It's hard out here in my city for whatever reason. I don't know how people do it. There's only two places where I could meet women. Retail job and my college. But mostly work. I've turned down a lot of women for a variety reasons. A lot of them are nice but they might not be too smart, or they're too fat, have kids, too passive, not want kids, too young, or clearly into me but already have someone. It's hell. The passivity thing especially pisses me off. Sometimes I'll meet a girl that's really cute but she puts in NO FUCKING EFFORT to make me attracted to her. I'll eventually stop talking to her and she just ends up staring at me when I'm not looking instead of starting a conversation. I'm convinced a lot of women have low self-esteem.Anyways, I don't know why I'm like this. Maybe it's because I'm older? I notice I become really attracted to women that make the first move. Probably because I get confident that it'll actually go somewhere. But that rarely happens. Do I just give up? Do I just stop listening to the voice that says "this is going to fail" and just give every girl a chance from now on? I'm 26 and getting older. I don't know how much time I have left until I'm at a point where all the dateable women are already taken.
>>34388254>. A lot of them are nice but they might not be too smart, or they're too fat, have kids, too passive, not want kids, too young, or clearly into me but already have someone. It's hell.This is baitFind another way to amuse yourself
>>34388261This thread is for people that date, not incels. Sorry
>>34388264I don't date because my wife of 35 years would objectOP is telling everyone he's being propositioned but just too fussy to connect which is either a lie to enrage incels or a sign he actually deserves to live alone with his steam library and his porn webms>Sometimes I'll meet a girl that's really cute but she puts in NO FUCKING EFFORT to make me attracted to her. Yeah I've raised a kid to the same age as OP without this angry retardation
>>34388254>The passivity thing especially pisses me off. Sometimes I'll meet a girl that's really cute but she puts in NO FUCKING EFFORT to make me attracted to her.Women don't put in effort. The effort they make is where they put on makeup for hours before they go out. That's all they're going to do for you.
>>34388254>Do I just stop listening to the voice that says "this is going to fail" and just give every girl a chance from now on?Has that voice gotten you sex or romance so farIs it actually your friend
>>34388287I've heard about that. I've met some women that probably think this. But there's not a single guy on this planet that actually cares about this. If a guy is attracted he will find them attractive even if they were wearing a trash bag. So women wearing makeup is more to feel better about themselves. It's so stupid
>>34388290I only care about finding a relationship. I'd rather be single than put up with bullshit from someone I'm not compatible with. I met a girl who I thought wanted to be friends but actually wanted more, and she already had someone. That really traumatized me. And I see divorced couples everywhere. I'd rather be single and picky than end up like them
>>34388294The point is not to attract the average man. It's to get the best man they can find. They want to compete with other women for one man's attention and win. If this is a foreign reality to you, it's because you lack status.
>>34388298Maybe it's because I don't care about it. If women think the way to get a great guy is through looks then obviously they're going to get a guy that cares a lot about looks. I genuinely think personality matters way more than looks. But the majority of women I've met legitimately lack emotional maturity. They'll talk shit about their co-workers instead of communicating like adults. Or they'll complain and waste time talking about their jobs instead of just doing it making it harder for both of us. They spend their free time watching reels or something stupid instead of going outside.
>>34388254Stop looking for someone who scores high on all your various criteria, with the hope that you might get along, and start looking for a friend-who-is-a-girl, with the hope that friendship might develop into romance.In other words, look for compatibility first, attraction second.
>>34388313Women are not made for emotional maturity. They are the gossiping animal, that is their entire evolutionary survival strategy since they lack physical strength.
>>34388336I think that's the real reason why I can't find a gf. I can't see myself being friends with a lot of women. I think I met two women I where I thought "this is the one" because I was attracted to her AND we could be great friends. But both of them didn't want kids. I'm starting to think that's the price to pay for having a personality as a woman
>>34388296>I assumed girl who would talk to me wanted relationship because I was raised by wolves and reality traumatized me up the butthole That's not trauma, that's embarrassment you can use as a mnemonic not to make the same mistake again
>>34388363>I can't see myself being friends with a lot of women.But you could see yourself begging/tricking one into fucking youLook I'm sorry your parents had a shitty marriage but try not to model yourself on it
>>34388491This. You should be marrying your best friend. I know that sounds like normie bullshit but it's true. Why would you want to spend every waking hour with someone you think is boring or that you have little in common with? OP, meet girls without expecting sex/relationships and be friends FIRST
>>34388254>It's hard out here in my city for whatever reasonThe reason being that your vicinity has you in itQuit being such an asshole first
