How do I stop feeling bitter about people in relationships?
>>34382914By realizing that eventually every relationship resembles familial love more than romantic love. Love and obsession require some amount of uncertainty (mystery). Once you live together for many years, it goes away entirely. That's why so many people relationship hop, never staying more than 2-5 years, because it gets boring honestly. Comfortable but boring. Those who stick around after this realization are the smart who know you can't escape this if you want to be with someone, and those who have some sort of external pressure like religious shame (or shaming themselves without any religion).
Realize someone else’s relationship is like everything else in life, it has nothing to do with you, and then move on
>>34382914Just identify what the bitterness is. When someone tells you how to stop feeling something they're full of shit. Feelings are not something you get to choose, they choose (you). What you do get to choose is how to channel them and how to reflect on them. You'd do yourself no favors by trying to stop feeling bitter, and I'm saying that to you as a married man. The bitterness is important to feel and if you try to eliminate it from yourself you will only struggle with cognitive dissonance from lying to yourself and that's on top of the bitterness. Just identify why you are bitter what specifically is it that drives you to bitterness? Is it shame in yourself for feeling lesser than those in relationships? Is it envy that others have access to something in life that you feel locked out of? Is it comparative misery where you feel sad and empty compared to others who you perceived to be happier than you? Do you feel emotionally homeless? it all of the above? Those things are important to dwell on because as shit as they feel they are the very same feelings that contain hunger and appetite for love. Without that capacity for bitterness you would have no capacity for desire. So simply understand your bitterness, while it feels shit, comes from a sincere place. You desire and wish to be desirable in turn. And that is something you should accept and pursue to fulfill, because you deserve it bud. You should be able to enjoy a fulfilling relationship, and I hope one finds you soon. Accept the bitterness and don't fight it, just don't allow it to prevent you from seeking what you desire.
Self love
>>34383093>Self loveDoesn't exist. It's a relic from the new-age movement, it's just narcissism but sprayed with perfume and sprinkled with glitter. The set up is to love someone, and the love it returned. Reciprocity is what fulfills humans, we are a social species. If our ancestors settled for 'self love' we'd have gone extinct.
>>34382914It doesn't affect you in any way. Are you happy about the shit that doesn't happen? Were you grateful today for not being a hobo or whatever? Probably you didn't. Apply this stupid way of thinking both ways if you must, and realise you are in a better position than lots of people.If you want a gf/bf and can't get it then work actively. If you don't, you lack the right to complain. If it's under your control, change it. If it isn't acknowledge it and move on.Maybe you idealise relationships. Most of the couples you see are probably bs.
>>34382914>How do I stop feeling bitter about people in relationships?have gratitude for what (You) have, or if your life sucks, fill it with things you're grateful for
Get your own.
>>34383120That’s retarded. Everybody is capable of limitless and unconditional love. (Except me but that’s another story)You can’t love other people without loving yourself first.
>>34383386>Everybody is capable of limitless and unconditional loveLMAO bullshit. Unconditional love? Okay let's run that experiment.You have a wife, you love her very much, it's unconditional. One night she takes a big cock up her ass and her pussy in the same night from someone she met outside of a hotel. Let's check in on that 'unconditional' love ah shit well it's gone. Turns out it had a condition after all oh well.That's that idea out the window. "You can only love someone else until you love yourself first." Do you kiss yourself in the mirror before kissing someone else? What kind of bat shit pageantry is that? Didn't you just say love is unconditional a second ago? Now there's a condition:over yourself first.It's new age bullshit hippie nonsense from the 1960's dude. Dreamed up by acid victims and mushroom munching deadbeats whose parents were boomers so they really had to invent copes like "self love" because boomer parents (actual boomers from the 50's) were really fucking shit at loving their own kids. These psychotic neurotic hippie bastard children became our teachers and our politicians and our media and they spewed new age shit into our heads. It doesn't make the mantra of self love real
>>34382914Most relationships kind of suckThe novelty of sticking your dick in a warm hole wears out incredibly fast
>>34382914The worst way is to try to rationalize/logic/think yourself out of it. You won’t fix this by “accepting” or “realizing” some thought inside your head. That’s not how it works.The best way is to take action, meaning physically modify your behavior to move your body in the world in such a way that you end up in a relationship. That bitterness you feel is a compass pointing right at what you want. You want a relationship.
>>34382914Don't. Just lean into the feeling
>>34383413>You have a wife, you love her very much, it's unconditional. One night she takes a big cock up her ass and her pussy in the same night from someone she met outside of a hotel. Let's check in on that 'unconditional' love ah shit well it's gone. Turns out it had a condition after all oh well.I would forgive her. Pobodies Nerfect
>>34382914Those people are gross a lot of the time
