I lost my virginity to - and "dated" - my ex-high school teacher when I was between the ages of 18 to 20. She would've been 52 to 54 at the time. We ran into each other at a bar after I graduated and one thing led to another. The whole experience permanently shaped my sexual development and made it very hard to have relationships with women my own age afterwards.Looking back I remember several instances during school where she would touch me unnecessarily (grabbing my arm or leaning on my back etc) and her behavior could be described as flirty even then. She also told me during our relationship that she had always found me hot even when I was 16/17. But there was no outright sexual or romantic contact until I was 18 and out of school. Does that count as grooming? I told my online friend about this and he is pushing me to report her to the police even though this all happened over 15 years ago.
>>34393426definitely grooming + even if it wasnt shes clearly a pedo anyway
>>34393426Stop being a fag
>>34393509Huh?
>>34393426dont victimise urself dont u have anything better to do? ur 32 get a better job or try getting promoted
>>34393616are you fucking moronic?>>34393495babe, seek a counselor and request a free consultation to address the issue and make sure you tell the counselor everything to help build your case. once finished explaining your story, they will go over options on how to approach this in terms of legal action or pursuit. Your mental health is the most important thing here and if you feel like this "negatively impacted your mental and lively hood.. definitely seek legal advisory.
>WAAAAAH I HAD SEX WITH THIS MILF AT 18 AND NOW I AM BEING A WHINY HUGE FAGGOT IN MY 30s SHOULD I SUE THIS GRANDMA FOR HECKIN GROOMING ME?!Nigger, go get your T levels checked.
>34393749>are you fucking moronic?>babeofc the woman tries to molest the OP and infantilize him to keep him in checkleftism has done it again
>>34393426>Was I groomed?Who cares.- She didn't sexo you until you were an adult- Grooming has no legal definition and doesn't really have even an informal commonly-agreed definition- Grooming isn't a crime- And even if it were, at this late date would be well beyond the statute of limitations anywayGrow the fuck up.
>>34393426>15 years agoget over it unc, she's probably senile or dead by now
if i were in your shoes, op, i would just see a therapist, and perhaps share your story for other young men to be aware/see that they're not alone. unfortunately there will be no meaningful justice against what is now a senior woman, and sex crimes against males are highly disregarded by both the justive system and society as a whole. i'd ignore everyone saying you "scored" etc. pedophilia is pedophilia, no matter the sex of the perpetrator. i hope you feel better and it stops bothering you.
>>34393426>>34393749Nothing illegal happened. You fuckers have become completely hysterical. What are you gonna tell the police "my teacher leaned on me and touched my arm and 5 years later when i was an adult we met at a bar and fucked"
>>34393616I don't think I victimize myself, I usually just bury the incident and don't talk about it to anyone. Not even my family knows about this relationship. Idk why I brought it up to my friend but he was so insistent it was wrong that it got me thinking about things again.>>34393749It just seems like a lot of drama and I don't know if it's worth it. Maybe I need therapy tho>>34394519Thats a good point. I legit dont know what even happened to her. She broke up with me 15 years ago and said she was moving across the country to be with a 30-something Italian dude she met online. I don't get any relevant google results when I search her name which leads me to believe she married or something. I dont think she's dead because she was in very good health for her age>>34394553No way am I sharing my story outside of 4chan or private convos, it's kind of humiliating for me and makes me feel like less of a man
>>34393426>Does that count as grooming?Grooming doesn't mean being sexual with someone underage, it means *preparing* someone underage for sex. So it can still be grooming, even if you don't have sex for the first time until you're 18, so long as the seduction process began sooner.
>>34396092I know. That's why I'm asking.
>>34396101Well, you know far more than we do about how she behaved towards you when you were under 18, so you are far better placed than we are to answer your own question.
>>34393426What she did at school was not anything abnormal. Teachers lean over all the time, I haven’t been grabbed on the arm myself but I can imagine that happening in some contexts. Assuming flirting behaviour could also be a projection of your own feelings. You should seek therapy.
>>34393426i fapped to this thread
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>>34393426You weren't groomed. You were 18 - 20. Grooming is a word that's misused often. Grooming means to rear, to raise, to condition. And that applies to:- Pets- Animals- Babies- ChildrenFor example a parent grooms their child into becoming an adult. Grooming originally had a non sexual meaning. But it becomes sexual and perverted if someone grooms a child into sexual service. Like a pedophile etc we call it grooming in this case because it's an adult conditioning a child into normalizing sexual activity. Notice the common word in both scenarios "child". Grooming is what happens to kids. It does not happen to adults. You were 18-20. An adult man at age 18 - 20. Do you understand? You couldn't have been groomed. You are however extremely impressionable and easily manipulated. That's why you are considering filing a police report against someone who committed no crime because someone else told you to do that.
>>34397083>You weren't groomed. You were 18 - 20.He was talking about the things she did while he was still at school.
