This one is a bit weird. I just got out of the military (Army, to be specific) and I want to meet people and get a gf. People have consistently told me that I'm charming, charismatic, and very outwardly confident. I've always had a knack, I guess, for talking to people and I've never had trouble making friends or even getting previous girlfriends from work. However, none of those relationships worked out (military wooks, if you know you know) and now that I'm out I don't know where to meet people that I can have enough consistent contact with to get to know and be friends with. It has to be in person, because while I'm sure that I'm not ugly I'm also not particularly attractive considering my complete lack of any success on any dating app over multiple years. I've never been rejected when I've asked someone out, and several close friends of mine have told me that I ought to be a confidence artist. Internally, though, it's like an unconscious thing, I don't feel super confident or even in any particular way, I just kind of say what comes to mind and people generally like me. My current job is a 100% sausagefest, and so are all of my hobbies (shooting, principally). I don't go to the gym because I'm a lanklet and I don't want to pretend to be a liberal to get pussy. What should I do?
>>34387474>because while I'm sure that I'm not ugly I'm also not particularly attractive considering my complete lack of any success on any dating app over multiple years.dating apps are antichrist tech & you shouldn't take anything about them seriously>I don't go to the gym because I'm a lanklet and I don't want to pretend to be a liberal to get pussy.i don't get what you mean by this>What should I do?it somewhat depends on what's available in your local areapeople put a lot of weight on it, but you can meet people wherever. the important thing is to DO THINGS with the people you meet on a regular basiscrazy shared experiences are how to create bonds, this is especially true as people get olderyou can't just be sitting around smoking weed or going to restaurants or doing discord calls with people, you'll obviously drift apart. need to have crazy shared experiences like i saidyou can also meet new people by interacting with people you already know, and open up other weird opportunitiesthis^ is the best way to leverage your mojo, probably. put emphasis not on meeting people but on watering existing relationships
i'm writing like a retard right now but hopefully you get the pointyou get the most bang for your buck by just exploring your local area and doing as much shit as possible throughout the day, then maybe try talking with the people you see on a regular basis, use your judgment
don't worry too muc habout the BEST places, it's ultimately not gonna matter in 1 month whether you picked a slightly worse or slightly better place to search fr people
>>34387480> i don't get what you mean by thisI don't go to the gym so I can't meet people at the gym and I'm not going to join any lefty political orgs to get pussy. >you can't just be sitting around smoking weed or going to restaurants or doing discord calls with people, you'll obviously drift apart. need to have crazy shared experiences like i saidWell the problem is like, a) where do I meet people. There's basically nothing in my area it's a shitty military town with 2 bars and a college. b) Once I actually have rapport with someone I have no problem planning things and doing shit, but the problem is just getting to the point where I can chat someone up consistently enough to invite them to do X or Y thing.
>>34387495>b) Once I actually have rapport with someone I have no problem planning things and doing shit, but the problem is just getting to the point where I can chat someone up consistently enough to invite them to do X or Y thing.i see, that's a bit harderthere might be something specific about your first impressions which is throwing people off, enough to detract from your confidencethat's my first thought, anyway>I don't go to the gym so I can't meet people at the gym and I'm not going to join any lefty political orgs to get pussy.oh i seeand yeah it's probably a mistake to try and date through political orgs in general, it could work but it seems like a recipe for nightmare shenanigans xda) where do I meet people. There's basically nothing in my area it's a shitty military town with 2 bars and a collegethat's a bit rough as well, unless there's another town/city less than an hours drive away, and even then that's inconvenient..but are you sure there's nothing in your town? i wish i knew what to look for specificallyif there's a way to find out what the college kids do, that might give you some ideas, but idk if that would be possible without doing any "creepy" shit or whether the college kids would even be going places you'd be interested injust thinking out loud, i wish i had better advicehopefully some other anons will
>>34387511yeah i mean i've been to the bars a couple times but idk ive only went with friends and not actually went up to randoms and talked to them
>>34387474> I've never been rejected when I've asked someone out,This is not a great thing. You should get comfortable being able to approach someone and getting rejected. Have you ever refrained from asking someone out because you weren’t 100% sure?
>>34388958Not really, I've only asked people out that I knew for at least a couple weeks as a friend or acquaintance though.
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