>I’m autistic and don’t like games though
Why are you playing games?

1. Stand up for yourself. If they aren't giving you current time attention they're not worth it. It doesn't even matter if they had an ex or not. they could be obsessed with daddy for all i care but why put up with it
2. Nice isn't good.
True for guys especially
3. You're probably attracting a certain personality type.
Change the bait You're using

>>34380617
>theyre not worth if
I legit just don’t get into relationships at all. It’s so rare people wanna dedicate to me. I don’t wanna fuck up this relationship. A bit of half attention and some care is better than nothing. I’m not breaking up, I’m just wondering if I can make him DEDICATE instead if having me around as some safe whatever the fuck
>guys don’t like nice
I genuinely have no clue how to balance this. Guys all say they want a nice gf but this is how they all treat me. But the MOMENT I come up for myself do they do the whole “oh well it seems im not good enough for you since I’m clearly hurting you” even though it was just a tiny thing I brought up
>3
They’ve all been pretty different from each other

>>34380608
let me ask you something, how in the world do people end up with such flimsy relationships?

>he was FWB with
like, do they just ask the person next to them in the bus to fuck or what? Do you consider yourself in a relationship when you have fucked 5 times with a guy?

I swear i don't get what the deal is, I've never had a partner, if i had one i wouldn't give them so much shit, i don't even have time to fool around with how much you have to study and work to stay afloat. Do you guys receive pensions or something?

>>34380608
Stop wasting your time by being nice; nice reads as "push over" and "easy target" to anyone who wants to take advantage of other people. They're just trying to manipulate you into sticking it out with all the angel talk.

You need to demand the bare minimum respect (through action not verbal nagging). That means figuring out what you want (a partner that isn't going to waste your time and energy), what red flags suggest a partner is going to waste your time or result in bad outcomes, and dating accordingly. You might want to shoot for someone a little less attractive to you, or a little more boring than you'd normally go for too if you're constantly attracted to dirtbags

>>34380608
> men and women
>>34380673

Girl. Tell me what the hell do you want out of life? How old are you even? What are you studying in college, what do you do for a job?

You sound so fucking lost. You sound like someone destined to be perpetually poor, taking emotional decisions, never trying hard for things, just blaming everything and everyone without ever looking at the part you're doing.

If you would take time making reasonable decisions, you would find people who value you for your life plans and not for a quick fuck or whatever you're complaining about.

>>34380673
>I’m just wondering if I can make him
You can't make anyone do anything. You get what's written on the tin, which in this case is someone who treats you like furniture or a convenient fuck toy.

>MOMENT I come up for myself
Yes, this is what happens when you set boundaries with people who are accustomed to taking advantage of you and only want you around for what they can get out of you. If you're okay with that, fine, carry on; if you're not you need to stand up for yourself for real.

maybe your so autistic they dont know how to act around you, this or you are very inhibited and you are so awkward they try to avoid you

>>34380702
28 NEET. Why would anyone care what I do in life?

>>34380811
Why would your partner care what you do in life? Hmm. I mean the only ones who wouldn't care are the ones who see you as a cumdump.

>>34380703
I'm 35 my wife is 26, and this is something we learned the hard way. Pertaining to boundaries. Starts with parents that think because you are their child you can't have boundaries or they steam roll them anytime you out some up. This progresses into adulthood and every other relationship. Along with this there is this bizarre cultural norm in the west that because they're your parents or someone close to you, that you should tolerate incredibly egregious behavior. That is BACKWARDS. People that love and care for you should treat you best, and YOU should have the least tolerance for poor behavior from them. Inversely you should treat those closest to you best. That relationship is not an opportunity to abuse the good graces of a "loved" one.

You have noticed that's what many people do, especially if you were raised by immature/narcissists because they train you to excuse and accept the behavior.

>>34380811
Do you understand what I'm saying anona?

If you're dating, your intent should be to become THE best friend. If some loser is still hung up on an ex, the relationship was dead it the water from the start.

>>34380608
You are attracting the wrong kind of person