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I'm a 22yo guy who never had any real passion for anything, no dreams, I've been alongside the current my entire life. What I want the most is to be doing something I'm passionate about, that makes me want to overcome any adversities, kinda like when a game won't run, but you like it so much you do everything in your power to find a solution.

Recently I've been helping out one of my teachers with her high school class, I go around the class looking for students who haven't completed the current assignment, or if the teacher is too busy to answer their question on the topic. And because I'm frequently caught up in thinking about it, I'm wondering if this is something I'd feel happy doing.

Some of the students don't care, they sleep through it all and I keep thinking if I should just let them be? I'm not their dad, and I couldn't possibly be aware of what they're going through. There also are some people having trouble socializing, some can't read well, others disrupt the environment too much.

That all being said, so far these are all problems I do feel like trying to help them solve, and I like it when they need me, but here are some issues:
>I am quite socially retarded myself, so how can I teach something I have no experience with?
I spent the entirety of my high school years watching anime during classes I didn't like. Had ZERO friends.
>I'm afraid of overstepping boundaries between students or their parents, considering they're:
1.not my kids
2.minors
I'm stupid when it comes to social cues, and I don't want to be seen as overbearing, so I can't really be their friend.
>Seems quite common for a beginner(me) to be filled with all these ideals, just to be crushed by the harsh reality just a few months later.

I would like to be of help, growing up I've always had that one great teacher that made my life better, uni for example was filled with great, great mentors, but I'm afraid I might just be seeking easy validation from kids who might not know any better.
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>>34369777
Seems like what you are saying is that you feel an urge to want to help people, particularly those with social issues even that you relate to it yourself.

Have you ever noticed that most people that study psychology or become a therapist can be some of the people that had the most issues themselves? People are particularly compassionate about issues they have struggled with, and it can often be one of the greatest motivations in wanting to pursue that path.

Do you have some examples of positive interactions you have had?

I will say that as someone growing up as autistic, the teachers I had were often my closest friends. They really do have an impact on people. And I think one of the reasons people go into teaching in the first place is to help kids.

In fact, you struggling now is probably even better than if you were extroverted, because once you learn how to socialise better, you can come from a different and more relatable place. It is sort of like how you are probably more likely to listen to advice from someone that started off poor and became rich versus someone who was always rich.

I would also say though that it depends what country you are from a bit too. I have heard teachers in the US do not make as much and I am not sure what school is like over there.
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>>34369871
>Do you have some examples of positive interactions you have had?
This special needs student stayed after class, by his own will, to finish an assignment he couldn't complete in time. I had been somewhat ignoring him because I was afraid to act insensitive around him, and get him offended by it, for not being able to hold a conversation or something like that. Then I approached him to help finish it, and he talked to me clear as a sunny day, defeating my preconceived image of him. He just had trouble moving his arms and legs normally. He was really polite and interested in the explanation, but had trouble writing the answers down in time.
>Depends what country
Brazil.
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>>34369777
>I spent the entirety of my high school years watching anime during classes I didn't like. Had ZERO friends.
I'm not sure this is necessarily a bad thing. At least you'd be able to relate to kids who are like that even if you don't know what to do about it.
Feeling good about doing something you perceived as helpful and good isn't bad it doesn't mean you're using people as an unwitting validation farm.
It sounds like your intentions are good it's more a question of whether or not you would like it as a full time job.
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>>34369993
>full time job
What are some ways that wouldn't require a full time job?
And what are some of the downsides? Salary? Workload? Imbecile coworkers and parents? A friend told me one of her students kept showing up to class wearing dirty clothes, and the parents, when confronted about it, didn't care.
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>>34369936
>Brazil
Ah, not sure how it is like over there then, sorry mate.

The way I see it, teaching is pretty much recession proof. I know people talk about AI, but you cannot have an AI watch over children without adults, so you are safe there. My question is, did you feel anything? From what I can gather, it seems that while you were rather apprehensive to begin with, you were able to learn, help someone, and have a conversation. Seems like you are a genuine, caring person. I would say go for it. You will get the good and the bad, but you'll be fine as long as you keep a goal clear in your mind. And you do not have to be overly charismatic anyways.
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>>34369777
i'm not wasting 4 years for a degree just to have some fucking retard zoomalpha shitforbrains idiot disregard everything i say. they won' t care and they won't appreciate what you do for me. it won't make a difference because they're not human beings in the way that you think they are. they're not the same type of creature that you are.
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>>34369777
>I'm not their dad, and I couldn't possibly be aware of what they're going through
I just realized that teaching is a form of cuckoldry
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>>34370819
Specify your age. If it's above 35, gulag for you. We've had enough of millennials talking.
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>>34370710
>AI
My degree is on computer science
>did you feel anything?
a little bummed out that no one needed the support material I've prepared, concern about 2 kids that frequently get left out during groupings, and pleased when they listen to my explanation, and make questions. I wish it was longer than 50min.
>genuine, caring person
I'm not so sure, recently I've been having some trouble with keeping friendships, they seem to take too much energy daily (hang out, game online, reply to memes, casual chatting)
>charismatic
My face isn't that expressive, my voice is quiet, I can't act upbeat, so my charisma stat is quite low. I've been thinking about bonding with them over sharing the first webpage I made, a cringy Yazawa Nico fan board, when I was like 17, and maybe ask them about their own hobbies, to see if I can relate to some level, but it kinda feels someone will tell me to stop trying too hard, that if I wasn't socially scarred I'd just be lecturing as normal, not playing around. Because from their point of view:
>"who is this guy?"
>"unc thinks we care"
>"move it along bud, I have a test soon"

>>34370819
So far none of them have been brainrot ipad kids, maybe a few years later, but I'd like to think there'd be at least that 1% that is positively changed by me. Though I'm not so sure that view will stand as the years go by
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>>34369777
20 yo student teacher here for social studies. some moments can get pretty grating when kids may be really abrasive and just want to test you, but you've got to remember that they are kids after all. i just remind myself "am i going to let a 13 year old dictate my mood" and i'm fine after that. if you're passionate about what you teach and come up with fun activities you and the kids can have a great time--i was teaching ww2 and had them debate on the atomic bomb/make their own ration cards and shop with them and it was fun! felt like they were living history in the moment which is kind of cool. nerve wracking at first but gets better the longer you do it.

advice i have is just be yourself. don't be that extroverted cool teacher everyone idolizes cause if that doesn't come naturally it's stilted and weird, and don't try and be a hardass cause that shows you take yourself too seriously around children--also embarrassing in its own way. be firm with rules but also be kind--your students will appreciate you from that alone.

yes kids can be obnoxious but idk something fun happens each day from their contributions, whether it's a goofy thing they said or honestly a profound point they bring to discussion. i finished my first placement at a middle school and already miss my students very much, i'm sure you will too
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>>34373207
>"am i going to let a 13 year old dictate my mood"
my mood is fine, I mainly just let them do their own thing, and just check on them to see if they need me. It's just that if I'm going to work at a school, I'm guessing some superior might take issue with too much freedom.
>i was teaching ww2
you guys get all the fun, my class used to play hangman with our history teacher
>don't be that extroverted cool teacher everyone idolizes
that's a good point, sometimes it does bother me they might think I'm boring



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