Hey y'all.. I'm with her for 6 years now.. we had some issues in the past but nothing major, small normal fights I guess but everything changed like 1.5 year ago.. After we decided we gonna go for a child and after she got pregnant she started harassing me. It's constant yelling and bitching about everything. After our son got born it became even worse. We are fighting every day, she's become a raging bitch. She even started lying and making her look as a victim. Like shes gonna make up a story what happened or what I did to her. I'm really a calm guy, I don't yell nor I use bad words especially to her. We were fighting the other day, she keeps telling me how I changed and I don't care about her or about our son. She would start raging and calling me names, telling me she's gonna break up with me and stuff like that. The next day when we mentioned the fight she would instantly go full defense mode and say I was yelling at her and called her a retard which is not true and I wouldn't do that ever.. This shit is going on for a long time and I really can't stand being harassed every day. Her whole family said she needs get professional help because she's been in a huge fight with pretty much her whole family. She's the type of the person who thinks she's better and smarter than anyone else and she's obligated to tell everyone that they are doing wrong. I'm 32 years old. Currently working as a aircraft mechanic, full time, Monday to Friday. I don't go out, I don't drink, stopped gaming because she's hating gamers and games. I'm home all the time, taking care of the family and everything else. I do the cleaning, cooking, driving, paying bills and whatnot. Please someone give me a legit answer because im mentaly exhausted..
It is like looking at an alternate universe ending. Find peace before resentment fills every aspect of your lives. t. 7year relationship ended likely resulted in this but with the chick addicted to league of legends on top of it all
Lol ya people don't tell you about that part of having kids usually. The hormones turn a lot of women into full crazy mode. Sounds like your wife is a little on the worse side of that too. Sorry you're in this situation but not much you can do, just try not to do anything you can't fix.
Burn the contract and her with it.
Every time some faggot on this site gaslights someone into marriage and kids, I think of people like OP who come here to say their life is a living hell. She baby trapped you and you put a ring on it, so she got comfortable and can abuse you now. IF you divorce her you will be paying child support for 21 years, and some alimony along with half your shit gone. Good luck and try not to fuck up next time.
>stopped gaming because she's hating gamers and games.Also, do not give up your hobby or things that make you happy over some miserable woman. This is the kind of woman where no matter what you do it is never enough. You could win the lotto tomorrow and have early retirement and tuition paid for your kid, she'd still whine about it.
>>34387611There's a basic communication gap here. She is experiencing a reality different from the one you describe. (That's not wierd or scary - it just means that if she told the story it would be different from yours because you are each seeing only part of the reality)This is the sort of thing marriage counsellors are actually pretty good at - they sit you down and have you tell your story and her tell her story and then they translate each into something the other can hear - "When he says X you're hearing Y and getting mad at that, but he is not saying Y; he's just saying X"
>>34387689>marriage counsellorsHusband gaslighting humiliation ritual
>>34387699>Husband gaslighting humiliation ritualOur marriage counselor wasn't that. My wife expected me to pay $250/hr to have two women (counselor and wife) to yell at me for an hour. One session and the MC started calling out my wife for her behavior. My wife refused to go back to her after that. We found another MC (woman) and that MC did the same thing.
>>34387720This only proves my point that the woman is going to shop around and will refuse to go to a marriage counselor unless she can find a female one that wants to turn it into a struggle session for the man.
>>34387611divorce is what's best for the child if you really are constantly yelling at eachother.
>>34387611i dont think adv can help you with this man, you either have to talk it out with your wife and if she isnt willing to better herself might as well divorce, only you know best
>>34387611Run away! Put your most valuable belongings in a backpack and leave home. Travel to another city and never come back. Change your phone number, your email, etc. Completely cut off your contact with her, with all your friends and family.That's the only way you can get rid of this problem and not have to pay alimony.
start recording her. document everything, every lie you can document the better. then when you divorce you at least have a chance of getting your son and not paying her a dime.
>>34387611>Her whole family said she needs get professional help because she's been in a huge fight with pretty much her whole family.She might have BPD or some hormonal changes. Pregnancy can rewire a woman's body. It's better to get checked if the problem is more physical in nature, if you can convince her to have it examined in the first place.
>>34387611>stopped gaming because she's hating gamers and gamesWere you aware that she held this opinion before getting married?>Her whole family said she needs get professional help because she's been in a huge fight with pretty much her whole family.Were you aware of her mercurial, argumentative behavior beforehand?Additionally, do you match her "energy" during these fights? Do you stoop to her level? Get defensive? Yell back? Lash out? Not accusing you of anything here, just trying to get s full picture.
>>34387611>Her whole family said she needs get professional help because she's been in a huge fight with pretty much her whole family.Her entire life, or since she gave birth?Get marital counseling with someone who can recognize mental problems (most of them). My guess is motherhood did a number on her hormonally, there's shit going on with her family you're not aware of, she was assaulted and hasn't told you, or a combination of these. Think hard about what she was like before and exactly when she changed, did your employment change at the same time?
>>34387611She probably needs progesterone, get some progesterone cream. Progest-e is a good one
>>34390037https://raypeat.com/articles/articles/progesterone-summaries.shtmlhttps://www.reddit.com/r/raypeat/comments/1hkclbc/the_best_antidepressant_ive_ever_taken_is/
>>34387611Similar story except I'm post-divorce.I expected I would eventually find myself.I didn't.I'm overweight, older, my body is betraying me, I've totally relapsed into alcoholism after several years clean. The hard part is I don't have the body to go out and live life anymore.I sit at home and rot. I keep trying to get it back together and I can't.My advice is rope. I'm trying to figure out how to. I have no other future left.Anons, if you live in the Anglosphere or anywhere in the Western world: DO NOT get married. Whatever you think you're gonna get, I promise you won't.
>>34387699>>34387720>>34387779My marriage counselor was a pastor who I had been friends with for many years before I even started attending his church. This is pretty much what happened to me; it even turned me off of religion almost entirely and I've been some kind of church-goer all my life.
>>34387689>marriage counsellorsWaste of time. Either put up with her shit until the kid is 18, or put up withpaying child support until the kid is 18 (or 25 if it goes to college)
You sound kind of miserable dude. There is a good chance you are massively underplaying her actual grievances and are just unpleasant to be around daily. I worked with AMTs for many of them were either bitterly divorced or hate their wife. That was on the line though so a lot of those dudes were working weird hours and that's ALWAYS hard for a family.Or maybe she's actually being a huge bitch for no reason but it usually goes both ways in my experience. You didn't say a single positive thing about her, so you come across as someone either staying for the kids or because you lack the will/means to leave. Kids aren't a reason to stay in a bad marriage. If you can't articulate why you want to stay in it, then you already know what to do yeah?
>>34387611She cheated on you 1.5 year ago and now she's projecting her guilt into you.Go ahead, ask me how I know...
