Is there a non-pathetic way to ask a girl what I did wrong? I went out with a girl a couple of times, and she very clearly wasn't that interested in continuing things. Fine, I get it. Would it be too much to ask for feedback so I can know what to do better in the future? Even if it isn't pathetic, would she have any reason to be honest, or is it more likely that I'd get some boilerplate response about how she just didn't feel like we clicked?
>>34388319>Fine, I get it.If you did, you'd leave it there. She is not attracted to you.>Would it be too much to ask for feedback so I can know what to do better in the future?I wouldn't do this, but maybe I'm out of touch.I don't think you should do this; it would be very annoying if I were in her shoes.>Even if it isn't pathetic,It's a little pathetic.>would she have any reason to be honest, or is it more likely that I'd get some boilerplate response about how she just didn't feel like we clicked?That would be an honest answer. That means "I am not attracted to you"
>>34388319Have you tried asking your friends>what are thoseIf you can't make friends that's half the problem
>>34388319>Is there a non-pathetic way to ask a girl what I did wrong?Women don't even know that themselves. They just get an ick feeling. It's better to ask men who are more experienced.
>>34388782>It's better to ask men who are more experienced.I’m the first reply. I’m a man.
>>34388326Wanting to grow and learn is not pathetic. Let go of your ego for once in your fucking life.
>>34388906You can do that without sending someone who doesn’t really want to talk to you a post-rejection survey.
>>34388319Seconding this guy >>34388782Girls don't know themselves, all they know is that life is a ride, &men dictate what type of ride it is, &there's no shortage of men.There's so much choice that you're inconsequential. A girl could fuck a man a day, hell, you live in a world where a woman marathon fucked 1000 men in a day. &all of those men said yes.Do you think you can gather 1000 women to do the same for a man? No! Why? Because women have choice! And men don't. (Unless they worked their ASSESS off to be exceptional - and you're likely not it)So yeah dude, it could be a hundred thousand things that will come out her mouth, but the bottom line is the same - she doesn't want you. Understanding the reasoning is cool and all, but it's not going to help with anything but your inner feeling, &it might even hurt you - because she'll say something &now you'll think "she said it, it must be that if I fix that thing - she'd want me" but the truth is brother that humans are the most complex animal in this universe that we know of, &our selection criteria isn't black and white, it's a matrix of a BUUUUNCH of parameters, she can tell you one - but you were probably under a layer of 10 or 20 things that aren't attractive to her about you that she can't even verbalize. You have to understand - for her this is not about finding someone she tolerates, but finding someone she actually wants. And that takes desirable traits, &sometimes no matter what you do, the odds are stacked against you because maybe someone else reminds her of her dad, & maybe another dude has a way of conversing that's familiar to her, so so so many things.As a man, the best you can do is keep going for more women, and be not afraid to ask "are you single?" And "I think you're really cute, want to go out?"A no is a no is a no" is the best route you can follow to minimize damage on your self worth. Get that no. And actually move on after that. And secure more options while working to look better.
>>34388924Yeah but you made it sound like asking for feedback in any way is for fags
