My story: I'm in my mid-twenties, more than 7 years without sex. During those years, I've had some silly flings with a woman here and there, but never actually going all the way, and honestly, never having anyone who liked me for who I am. I'm a "peculiar" guy, after all.One day during the Christmas holidays I'm at a bar with my friends and I see a girl dressed in a somewhat nerdy style (Im into that). I decide to go talk to her and it works out, we arrange a date and it goes great. I don't sleep with her basically because I don't want to (I live elsewhere and I was visiting my family for the holidays), neither of us has a free place, so I decide to put it off for another time. I return to my city a month later and that's where we finally consummate things. It starts to get a little more serious but then I go back to where I currently live.The thing is, we see each other again a month later for a longer stretch to get to know each other. First somewhere in between, then she comes to visit me. There we get to know each other much better than you ever can through messages and calls, and the following becomes clear: we have almost nothing in common (except being "nerds" at heart). We have different ways of seeing the world and dealing with problems, and above all I'm worried that if I had a future with her, we wouldn't be on the same page about raising children.On top of that, she sometimes says things that concern me, like "if you were a transgender man (woman to man), I would still be attracted to you because you'd be a man and you'd be like you are." She has a couple of tattoos and in terms of previous sexual experience she's only had one boyfriend of 4 years, and I imagine she's probably been with a few more guys based on what I can deduce (Probably 3-6 guys in total before me). She's also a year older than me.1/2
On the positive side, she seems like a very good person and she's very much in love with me without me having to do much at all. We also get along very well, zero arguments so far. There's also the distance factor, she'll stay in my city because she works at the hospital on her way to becoming a psychiatrist, while I continue my adventures around the world.So taking into account my history of not being very appealing to women, the fact that I have the "upper hand" in this relationship, and that I'm still young, should I keep going with her, or should I stop wasting time? My main problem is that I don't even know if I actually like her, or if I just want her because she lets me have sex and validates me as a man, plus the future doesn't look promising. Is it wrong to settle?Thanks in advance.2/2
>>34391110You have to mold her to your liking. Treat her as a blank canvas and slowly but surely replace all her retarded ideas with yours. You never find the perfect woman, you create one for yourself.
>>34391107>if you were a transgender man (woman to man), I would still be attracted to you because you'd be a man and you'd be like you areHow did this even come up? What prompted this?
>>34391260It was 8th of March, international women's day, one thing let to the other and that popped upYou need to know your partner's ideas, I am quite right wing and she is just a bit left leaning (she says apolitical but that's left in my understanding)
>>34391277Do you think your beliefs are inherently incompatible? If so, leave. If not, stay
>>34391110Yes. It's wrong to settle for sex. One of the most basic male mistakes. >>34391128That never happens. People (not women and men) are born with fundamentally different personalities. MBTI and all that. Ideology wise she can change, but >different ways of seeing the world and dealing with problemsWon't change.
my life absolutely fell apart and when I was at my very lowest I "settled" for the girl who always had a crush on me and wanted me. Turns out she kind of pulled me out of a terrible depression and saved me in a lot of ways. Nothing can restore your self confidence like being absolutely worshiped and treated like a king by a woman. Even if she is chubby and a bit below your standards looks wise. A woman can absolutely make up for her looks if she is willing to treat you like a king. I learned that lesson for sure and I am the happiest I have been in years.
>>34391107>>34391110>main problem is that I don't even know if I actually like herYou'll need to figure this out before moving on. Unfortunately, this is more of a "gut feeling" situation and will require you to look within yourself for the answer. No one else can tell you.>on her way to becoming a psychiatristThis is not an encouraging phrase.Approximately how long have you been dating as of today?
>>34391625fucking real, same here. But it's the ideas that worry me the most. I fear my sons will become faggots basically>>34391802It's been 2 1/2 months
>>34392435>2 1/2 monthsNo need to rush. Y'all haven't been an item very long. Give it a few months and see where you stand later. She is unlikely expect serious commitment yet. I'd worry once you get a year out and she is either talking about moving in together or getting married.
