I don't think you can know that. Best thing you can do is try to choose your friends and relationships carefully to pick people who communicate clearly, aren't overcommitted, and aren't anxious or avoidant about people, conflict, or reaching back out after a lapse in contact. But there's always going to be a risk.

>>34392175
Im anxious myself but im always telling my friends if they did something that hurt me.
Im suprised that people that used to vent to me and had the same interest as me left me without a word

>>34392155
One way is to recognize that relationships are based on an exchange of value. If there’s nothing being transacted, there is no relationship. So to keep them going provide some type of value to the person, and they’ll keep wanting you. If you start to feel like they’re exhausting you of value, better come up with something you can keep giving them, or use charm (the ability to convince someone you can provide value in the future) to keep them coming.

I will also say it’s a good idea to go into relationships with the mindset that they end. They’ll end one way or another, and it’s okay, they have their seasons. People come and go. So enjoy the company with who you meet, but hold them loosely.

>>34392200
I think you shouldn't be surprised. I had someone I was getting close to, who practically begged me not to ghost them, ghost me once, and eventually reach out after I deleted them, and then do it again. Sometimes people are just very mentally ill and can't deal with conflict, rejection, change, or anything that they perceive as leading to these, even when there wasn't something there to begin with. It sucks. And it's not going to get better. People are disconnected from each other, the internet makes everyone disposable, and so many people are mentally ill. But if you yourself start avoiding people for fear it will happen, you just play into it yourself and exacerbate the problem further.

>>34392211
idk im a teenager and I never had a best friend I could rely on, I want someone to stay in my life

>>34392271
At least they reached for you, I dont wanna avoid people but I also dont want them all to leave me

>>34392337
Yeah and then ghosted me again a week later. My point is people are mentally ill. It's going to happen. You can find friends who won't leave you, if you're lucky, but the way people socialize nowadays this is increasingly less likely than it used to be.

Try to find a group of friends tied to a specific event you all do, who you interact with primarily in person. That's your best shot. The more mentally stable they are the better.

>>34392344
I dont wanna cross out people just because they are mentally ill, I dont care if they have problems, I will always help them if they struggle with something. I just want someone that feels the same way about me and wont replace me because most of people my age have already their own person

>>34392420
I'm not saying you must eliminate while swathes of people, but the more healthy and stable they are the safer they will be to invest in. You can't fix people, and a lot of people are unwilling to be fixed. If they weren't they'd be in therapy. What you want is a friend who will be there to you equally to how you'll be there for them. To get that you guys both need to be on equal footing, not you trying to fix them through endless crises and not talking to someone who is so severely ill that they can't keep people added.

>>34392443
Yeah im not saying like totally mentally ill like people with schizofrenia or worse illnes. Some people just struggle with commucation and its fine as long as they dont treat others like trash, I dont mind helping them through their hard time, thats how we build trust with eachother its nice to have someone you can tell everything without being judged

>>34392155
You cannot see the future, retard.

>>34392155
you are by definition temporary in everyone's life you ever meet