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I (30f) have been seeing a lovely man (33) for a few weeks. Yesterday I tried to get him to have sex with me, he said no and he told me he is actually virgin. What shall I do with him?
I want family and steady relationship, but his inexperience gave me ick. He claims I'm the one for him but how does he actually know that? He has never even slept with a woman so how can I be sure I'm actually what he wants?
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>>34385870
Humans like pandas these days. Can't get them to breed.
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Cuanto tiempo llevan saliendo y como estas segura que quieres formar un futuro con el?
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>>34385870
Guess you should let him fuck around.
Anyway, demoralization thread made by a terminally online man projecting.
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>him being a virgin gives me the ick
Why are foids like this? I thought a man being a virgin is a green flag because it meant you'll be his first.
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>>34385941
Natural selection will just remove those sorts of people from the gene pool. The future belongs to retards with no impulse control.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5X18lqyDO0
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>>34386059
Women naturally crave the sperm of men who are uncivilizable animals. Being a virgin at 33 means he's a meek Timmy with zero assertiveness.
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>>34385870
Male hands typed this.
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Probably fake. But I'll bite.

You're 30.
Ask him tomorrow to marry you and you'll wait for him after the wedding. If he says anything other than I'm buying the rings right now, dump him.
Get another guy that'll be happy getting a 30yr old wife.
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>>34385870
Has he ever been in a relationship that lasted a significant amount of time?

I just can't deal with that kind of baggage. I'm past the point of putting up with men making their first relationship mistakes with me I'm not a personal trainer for inexperienced guys I'm a woman in my 30s who wants to date someone with a commensurate amount of experience to myself not significantly less, or more.
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>>34386059
>Why are foids like this? I thought a man being a virgin is a green flag because it meant you'll be his first

Because women are insecure creatures, the thing about women though is their insecurity is upside-down. When a girl says she gets the "ick" she isn't saying the man is the one with a problem. She is saying she is the one with the problem. And the problem girls have with virgin guys is that women are terrified to be dumped or abandoned or left for something better. Virgin men scare them because they think the virgin man won't know if she likes her sexually or not because he doesn't know, he can't know, he has nothing to compare to. This uncertainty makes women feel self conscious paranoia.

Also women are terrified of performance anxiety. A virgin man mean she feels she has to impress him for his first time and live up to any grandiose expectations he may have and women are terrified to disappoint people, makes them feel ugly.

The funny part is women have no fucking idea how easy it is to please a man and keep him satisfied. Women get themselves into a knot of self-consumed self conscious anxiety over literally nothing.
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>>34386142
>I just can't deal with that kind of baggage. I'm past the point of putting up with men making their first relationship mistakes with me I'm not a personal trainer for inexperienced guys I'm a woman in my 30s who wants to date someone with a commensurate amount of experience to myself not significantly less, or more.

You know you don't need to have a romantic relationship or a large sexual portfolio to be good at relationships. Every single life lesson that you can get from romantic relationships you can easily get from having a good family and strong relationship to loving parents. The only thing that separates the bf/gf (hubby/wife) dynamic is blood relation and the fact you kiss and put penis in vagina.

Boundaries, respect, knowing the P's and Q's, knowing how to give and receive emotionally, those can be learned outside of relationships.
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>>34385870
greasy ass moid hands
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>>34385870
Also I'll give my advice:
I think you're being a bit immature in your evaluations. You are in the shit-test mindset. You're also still stuck in that teenage logic of thinking sex = signs of marriage material.

You tried to get him to have sex with you? That doesn't sound like a sincere sexual premise. Sound more like you wanted to know if he finds you fuckable rather than genuinely wanting to make love.

>I want family and steady relationship
Having sex within the first phase of dating is the fastest way to fuck that up.

>His inexperience gave me the ick
Inexperience at what? Sex? Is that what you think marriage and family building is all about? Just laying in bed all day and all night and taking cock?

>He has never even slept with a woman so how can I be sure I'm actually what he wants?
That your self esteem issue showing up. You think the only value you can bring to a man's life is sex and that's all. Have you considered he sees something in you that he enjoys that is beyond sex? Did it ever occur to you that men can also care about the person the tits and ass and pussy is attached to?
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>>34386059
creepy old men are the only ones who care about being someone's "first". women would rather have a good time with someone experienced than to have awkward bumbling virgin sex with a dude who's too nervous to get hard
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>>34386229
Pussy isn't a Rubik's cube it doesn't take experience to know much about it. Haha foreplay haha clit play until girl is ready haha go slow at first and communicate dirty talk and build up pace until orgasm. Wow not that hard.
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>>34386059
>Why are foids like this?
Women want high status men. Him being a virgin means no other woman has ever wanted him. He's literally walking garbage, that has successfully hidden his extremely low status from her until now.
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>>34386059
>Why are foids like this?
It's simple. Women don't think for themselves. They don't look at a man and objectively think "Do I want him?" They think "What will others think of me if they think I want him?" It's not conscious but women can't form their own opinions. They do whatever the group tells them to. In her woman brain, since no woman has ever wanted him, he must be bad.
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>>34386059
It's the same reason a woman with a kid is a red flag. She's fertile.
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>>34385870
I'm gonna assume this isn't a troll post and is actually legit. The issue here is you're allegedly 30 but you have the mentality of a 19 year old. You say you want family and children yet you ask:
>how can I be sure I'm actually what he wants?
Any truly mature 30 year old that has any business starting a family should recognize that there is a laundry list of things that are more important in a person than anything that goes on with them in the bedroom. Barring things that you should've already notified him about such as STDs, you probably tick so many of his boxes that it doesn't matter what the sex is like, your pussy could look like the #1 from Arby's and he'd still want to be with you, because you have other redeeming qualities.
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>>34385870
You're 30, you've hit the wall already, you aren't going to make a family because you're a dried-up hag.
Take the L
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>>34385870
Women...
Please tell me this is bait
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>>34386906
Exaggerated. I'm sure some women would be icked out by a 30 yo virgin, but it's a minority.
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>>34385870
>few weeks
>tried to get him to have sex with me
>I want family
>his inexperience gave me ick
>I'm actually what he wants
sounds like he's dodging a bullet
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>>34386033
This is not demoralization thread, I'm serious about this.

>>34386059
Then how can I be sure that man wants exactly me? Because he hasn't been with anyone, how can he really know what he wants? Also having to "train" someone who has never been in a relationship comes with lots of emotional baggage.
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>>34387880
So like I said, let him fuck around. Invite over women and let him have his way. Then he figures out if he wants you or is just desperate, and the other women do the training for you.
Win-win, demoralizationfag.
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>>34387880
What do you even want? You don't like the guy, but want us to tell you to like him?
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>>34386187
>Having sex within the first phase of dating is the fastest way to fuck that up.
Sex is important to me in romantic relationships. Why would it not be good to have sex earlier than later?

>Inexperience at what? Sex?
Not only sex, but also relationships generally.

>You think the only value you can bring to a man's life is sex and that's all.
That's a lie. Of course good sex isn't just enough by itself. But good sexlife is necessary for long term relationship.
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>mfw this thread
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>>34385870
Why are you being a hoe?
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>>34387880
>Then how can I be sure that man wants exactly me?
you think he has never masrturbated to porn and seen 100000s of vaginas already? kek

>>34386764
this was the best reply, women are truly idiots. they have no own opinion, they just do what others do, what is shown on social media etc
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>>34388094
If I want to have sex in relationship that doesn't make me a "hoe". What is wrong with you?

>>34388131
Masturbating and watching porn are totally different things. They don't teach you to read women and know what they like and don't like.
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>>34388168
>They don't teach you to read women and know what they like and don't like.
thats not what you said in your post though, you claimed he doesnt know what girl he likes not what you like sexually
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>>34385870
DTMFA. This relationship isn't going anywhere.
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>>34386112
>I know a lot about women and relationships, you can tell by my wojak image folder
I don't know what's more retarded, the idea you save these or that you made it
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>>34386764
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>>34385870
false flag bait to make the virgins here rage
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>>34385870
Sex isn't rocket science. If you are willing to drop an otherwise good relationship for a skill that can be easily picked up, then you are truly insane and you deserve the fate that awaits you on the dating market of this day an age.
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>>34385870
You don't deserve him. Break up and save his time.
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>>34387908
You're fucking disgusting. You're a female gooner. Arguably worse than male gooners based on the higher risk of getting herpes and chlamydia from coming into contact with you. You're 30 already, you've spent half of your life getting dicked and you want more, more and more. Only 10 more years until your snatch dries and atrophies, but you drop good prospects that would last 50 long years just to be dicked in a fifth of them.

You know what spanish speakers call women like you?
Puta
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>>34385870
great larp for bants
>>34386059
a woman's vetting strategy has failed if she finds a man that no other woman wants
she wants to be the best by comparison, not by definition, despite comparison being the thief of joy
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>>34385870
>inexperience gave me ick
Only a trash whore with STDs will say something like this. You should find yourself a fuckboy and share your STDs with him. Stay away from free virgin spirits. You need something more filthy an grotesque that can fit your edgy trash persona. Majority of women are so fucking disgusting...
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>>34388241
Chuds have better insight into human nature and women than the average normgroid
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>>34385870
subtle demotivational thread
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>>34385870
Holy shit we need to remove voting rights from Western women
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>>34386059
I genuinely do not believe OP is a woman.
This whole post feels like a poor imitation. It's as if someone is trying to farm disdainful replies for some bizarre self-gratification.
I don't doubt there are women like this but I'm skeptical this is one of em.
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>>34398519
Someone is new to /adv/. Yes, most threads there are fiction. Why would anyone actually ask for advice here? That would demented.
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>>34385870
>I (30f) have been seeing a lovely man (33) for a few weeks. Yesterday I tried to get him to have sex with me, he said no and he told me he is actually virgin. What shall I do with him?
people aren't going to be able to give you good advice without context.

why did he turn you down? and why does he think you are the one for him?
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>>34398591
I have tried to talk to him, but he has said something like it's too early to have sex and he's super nervous.

>>34398519
Too bad if you don't believe me, but I am a woman and I made this thread seriously.

>>34395664
Are you all virgins here or why is your attitude to sex so negative? Also I have no STDs and never even had any.



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