My father began a relationship with another woman not even a year after my mom died of cancer about a decade ago. I'm not even sure if he remarried but they do have a kid together. He was always a cheating scum during my childhood but my mom always forgave him but those fights in-between always caused a lot of turmoil within the family. Even though I don't really hate him, the fact that he has another family annoys me and is always on the back of my head whenever I see him, which is just once or twice a year at this point.I'm a grown ass adult now but I feel this along with his compulsive cheating are some of the things in my life that made me the incel chud I am today. How do I get over it?
See the human side of your father when he offers to be there for you. I hate to say this, but a man who can't forgive his father is actually a child, especially when he attempted to give you a good life. Now from your post do I know things like how truthfully negative your father is? No. But I am familiar with the idea that parents have turmoil when taking care of a house with their children, and that usually is because taking care of children is in many ways a bit of a job. Your father had to take care of you in your diapers perhaps going through you kicking and screaming all night when he needed to perform for his job the next day. If he never really wanted to be there for you he would have left you cold on the streets, or perhaps taken your computer and chuck it out into the trash along with your console and force you to work in the yard for hours on end without a break. A parent who never loves his son makes a child's life Hell not easier OP. Have you been noticing things getting easier for you over the years or harder?
>>34390343The whole point of the father-son relationship is that the son is indirectly in competition with his own father. Whether this rivalry is friendly and loving or adversarial and abusive doesn't matter, both are the same in outcome:The son should become a better man than his dad. So do that, be better than him. Do better, speak better, think better, act better, live better and even die better. That's how you simutaenously 'win' against your dad & honour the small parts of him that you do love, by becoming a strong son. Even if the resentment were mutual, even in examples of fathers who hated their own sons and abused them, deep down and far far in, no matter how scummy the father, the father instinct is still there:When they find out their son has grown strong, stronger than themselves even, they can't help but grin with a bit of pride.So do that OP. Go and survive then thrive then find a woman and marry her and have kids, stay true stay loyal and father the shit out of your kids and be an exemplary husband, outperform your father.
i have a perfect manga panel for your predicament
>>34390343>not even a year after my mom diedWhat is the cut-off point at which his getting on with life would have been acceptable to you? Two years? Ten?
>>34390343your mother chose him, the fuck do you expect? Did you think a serial cheater would grieve a lover?
>>34391362Probably never. Just like him. (he's projecting)
>>34390343The only way to win is to get better. Ignore him and be the kind of man you wish your father was.
chronic cheaters are usually narcissists that see having multiple lovers as a badge of honour, and since your mom allowed it his undesiriable traits were not only validated but also reinforced. the most likely reason your dad got a new family so fast is because you were a failure in his eyes and he's trying again before he gets too old.narcissists see their children as an extention of themselves not as individuals and since you claim you're an incel you're probably an emotionally stunted virgin and believe me parents know when their children are still virgins.
>>34392686So if he gets laid, his father will respect him?
