sometimes my buddies will talk about their women and they'll say shit like "yeah, man i wanna get her more into playing games/watching shows/whatever" and it always makes me wonder what keeps them together (granted ive never asked).i knew one jackass who had just about nothing in common with his wife (who he married after, like, a year) except the fact they were both obnoxious bible thumpers.[spoiler]to clarify ive never been in a relationship becuz lmao[/spoiler]
>>34390370It's uncommon in my opinion. My dating relationship portfolio is 4 long terms, 1 short term + a few situationships aka chicks who didn't make the cut for dating material + currently i am married. In my experience, the more shit I had in common with a girl the higher % chance of sabotage or failure. The more opposite I went the more successful the relationship, my wife being my completely opposite. I find the old adages true"Opposites attract""Other half"I think this is because being with someone who is similar to ourselves can cause stagnation of maturity and growth. Being with someone who is almost opposite in personality promotes maturity and personal growth for both people. Which means you stop falling in love, you start growing into it instead. And in my experience couples who grew I to love last a lifetime. Those that fall I to love, someone always falls and breaks their heart.
>>34390370only predictor of relationship success is how close in social class and education level you two are now a dayseverything else is akin to astrology and fortune tellingif you both graduated from similar universities / have similar backgrounds you're ok
>>34390370>is it common for your partner to not share most, if not all, of your interests?You don't have to share hobbies. And you don't have to spend 100% of your time together either.It's important to still have your own individual interests. My wife loves reading, writing, knitting, and D&D. I don't do any of those activities with her. I like cycling, machining, anime, and documentaries. She doesn't enjoy any of those.We have common interests, but those aren't as important as sharing common goals/priorities.
>>34390370>is it commonNope. Very uncommon. Too many shared interests are probably a bad sign for a relationship, as they're pretty superficial and are likely to change over time. Shared goals are much more important. The only interest that it is important to share is an interest in sex. Or lack of it, I suppose, if you're both herbivores.
>>34390370Every couple should have Your Things, My Things and Our Things. (Ideally the third group would be the largest, but that's not essential.)They can be subdivided further into Your Things That I Do Too Even Though They Don't Really Interest Me, Just To Be With You and Your Things That I Leave You To Enjoy Without Me.
