>try to date online>when I don't disclose my race, men are obsessed with me without even seeing a picture>get told how "attractive" my voice is when I'm anonymous >as soon as I disclose my race (no pictures involved) they get distant or don't take me seriously anymoreshould I just kms
>>34377250Are you black?
>>34377258ya
>people are hearing your voice before seeing your face/picturesStop “dating” on Discord
>>34377250you should continue, find the guy who doesn't get distant once your race is revealedattractive voices are nice>should I just kmsno, retard
>>34377260No fucking wonder. I'm sure you're ok, but black and female doesn't appeal to most, if not all men, you're the least desired gender for a reason. Blame the sistah hood you retards love being apart of.
>>34377328that's not advice, retard
>>34377342It is you retarded bitch, you just don't want to accept it. Want advice? Stop trying to date as a black woman that most races, even black men don't want, better?
>>34377250>should I just kmsyes
>>34377250Unfortunately, there isn’t really anything you can do. You will always be Black, so people will always consider that when making judgements about you. I’m a Black guy, so I guess it isn’t exactly the same (it’s much easier to dehumanize women than men), but you can only get what you want by coping (changing what you want by leaning into it) or sifting through the garbage until you find someone.I went there a period where I was exclusively talking to Black girls but realized that it doesn’t actually resolve the race fixation problem. In fact, it actually amplified it in some ways. No good options really.
>>34377408Bro is gooning to ts
>>34377414*went through a period
>>34377250I date black chicks from time to time. Not always the best situation to be in on your part, I admit. I can tell you guys get screwed for options simply by being asked>do you usually date black girlsOn every fucking first date I go on with a black chick (I'm white with a mostly Eastern European phenotype)Maybe I am an outlier because I have culture shock with women in general (I come from a male-dominated tech field) and the last three black chicks I dated were all immigrants, so I have no idea what "normal" is supposed to look like with women or with black women
>>34377414>it's much easier to dehumanize women than menLol noThe only thing society sees as more expendable than a young man is an old woman
>>34377435That’s true but not really what I was referring to. Men just generally get more respect as human beings than women do. I work as an engineer and my experience as the only Black guy on my fairly large team has been much easier than my sister’s in her engineering-adjacent field.
>>34377464LEAST. DESIRED. FOR. A. REASON!fuck me are you nigs this stupid? I'm not being racist or pulling this outta my ass. The literal stats prove that no one like black women in any facade. You aren't going to fix OP's problem because she's doomed from the start. She'll be lucky if even a black man wants to deal with her.
>>34377260I think black girls are cute Í wish there were any in my country
>>34377510I wish black woman were real
>>34377250M-marry me femanon?
>>34377434I'd say this is true. Had a girlfriend and friends who had visible reactions to learning I had dated a black girl in the past. Not true for everybody, but it does happen.
>>34377250>>when I don't disclose my race, men are obsessed with me without even seeing a picture>>get told how "attractive" my voice is when I'm anonymousit means nothing, it just shows you talked to desperate incels online who cant get laid, and are so desperate they are simping to an anonymous female online without even knowing how she looks or if its actually a fat old man
>>34377720for real? I didn't know that happens with guys too
>>34377771For real. My friends called me an oil burner.
>>34377797That doesn’t even make sense. Shouldn’t it be like oil driller or coal miner? People say women “burn coal” because men go inside of them.
>>34377414how did dating black girls make it worse?
>>34377720that's really sad
>>34377763it means even /they/ don't like me though. I know not everyone is like this, but it seems to be most people, including in this thread. it really does something to the psyche over time
>>34377250You can't let them know about you being black before you let them know that you're hot enough to compensate for it. Only date face to face.
>>34378006ive never had a relationship from face to face dating, only from online relationships
>>34377987im one of them, i have become racist unironicallybut the thing is a) we are on 4chan, a board that is notorious for having non mainstream opinions and being racist etcb) my country (in europe) is flooded by brown niggers of all kinds and its clear as day all the brown niggers come here and only want to fuck white girls, im fed up with immigration and blm bullshit quite frankly normie people are mostly completely woke and dont care however, doesnt mean they want to have sex with you though
>>34377973It wasn’t worse all around but it was uncomfortable in different ways. They all saw the relationship through a racial lens - an expression of “black love”. They’d randomly make comments about my black features and talk about how much they love this trait that “we have”. One girl liked to mess with my hair.I think Black people in general are just kind of neurotic about the race issue, so that comes through in most interactions. In contrast, the one White girl I dated hardly ever made reference to her own race, just occasional comments about mine.
>>34378042why did you find that uncomfortable if they expressed that? like I'm sure an African couple wouldn't say stuff like that to each other., but assuming you're american it's not really shocking. if I dated a black dude I wouldn't be uncomfortable by things like that, they all sound positive
>>34377250you’re just going to have to disclose your race from the starttrying to hide it in hopes that you can “trick” someone is just going to make you miserable because you’re going to get rejected brutally instead of getting silently passed over
>>34377434>I date black girlsmust be a slav>mostly Eastern European phenotypeyup it’s a slav
>>34378017You will never find love online except with insane racist people
>>34378089i guess i also want to avoid making it known because that can attract certain types who want to hurt me specifically because they know I'm black. ive had like a black avatar for instance and people were a lot meaner or went out of their way rather than just leaving me alone
>>34378092i can accept that. but how do i do face to face dating?
>>34378101Idk do you have a job.
>>34378103yeah, i don't work with any guys my age that are single.
>>34378058It felt obnoxious - almost performative. Maybe I am self-hating though.
>>34378155if it's fake yeah that's annoying, but if it was sincere you do have self hatred if someone is telling you they like a feature you have
I’ve dated black girls, Asians and Hispanics, so the race thing always comes up but it’s always the toughest with black girls. With the Hispanics and Asians I dated it was quickly dispelled and forgotten about but with black girls it came up in conversation several times and it felt like I was liable to be put in a “gotcha” scenario at any given time so I was never able to relax.
>>34378289a "gotcha" as in trying to make fun of you or her?
>>34378307“Gotcha” as in “are you secretly racist” or similar. Kind of like a regular shit-test women give à la “would you love me if I were a worm/bug/etc” with no right answer, except both bad answers here get me in bigger trouble.
>>34377260Well at least you’re not Indian
>>34378317oh, I didn't think of that. >>34378340putting down a different race doesn't make me feel better. i have my opinions too but Indians have each other's back at least
>>34378317Yeah, that sounds horrible. You should be able to say anything with your girlfriend.
>>34378113Idk do you live close to a city, you don't have to go to a bar but hobby shops are full of young guys
>>34378353It absolutely happens to other guys as well so if you ever do find yourself in that kind of relationship be wary. But also you do have to be careful of the opposite happening to you - it can be stressful.>>34378354This is a very common thing even without the racial component.
>>34378358im not close enough to my nearest city to go regularly, plus it's really pricey there bc it's all richfags>>34378398i don't think ive ever done that or had that happen to me. im more focused on the basic acceptance part :[
>>34378421Aah, well if you're really looking online I recommend you evaluate the people you surround yourself with. I spent years online around people who were openly racist and it gets grating and demoralizing after a while. If you're around people who find you repulsive for an unchanging part of yourself they're probably not the kinda people you want to be around in the first place.
>>34377250just don't be a ratchet hoe and find a normal white guy who won't beat you or make you a single mom. I'm a Eurofag and I live African American women, unfortunately here we only have hijab Somali durka durka turd world shitskins.
>>34378421> im more focused on the basic acceptance part :[I mean, you must understand what you are doing? You are coming to online spaces that are known for being openly racist with the goal of winning their acceptance? Why would you do this? What do you get out of it?
>>34378421I wouldn’t put too much stock in acceptance when it comes to online friendships and stuff. Likely people got a bit thrown for a loop that you are actually black and lost interest. People treat online friendships like disposable entertainment so any little thing that’s not expected makes them lose interest.
>>34378455Become Muslim and marry a Somlai woman anon.
>>34377510Same…
>>34378471Not sure why I spammed question marks
>>34378471cuz i can't find any place that tolerates me?
>>34378553reddit.com
Maybe one day you’ll see it as more of a blessing in disguise. Those who would look down on you for your race or be intimidated by it are still in their growing up phase. It might just take longer but when the right one comes along you’ll be happy with them.
>>34378042Ah, so the issue is race seems to matter little to you while others seem obsessed with it and you only learn this deep into the relationship? Yeah, I can see why that would be annoying. It would be as if people are dating you to fulfill a racial agenda rather than you know, liking you for you. Worse yet since you have no way of vetting these people.
>>34378568did it work for you? what subreddit would i use>>34378607i hope you're right!
>>34377250That sucks, anon. I'm sorry to hear that.If you keep at it you will EVENTUALLY find someone who does not care and will remain interested. I promise you this. That being said, I understand that consistent rejection like this would demoralize anyone and grind away at any motivation to continue. You can hardly be blamed for wanting to stop. I know it's rough out there. Do not give up.>Ghetto GaggersChrist, I am afraid to ask.
>>34378705> Christ, I am afraid to ask.I forget sometimes that most normal people have no exposure to this sort of thing.
>>34378705im def focusing on the negatives but all the sweet accepting men live too far away for it to ever be something realistic. sometimes i wonder if i should leave the us to seek a higher quality of life somewhere else but idk where id go
>>34378742>def focusing on the negatives Understandable. It might be good to take a small break from dating. Take your mind off it for a bit.>all the sweet accepting men live too far awayOut of curiosity, how do you know this? Did you live in a location with better prospects previously?>leave the us to seek a higher quality of lifeI won't say that a higher standard of living isn't out there but in-general it is a mistake to believe that you can avoid the mundane challenges of life by moving.You may leave and find that the problems that plague you still remain.Granted, for all I know you live in a particularly racist pocket somewhere and settling anywhere else could actually improve your situation. So I suppose you should take what I'm saying with a grain of salt.
>>34378779ik bc they told me where they lived and it's almost never been the us, i haven't lived anywhere else
>>34377408i'm not OP
>>34378782>bc they told me where they lived and it's almost never been the usAlright. How are you meeting these dudes? I'm guessing it isn't a service of some sort since your options aren't filtered by distance?
>>34377687>Caucasoid featuresShe is either a genetic mutant or wypipo are in her ancestry with recent generations.
>>34378849gaming and discord
>>34378865>fully black African woman in the jungle>caucasoid featuresWhy are so many retards like this? Do you just automatically equate beauty with whiteness?
>>34378871I imagine you probably have a reason to not use dating apps, right? I know there must be a way to narrow who you interact with to your region. But how do we ensure you matchmake/meetup with people at least relatively close? What sort of discord servers are you joining? How are you finding them?
>>34377250White racist neonazi jew hater here.I jerked gallons to big mammas.
>>34378942i dont have any pictures really for dating apps theyre just ones related to multiplayer games i played. i joined a regional server once but it was really hostile so i left it
>>34378974>i dont have any pictures really for dating appsCan you not take some or do you not feel comfortable doing so?
>>34378944>big mammasLiterally the worst genre of them
>>34378987only having selfies would be really awkward idk
>>34378998I do it as a guy and yeah, girls have commented on it. I don’t really have friends though, and I hardly go out, so I can’t really get the pictures. Only full body shots are mirror selfies.
>>34378998>only having selfies would be really awkwardYou definitely won't be the only one. Plenty of people only put up selfies.
>>34379004For girls, it doesn’t really matter
>>34378017Why is that btw? Not even through a friend group?
>>34378974If you don't mind me asking, what region?
Put "Black" in your username and use a black profile.Next time you get to share pics the simps will be interested and probably fap to you.
>>34378017Are you purposefully avoiding face-to-face dating or is it simply something you haven't tried yet?
>>34379101>modern introverts>having friends
Do you date black men? Do you date men of your own race?>YesThen you found your solution>NoThen why would anyone take you seriously
>>34380203forgot pic
>>34380203Just let people do what they want you freak.
Are you in shape? If not, that’s something you can change, and it makes a huge difference.
>>34377250a lot of guys are prejudiced towards black women. its not your fault but its more so traumatized from dealing with ghetto hoodrats in high school. im sure theres at least one out of the 100 or so guys in your dms that doesnt run away when he knows. give that guy a chance
