Generally speaking, I am a very patient person. However, I am wondering if I should just stop using online dating? I am a male and I have been on okcupid in particular for about 12 years. Not had a date. I have had some conversations with women but never could get a date. I don't think I am hideous but I am not... fortunate to be of the demographics that I think women find attractive. Basically, I am not white. I honestly don't think that is the only reason its probably a combo of things from women being inundated on the apps to male to female ratio on the apps etc. The apps basically feel like hell on earth for my self-esteem also. I want to not use them but I know if I DON'T use them, my chances of meeting a woman will be zero. At least right now my chances are low but not zero. Real life feels sort of bad to try and find dates also. But I think that is because I haven't had any positive luck in either realm. I have definitely had women like me though but they are never the right type for me. Most of the women that like me are unfortunately obese(like morbid) and have kids already. Which I am not really into dating women with kids already. What can I do?
>>34392430you probably take too long to ask them out. really after a back & forth or two you should have asked them out to do something. Its really the only way because otherwise these women with nothing else going on in their life will talk forever and waste your time. When they are interested they will say yes. That said, you shouldnt being using okcupid, tinder and hinge have way more women on them. If you arent attractive, and you havent been looksmaxxing and statusmaxxing, you need to make as much money as possible. We were all under the impression that life would continue for us as it did our parents, just naturally fall into a nice love and have children etc. But the world turned upside down and you need to realize youre in a war now. You need to be competing at your red line for everything.
dress and act like a cringey, pretentious teenage boy that just discovered deftones and the sony walkman. they love that shit. obviously if you're older, probably lean into the nonchalant silver fox attitude with a bit of geeky/nerdy metrosexual interests. bitches are basic. youll find one. and start dating 20yos too, theyre much easier
