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Should I even share my actual interests at all with a girl?
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>>34373350
That's a valid concern though. She's trying to filter-out weirdo techbros who have a fascination with that sort of nonsense.
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>>34373350
>hot girl says stupid shit
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>>34373358
>noooo, you can't be interested in things beyond what you see in your daily life!
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>>34373380
this specific interest has a lot of societal and modern context, though. if he thinks it's possible, and it's ever possible for him, he's full of himself and egotistical and has an unrealistic view of the world
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>>34373391
"they would want to go to space" is not "they think they can go to space".
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>>34373359
>hot
She's uglier than a cellar full of assholes.
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>>34373391
>>34373358
You are fucking faggot and a bitch. This is like that statistic that says 50% of women think they would lose to a house cat in a fight.

Going to space is not unrealistic at all. It’s getting cheaper exponentially. She is just a small minded retarded bitch looking for her male counter part.
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>>34373380
>>34373403
>>34373452
If you need someone to point it out for you, she's specifically trying to avoid dating Elon Musk types who are overly obsessed with things like "le heckin colonising mars" or other freakish Silicon Valley fantasies.
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>>34373358
I have no actual interest in going to space.
If a girl asked me this, I'd assume it was some icebreaker question to see if I'm boring or not, so I'd just say yes.
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>>34373350
>Attention is the currency of women
Never forget this. Everything they say and do is for attention.
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>>34373350
No, never. Keep everything about yourself a secret. Your thoughts, feelings, interests, hobbies, personal history, family, everything.
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>>34373535
there's literally nothing wrong with that. You personally not liking Elon Musk doesn't mean that having an interest in tech and space is a "red flag".
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>>34373350
You should stop taking ragebait to heart and just try to have good conversations with girls
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>>34373350
Do you want an actual long term relationship? If so yes, just be yourself.
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>>34373358
>That's a valid concern though. She's trying to filter-out weirdo techbros who have a fascination with that sort of nonsense.

the idea that the affirmative response to this question correctly diagnoses what you say or what the post in OP claims that it identifies in someone is absolute horse-shit.

>>34373350
context matters. How long known? how serious a partner? chance of common interests overlapping?
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>le space
>I fucking love science
She is unironically right
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What a boring small-minded bitch.
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>>34373350
No, you should never tell ANYONE what you are interested in, because you then run the horrible danger of actually having something in common
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>>34374107
Ohhh no they're small minded how awful
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>>34373535
>she's specifically trying to avoid dating Elon Musk types
bullshit. she's a woman, they all wanna marry a billionaire
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I would not date her because of those shoes. lol, who?
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>>34373350
She enjoys trolling betabux on her "dates" where she gets free food while fucking Chad on Day 1 and then seething when he fucks the next slut (which is the subject matter of all her songs). If you are worried about what a woman thinks you are firmly in the former category.
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>>34373535
Elon Musk is literally the greatest man of our times. He is a historical figure who has electrified transportation, reinvigorated space travel, and saved free speech for millions. To say he is a hero is an understatement. Anyone who doesn't like elon is a brainwashed fucking retarded piece of worthless slime.
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>>34374660
>saved free speech
The exact opposite. He hates freedom of speech.
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>>34374660
>saved free speech

You're talking about Mr. Elon "You can say anything you want as long as I approve of it, and if it hurts my fragile sperg feelings you don't get to talk anymore" Musk?
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>>34373350
You can just lie and pretend you aren't a cringe retard and see where it gets you.
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>>34373350
You should because actual connection can be made only with someone that accepts you for who you are, even for your interests.If you are only trying to have sex with her though and nothing more doesn't really matter, you don't have to.
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>>34374660
Good morning sir
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>>34373391
Surely this is some faggot-quality bait. You can't be serious.
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>>34373358
It also shows how out of touch she is. Who the fuck is going to space? That's unrealistic for most men in the US. It's a fantasy.
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>>34374786
>>34374709
What the fuck are you retards talking about? He bought twitter and removed all the bullshit jannies who were censoring everyones speech. Are you faggots from bizzarro world or has the europoor propaganda just melted your brains this hard?
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>>34373350
You live in in a cave, are fed attention-grabbing, purposefully-outrageous headlines from clickbait media, or submit yourself to an endless stream of only the worst, most enthralling anecdotes from mentally ill retards, and wonder why your wallowing in a corner, too fearful to experience reality yourself. Go outside. You will find a women who will find your enyclopedic knowledge of steam engines charming or at the very least tolerable.
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>>34373535
>you’re a freak if you think the colonization of mars at an indeterminate point in the future is a possibility
ok big guy, whatever you say
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>>34375372
it is a hypothetical question. she wants to know if you would do dangerous shit for the kicks over staying safe and protecting your family. she question is weird when coming out of nowhere but dating sites like OKCupid have been asking them and evaluating personalities based on the response for 20 years now.
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reddit trash slop on the /adv/ log taking up space
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>>34373350
>should i lie to women who hate me to get them to be with me?
this could never go badly.
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>>34373350
If she finds you attractive what you say is irrelevant. A women told me she will never date a a man with * zodiac sign. I told her bluntly I
was * and she didn't give a shit. We dated for a year we never speak about zodiac signs again.

In short, there's nothing you can do in life to "hack" the female brain. Being yourself will make you happy and assured and trying to be "other" will make you miserable. It's not that you can't change. You will, because life is learning and change. But first and foremost the direction of your change should be being happy with yourself. Not accidentally most things women crave are very convenient: having a job, a place, a car, etc.
Have a good day.
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>>34373350
>whore full of herself doesnt date moron full of himself
Nobidy cares.
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>>34373359
>face 3/10
>hot
You're hopeless
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>>34373358
>scientific and technological progress is nonsense
t. zebra chasing nigger
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>>34373350
Who wouldn't want to go to space? t. Femoid
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>>34373350
I used to say no until I met a girl who was literally me but female. trust me, the right one will not judge you.
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>>34373358
Nah, it's fucking retarded. Liking the idea of being in space doesn't mean you've got some half-baked plan to get there.
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>>34375896
>wanting to go to space makes you a moron full of yourself
You know what really makes you a moron full of yourself? Presumptive judgement.
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If I ask a girl what's her favorite historical event and she doesn't say "Neil Armstrong's moonwalk" then I don't date her.
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>>34373350
Funny how plain wrong that stupid bitch is. Being "full of yourself" if you would want to go to space? That's the complete opposite. Saying "no" to such opportunity would mean you think you're better than this. It show a complete lack of curiosity and not enough humility to realize there are things far bigger and grandiose than your little self regardless of how successful you may be.
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>>34373350
Of course, you should if she shows interest in them. If not, and you want a girl you can yap with about the stuff you love, then try someone else.
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>>34382506
I doesn't really have the same impact going the other way.
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>>34373391
and you think a 'famous do nothing industry plant singer' isnt far more likely to be full of themselves?
this is so hypocritical its laughable
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>>34373350
ITT: A lot of attention being given to a girl who said something dumb and girlboss, for attention.
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>>34381984
Ok moron full of yourself.
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>>34373380
It's just delusional. I'm sure she'd date an astronaut whose profession is to go to space, but if you're just some random guy who dreams about "going to space" obviously something is wrong with you.
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>>34373350
>Should I even share my actual interests at all with a girl?
Sure. At least if you're interested in her as anything more than a hole to stick your dick into.

The thing guys have to realize is that if a woman rejects you for things that are true about you, it means that either the two of you are incompatible or that her perceptions of those things are wrong and rather than discuss it with you like an adult, she immaturely rejects you immediately.
In either case, bullet dodged. Nothing of value was lost.

Now if she rejects you for things that *aren't* true about you, that shit sucks. It might have to do with her perception or how you portray yourself. Like I spent years portraying myself as a sexless nice guy because I thought hiding my desire was polite. I eventually learned otherwise.
But even if it sucks, it's still not rejecting you as a person.

Essentially, the only people who see the real you and reject it are people who you would be miserable with anyway.
Rejection isn't a disaster or even a bug. It's a feature.
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>>34373535
>she's specifically trying to avoid dating Elon Musk types
As she write it though, it is objectively retarded: "Do you think you'd want to go to space?"
I think I'd want the ability to turn invisible at will, that doesn't mean that I think I could. It's just a casual conversation, bitch. Lighten the he fuck up.

I think it's unfortunate that I wouldn't be filtered by her because I consider space travel too dangerous.
Or rather, I would if she were an actual person and not a social media clickbait fiction.
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>>34373358
>>34373391
>>34373535
The argument this guy makes perfectly encapsulates what is wrong with modern dating.
If you ask a guy, "Would you like to go to space?" and he responds, "Sure, I guess. That sounds cool." He's suddenly an obsessed techbro Elon Musk wannabe hellbent on making it to the stars no matter the cost.
Since people date strangers met through apps rather than acquaintances met through mutual friends, school, church, work, etc. they need to extract as much information about their date as possible in a short amount of time, without making it obvious that they are doing so. This leads to wild extrapolations like a guy saying he'd like to visit space being some megalomaniac when in reality he just sees it like a hypothetical vacation to France or Peru, an interesting diversion.
When people dated within their wider social circles, this wasn't an issue. You could ask a friend or acquaintance what John from accounting or Sarah from church is like, and get a general idea of their personality and character. It would be filtered through the biases of the person you asked, and their relationship to the person you asked about, but that can be accounted for. Even if it is not, it's still a more objective assessment than a game of 20 questions with a stranger.
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>>34373350
It's really sad that women have all the power to filter men but men have very little power to filter women if they don't want to be alone forever
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>>34385206
>men have very little power to filter women if they don't want to be alone forever
I don't think that's true.
I certainly have.
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>>34385206
idk, ive filtered a lot of women. some of them were good to me. but if youre not attracted to them, you cant help it. at this point my standards must be really high. i dont think they are. i just want a girl thats smart, kind, takes care of herself, and has her own life. i dont think thats high, those are just the qualities of someone who has teir shit together. but these women dont want me no matter how much effort i put into myself. i dont understand why. i think its just because theres no sense of community anywhere so meeting someone "organically" is a huge meme. you basically have to be a psychopath and risk inconveniencing every girl you meet and hope they find you attractive enough to give you their contact info. its so stupid that society turned out this way
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>>34387492
>risk inconveniencing every girl you meet and hope they find you attractive enough to give you their contact info.
That's fine but you can also put yourself into the position to meet more people and ask out a woman once she's comfortable with you.

Interacting with the public is pretty much consenting to be inconvenienced by others.
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Is dating supposed to be like a job interview?
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>>34387843
Um....
yeah?
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>>34387506
the issue is i cant find any space like that. most events are one-time only. you might meet someone and then never see them again so theres no space to actually get to know women.
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>>34373358
>>34373359
>>34373380
Women are naturally attracted to low IQ meatheads. Women not having rights is the only way high IQ genes can keep existing.
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infinite necrobump reddit spam on the 'log x10
/r9k/ speedrun
total advice death
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>>34388304
It's entirely possible to hang out with someone all night at a concert and then them being comfortable enough to ask them out.
It's never gone successfully for but usually because I am not a great closer and they're often not single.

The solution is to create more opportunities. It's not easy but it's possible.
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>>34373358
It's not like she would care or anything. Women are created for cooking, cleaning and give pleasure to men FOR men. Imagine giving a shit about women. I love women but they are retarded. They don't really care about anything but themselves. They are beautiful, but void and empty...
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>>34373350
yes please do i love when my boyfriend shows me his inner world it's so cute! he recently went through his pokemon card collection with me while on ft and ugh <3
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>>34373350
>Should I even share my actual interests at all with a girl?
Not with Olivia Rodrigo, no.
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>>34373350
only if you want to risk rejection and mockery for the prize of an authentic loving relationship
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No. Women don't like hearing men talk about themselves they just want us to nod and glaze them.
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1 gorillion reddit spams on /adv/ infini necrobump
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>>34373443
>a cellar full of assholes
what a poetic description for this whole website
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>>34391208
serial killer detected
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>>34375868
Woman here, this is more or less true. I'd also like to add that women like to exaggerate. This is why the autistic screeching about "not all men" falls on deaf ears and always will. It was never literally about how ALL MEN are rapists, sexists, cheaters, pedophiles, pigs, etc. It was about the ~feeling~ that that statement gives, to them and to shitheads like the majority of this site's population. If you get filtered by it, sucks to be you, do better.
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>>34396282
>>34396288
>>34396303
this is great advice
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>>34373350
>implying this isn't just bait
Seriously, I doubt this is entirely real-- I'm not saying I doubt she said it, it seems like a zoomer thing to say, but I doubt she 100% means it because, well, she's a star! How else is she supposed to compete for people's attention without putting out an album every six months or doing OnlyFans or something?
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>>34388304
ask for her socials
>but I don't like muh tweeter or muh snipechat or muh oonstagraham
skill issue, go where they are or die alone
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>>34373350
>Should I even share my actual interests at all with a girl?
yes.
if you dont share interests with her, you'll end up in a loveless marriage.
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>>34387492
>but these women dont want me no matter how much effort i put into myself.
OK you can't just say that and not at least describe your appearance, wardrobe, and way of speaking. And no that's not shallow, everyone makes judgments on those things all the time and usually we don't think about it. If you present a good face, women will be more likely to respond well to a request to go to an event or a coffee shop or the park etc.
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>>34373358
Based.
I find astronomerbros to be fedoratippers. They think they’re the reincarnation of Copernicus and will discover something that will stick it to le ebil church.
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>>34396310
I'm flattered, honestly. Do you want to chat somewhere?
(See how easy this can be?)
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>>34396329
Im never posting my face on the internet
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>>34373350
Opinions 4 U from a bitch who wears plastic shoes that show off her sweaty feet and toe jam
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1 zillion gorillion reddit spam /adv/ catalog for 3 months
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>>34373350
Not really advisable, because chances are shit will fall apart, women are traitors, and you'll be left with elements of your hobby/interest that will be tainted by bitter memories of the foid in question.
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>>34399688
thanks, one post by this ID inflammatory
that's good advice (very well-composed rhetoric)
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inflammatory reddit spam on the log, 1 gorillion replies, up for 3 months, infinite necrobump



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