What is the easiest way to make friends in person? or What's the best gateway to meeting people in real life and escaping schizoid life?Posting on facebook and instagram and just being open about being myself showing my face online i would assume
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>>34369537I’ll be your friend. Kik me at RaRaAvisAnon
>>34369537Get a job or go to school. I had the ability to make friends because I was good at my job and enjoyed helping people at work or school, but I'm naturally a loner and kept people at arms length. If I wanted, I could have made some real friends
get a job. this is where the majority of friend making or dating will come from. college could be a close second but most are populated by gen z that never talk to each other
>>34370484Did anyone add you yetAnd okay i dont have kik let me set up and hit you if thats okayAre you the guy who was asking about getting a name on here and wanted recommendations?
>>34370497Samee idk why but i hate new experience so i just stay in my room so i can limit anxious surroundings But yeah im in college i suck ass at making friends cause im failing behind So i guess a job or a sport could be my alternative?Actually some wise guy also told me “start making summaries and help in general”I think this also increases my exposure i would guess
>>34370923I meet some good people when i attend classes but idk how to make them my friends I dont wanna look desperate ig and ask for ways to contact + they always have a group
>>34371049You don't make friends. You make acquaintances, people you know well enough to say Hi to. Over time some of those evolve naturally to stop-and-chat level, and some of those to plan-to-meet-up level, amd some of THOSE to friends.
>>34371092Who has time for thisssUgh i dont like investing effort or wtv in anything Thats probably why i struggle with friendships
>>34371140Reminder that posts like this are made by people who don't leave the house, piss in bottles and are really only or two degrees removed from trannies who call themselves lilith
>>34371181I liked what he posted
>>34369537Repeated, unplanned interactionsShared difficult experiences
>>34371885solid advice
>>34369537>Posting on facebook and instagram and just being open about being myself showing my face online i would assumeworked for me. do what you love, be open about it and maybe some people will reach out to you. that's what happened to me. you can reach out to others as well, start a club and invite people, if you can't find one already in existence!
>>34372097This translated to "I'm a depressed retard who never learned how to interact with normalfags and that's why I have 'trauma'"
>>34372104 >do what you love, be open about it and maybe some people will reach out to you.I wanna do that badly but to have some perspective weren't you afraid of ridicule or that someone would make fun and judge you? Before you started this, were you confident enough or did you have general insecurities? For a long time now, I haven't even had a main account; I just post from fake accounts and I don't even think I've posted nor shared a photo of myself since I was a child
>>34371044That was me. No messages yet.
>>34372160Why are you always attacking him lol
>>34372166sorry was busy and bit overwhelmed iwill send now
Please don’t send me sexual stuff
>>34372178"sex"
>>34372097you gotta "namefag" i wanna stalk your posts from time to time
>>34372182>>34372186Huh? It’s so hard to follow. This place needs profile pictures
>>34369537Pretend to care about what they have yo say. Either actually listen or at least act as if you're listening.
>>34372193lurk for one year before posting, you have a lot to learn, don't demand we change because you are a fucking newfag who can't figure out a basic ANONYMOUS interface.
>>34372209Dang boy, do you need any friends?
>>34372165>I wanna do that badly but to have some perspective weren't you afraid of ridicule or that someone would make fun and judge you?you have to do it in spite of that, disregard thier opinions, hasn't posting here taught you to do that or are you one of the fags trolls feed on?>Before you started this, were you confident enough or did you have general insecurities?yeah but git gud, have fun and find a little courage, heck maybe your posts could be "how do i do this better? where can i improve? any tips?" that would spark a conversation. fuck what people think, even the best are ridiculed and shit on anyway, this sounds so generic but when you get it you are invincible emotionally: don't take it personally, their insults, it is not about you, it is about them.
>>34372212>you think i would want to be friends with youno thanks. you have already demonstrated presumption.
>>34372193No no i was talking to the man with the pepe green frog>>34372208I do that and put effort into it but i lack personality to make me actually confident about myself and speak my mind and prove to them that i listened other wise i only listen and rarely reply very stoic ass (if that wat stoic means)>>34372209calm down brother why are you seething
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This is a sign to download kik and add me as a friend
Nobody’s writing me oof
Kik kinda sucks
>>34372278>>34372319>>34372420this is so sad.and not how to make friends.you wanted people to add you on kik, no one did and now you say kik sucks?you are deeply out of touch with yourself and the places and people you are around. you are not being honest and in the moment.connect with yourself and you will connect with others.how do i know this? you came on to 4chan, a well established imageboard with culture and mechanics you are not aware of, and immediately complained and asked it to change. see: >>34372193how about you learn how this place works? how about you listen and connect, instead of imposing.
>>34372319You attract more flies with honey then vinegar, anon.
>>34372565Ok anon. I only said kik sucks because it has ads and it’s different from what I remember.
>>34372600Get out of 4chan and go take care of your kids, elf
>>34372600+the live feature
>>34372759Aww okI’m so bored
Interact with people and let friendships happen naturally.
>>34369537Ignore all the people telling you to get a job or go to university. The only friends I ever had are the ones from high school. At uni everyone ignores you unless you're one extrovert normie, but since you are in the schizoid life I doubt you'd be much better than me at it. I once had a job with several young coworkers and we went out at bars and shit, but even if some of them was nice and I still greet them occasionally, none of them really became my "friend". So, basically, if you're a schizoid sperg like me, the only way to socialize is to be forced in the same place and for a long time together with someone. We'll probably find some friends in jail, but I'm not into the whole rape thing lmao
>>34374491yeah you need constant exposure to befriend someone when ur an adult not to mention most of them judge each other constantly my best bet desu is just the college guys since we all share much interests and don't have much higher motives behind friendships instead of hanging outthe work is just not a good place for friendships
>>34374570I don't even think it's about being adult. Because in high school you're not a child anymore. Children say "you're my best friend" to random game fellows, but as a teen you already understand why someone is your friend, you already have a more structured personality. I think that it's all about forced cohabitation for several years
>>34369537If you're out of college you literally can't
the hardest part for me is that start dissociating whenever I get nervous and I get instantly nervous around groups of people. I don't know if I am scared of sharing stuff about myself or if I don't know how to. Even when people try and get to know me they trigger my alert mode and I start acting scared
>>34376180can you tell me which one are you? i would like to read your comments again or is this ur first comment on here
>>34375077man you have to wish me fucking luck i deliberately try to escape from attending my classes cause i have fallen behind and my group graduated so i feel even ashamed to be around anyone>>34374910>Because in high school you're not a child anymore. Children say "you're my best friend" to random game fellows, its inherently easier to make friends when you are not stressed about anything and have arguably ur best years going onnot to mention we were alot more "nicer" no ulterior motives for befriending someone beside you genuinely liking them and you spend so much time with them that you learn their habits and are forced to accept them no matter what>I think that it's all about forced cohabitation for several yearsyeah i think so too, but its not the most important factor other wise people wouldnt have so much trouble making friends in jobs, colleges, army etc etc
>>34376576>when you are not stressed about anything and have arguably ur best years going on>not to mention we were alot more "nicer" no ulterior motives for befriending someone beside you genuinely liking themThis is a idealised view of high school years tho. They actually are horrible years, full of existential troubles (not less than when you are older), and teens can already fake friendships to achieve their goals. They're not kids anon>>34376576>jobs, colleges, In these the ierarchy factor is lacking. You're not together with your fellows "against" the same direct authority (the boss isn't really checking on you like a teacher, and in college everyone is studying for themselves, not forced in classes)>armyActually this is a lot more similar, in fact there is plenty of stories about trench war veterans or just barraks conscripts fondly remembering their comrades (well, comraderie literally means adult friendship). But it needs specific forced cohabitationsas like the two cases I mentioned (conscription or a trench war), not just "being in the army", which today can just be a lot like a random job
>>34369537very easy at the gym. ask someone to spot you on the bench press and then try to make conversation between sets.
>>34376555my first comment
>>34377032oh okay do u wanna be friends? or not really
>>34369537practice a sport. it doesnt have to be actual sports, it could be a martial art or rock climbing or something. even better if you can take classes and open gym because you can meet the same faces
>>34369537It will feel empty even if you make friends. There will always be a distance. You have to merge your inner world with the real world.
>>34384298i cant do that i tried alot i need to get "institutionalised" as in get therapy and work on myself a ton but i am lazy af so yeah its on me pray for me at least
>>34382062i did.i practiced some mma for a while was the best period in my adult life while it lasted, wished i made some long lasting friends from that perioddo u play any sports and
>>34384747yeah. it's hard. here's hoping for both of us.
>>34369537be funny
The real question is, is it worth making friends? I don't want to sound doomer, but most of the people I've met have broken friendships, social circles, and any community in general because of drama and gossip.
>>34391207very worth it, i cant think of a situation where connections and having friends have cons that outweigh pros
