but i can always text her
>>34369363Holy fuck use punctuation, I didn't spot a single period on this word barf of a post. Anyway yeah man go for it, she seems into you, I've never had a girl treat me that nice but God I wish I did.
>>34369783Yeah I ain't reading allat lmao>>34369363OP, just don't mess with a taken lady. Even if she does like you, she's probably not a good chick if she's dating a dude and flirting with someone else
>>34369783> Holy fuck use punctuation, I didn't spot a single period on this word barf of a postMan that rally hurt :(.> she seems into youI know, all the signs point to her being into me, but if that’s the case why wouldn’t she text/call or ask for my socials ?
>>34370510> OP, just don't mess with a taken lady.I wouldn’t. I never planned on doing it in the past, but we just CLICKED, idk how to explain it,but with everyone else I’ve had a shift or two of testing the water, with her I felt like I just sank in it. Plus she’s hot> Even if she does like you, she's probably not a good chick if she's dating a dude and flirting with someone elseBut then there’s the question of was thisflirting? might also be that she’s just a very affectionate person and it was all friendly in her eyes. I’d still wanna talk to her more even if it didn’t go towards us dating, I just don’t know what to do or why she isn’t calling or texting me
>>34369363>she has a bf>is she into me?Does it really matter anon? Are you into a girl who is taken? If she was into you, then she'd be a disloyal cheater. Either way, none of that reads as her being into you, it sounds more like she'd be willing to be your friend. You're likely so intimacy deprived that you take any act of closeness as romantic intent, but women are regularly intimate with their friends such as sleeping near one another, and to them these things aren't a big deal. Intimacy =/= sexual or romantic interest, by the way, in case that wasn't obvious. She probably sees you as safe, like a puppy dog or a brother. She has a boyfriend dude. Let it go.
>>34369363didnt read a single wordif you have to ask is she into me, it means she isntsimple as
>>34369363>she and I share some hobbies>like vidya and gymThese are not hobbies, zoomie.
>>34370985> You're likely so intimacy deprived that you take any act of closeness as romantic intentI am intimacy deprived but I’ve had times when women were into me and flirting with me and I had no idea until other ppl told me > She probably sees you as safe, like a puppy dog or a brotherLowkey the worst thing you could’ve said, welp I guess it’s never been more over, thought being her friend would work but I don’t wanna be seen like a dog
>>34370990> if you have to ask is she into me, it means she isntIdk maybe you’re right, she didnt text me or called me since then, I don’t think she texted any of the other ppl there as well but still
>>34371030I mean if you want to be her friend, then be her friend, just keep your intentions pure and respectful of the fact that she is in a relationship, and accept that, to her, you are a completely non-sexual being. If you have a problem with that fact, then you're not actually interested in being her friend, you just want to wait in the wings like a cuck hoping you get a chance with her, and that's fucked, anon. It's disrespectful to both her and her boyfriend, who is a person just like you. Don't be a beta orbiter, be a good man. If you can't JUST be her friend and not want anything more with her, then you can't be her friend, so keep your distance. Also don't forget, if she'd cheat with you, she'd cheat on you.
>>34369783>Holy fuck use punctuation, I didn't spot a single period on this word barf of a post.Your whining might've been justified if there weren't line breaks separating each sentence but you're just an illiterate retard
>>34371239I KNOW, I know ur right. I don’t want to date a cheater or go for someone that’s taken and make her break up with her bf, idk if I could even if I wanted to. but I also don’t wanna be treated as a genderless blob or a dog , when we started talking I didn’t even think she was anything special but we just clicked we kept talking and talking and I didn’t need to think of what to say or how to act… but now idk if she even wants me as a friend cuz if she did then why isn’t she calling me/texting me, I don’t think she even saved me on her phone (I didn’t save her either)
>>34371308Friendships take time to build with repeated interactions anon. Give it time, don't push it, you'll see her around, just be friendly and when things seem appropriate invite her to hang out. It would be good form if you also mentioned to invite her boyfriend as well, unless you're already hanging out in a group setting like with other work colleagues or something.
>>34371347But that’s the thing, I’ll prob never see her again or see her only in a year or so, my best hopes is that when the project ends I’ll meet her in the ending party that they do, she just started a semester so she left us while the rest of us are still working there, that’s why I’m so anxious for her to text me. It’s prob hopeless
>>34369363>She has a boyfriendAssuming she’s into you, that would mean she's cheating on her ex, so what would stop her from doing the same to you if you ever got into a relationship with her?If that’s not the case, then you should stop having a crush on someone who’s already taken.
>>34369363>I think I have a crush on her ?You do.>is she into me ?No. Based on your detailed story, she is an extremely extroverted person and you are introverted. It's natural for her to give people personal attention WITHOUT sexual intent. Since you're kind of a introvert, you misinterpreted the attention.Sorry dude. This is not gonna be the girl for you. Based on what you shared, even if you do hook up, it wont last.>.t 42yr old anon whos been through it all
>>34372005>>34372005> I’m not introverted, I’m not extroverted either but idk ppl like hanging around me and I’m good at making ppl laugh… regarding the chick I kinda understand now she prob wasn’t into me nor did she wanna even be friends which sucks but whatever. I’m gonna listen to gay Mac Demarco songs.
>>34369363Make sure you're proactive as soon as possible to find out if she is indeed into you.
>>34372115How can I do that if she’s no longer coming to work and she never asked for my socials or contacted me via call or text during the 3 weeks I knew her or for the last 3 days she wasn’t here
