>be 18f>meet qt3.14 older dilf gun nerd>hit it off instantly>matching kinks and interests>matching values and beliefs>2 years in everything's great>only one problem>he says he doesnt want to "feed his sadism" by hitting or yelling at me even though i genuinely want it>sort of lose respect for him and push his buttons intentionally but he just gets upset and doesnt actually abuse me>he seems to think i do things to hurt his feelings and apparently it works so now im basically the abuserwhat do? ive told him i want to be hit and engage in darker kinks, to which he was initially receptive and even entertained quite a bit, but now he seems to be holding back and letting me do whatever i want without punishment, even though he's much bigger. am i like, gross or something? am i a bad gf?
>>34395557>>meet qt3.14 older dilf gun nerdhow much older is he than you
>>34395557I'll be as blunt as I can. Don't take it personally but here is the explanation.You are a slut. Specifically you are his slut. You defined yourself and the relationship based on kinks and kinkdom. Men instinctively do not see a future with that sort of woman, because it's not a woman, it's a slut. Most men will never say the word 'slut' or admit to it, but deep down they know, they know the girl isn't marriage material, that her promiscuity is a red flag. But it's a fun red flag and they enjoy fucking the slut. So they will hold in and tap tap tap tap the slut until things end eventually.Now the reason why he doesn't want to hit you or be sadistic is because you are not in his future, he doesn't think of you as someone he wants to see long long term. He sees you as a dumb young teen slut. And he knows if he hits you, if he leaves marks, you could easily ruin his life by using those kink marks he leaves on your body as a weapon against him if you ever decided to fuck his life on a whim. So he doesn't take any risks by hitting you. He doesn't want to catch a case for a chick he knows he isn't serious about.
>>34395591yep this is pretty much a trvke
>>34395591okay, and what if i was a virgin before him? not to mention we didn't "base our relationship off of kinks," we got to know each other sincerely and converse regularly for weeks before broaching the subject of kink. i was thrilled to find that we both were into the same things, except i believe he might have some reservations about engaging in kink. he has messaged his friends and family about plans of marrying me, calls me his wife, regularly boasts about how i'm "wifey" etc.as for your second point, we've been together for two years. i'm not a teen anymore. we live together. we talk A LOT. i wouldn't think that he thinks i'd stoop so low as to accuse him of abuse.
>>34395557OP is a man.
>>34395623>we got to know each other sincerely and converse regularly for weekswhere did you guys meet
>>34395623>okay, and what if i was a virgin before him?Doesn't matter, contrary to what most autistic retards think, sluttery is a state of mind first before it's an action. One of the biggest sluts I ever dated was virgin. She turned out to be an absolute cheating bisexual freak.>I was thrilled that we both were into the same thingsYou weren't into shit apparently, you were virgin remember? You expect me to believe a virgin was into sadomasochism without ever trying it?>he has messaged his friends and family about plans of marrying meYou ever saw those messages? Or even met his family? >We've been together two years>We live togetherHow old is he? You're 18 now and you been together two years. Means you were underage when you began dating. Which means he knows as every man knows your ass is going to get GIGs. Grass is greener syndrome. You'll be like a house cat scratching at the window to go outside by the time you're 21. That is to say, you will be dying to leave him to go and find a different boyfriend after you've matured out of your father issues. He knows it deep down, femanon.You know it as well that's why you want to be hit and struck by him and degraded down into some weird sexual prop to recreate your father issues in the bedroom. If you were serious about him you'd not want to turn the relationship into a sexual sewer for deranged fantasy. But you are only 18 so naturally you don't think it's that deep. You don't think it's that serious, you don't really think this shit is serious with him. So mark my words, the relationship will end eventually.
>>34395557subtle demotivational thread
>>34395557This is why everyone in your life probably warned you about dating an older man. You are not a serious relationship to him, just a novelty. He's getting bored because he's a manwhore who can't pairbond. Learn your lesson or end up a roastie.
>>34395637i worked at a local grocery store that he shopped at
>>34395557If it makes you feel any better, i'd rape you.
>>34395683yes i've seen and met his family, its been two whole years. i met them a few weeks into the relationship. i'm 20 years old now. ive known im into s&m because.. wait for it.. i know that i like pain.
>>34395800so cold approach worked? the /adv/ copers have been pwned?
>>34395908i wouldnt say cold. i was a cashier and we had about 5 small talk encounters before numbers were exchanged. we just genuinely had a lot in common
>>34395908Cold approaches work better than online dating
>>34395915you are very naive.
>>34395957what is naive about having things in common with a man and dating because of it? is that not how dating works?
>>34395961what did you have in common? wanting to fuck/be fucked?
>>34395961Nta but no that's not how dating works at least not for normies. For autistics and spergs they think it's like in the movies or romance-comedies where two strangers in public ask each other out. And autists think that's how real life is supposed to be because they find it difficult to separate fantasy from reality.The relationships that spawn out of cold approaches are usually because a guy was very horny and wanted his hole so he tried his luck. And the girls who fall for it end up in a hypersexual relationship and are promised a future until the guy decides he doesn't want commitment and moves on (remember he only wanted his hole, he didn't want the slut attached to that hole and wants to only fuck. He does not want to actually be responsible over caring for someone else). You're gonna be waiting for that engagement ring for a long time lol a long long time. Two years and you live together and no ring. Average waiting time for the ring is 2-3 years. Dudes got 1 year left to prove his commitment.
>>34395976he likes the same subjects i do, like history, tech, science, philosophy. he tends to ramble about military tech and things while i often ramble about social studies, but we have nice conversations together.
>>34395917>Cold approaches work better than online datingThe only thing you get with a cold approach is a girl who is easy and can't say 'no'. The girl you pick up on a cold approach is the girl who can easily be convinced to cheat, all it takes is another man to cold approach her when bf/hubby ain't around.
>>34395984You didn't answer the Q. How old is he?
>>34395979...yeah, he admitted he wanted to propose at least within the next year, but he wants to do a fancy honeymoon and money's just a litle tight. i think he cold approached me because i was playing on my 3ds between customers. we fuck like, once a week. it's not a hypersexual relationship. you don't seem like you actually want to help, more like you're trying to convince me he secretly hates me, which he doesn't
>>34395557greasy, sweaty moid hands
>>34396140yeah a little greasy and sweaty but definitely foid. who else is this retarded
>>34396224NTA but he's right: OP is a man larping (badly) as a girl.
>>34395557if you arent getting what you want in a relationship, the best way to do it is to make the other person jealous. Have a "girls night" where you dont text him the whole night. Hell be choking the shit out of you the next day I guarantee it
You probably have daddy issues and clearly want this man's attention, good or bad. That's all you desire here. He is older, and conciously or not, knows better than to entertain or indulge your childish desires. You will eventually get bored, or divorce once the sex aspect continues to be incompatible, and more likely than not, realize you are probably just absorbing his interests more than you care to admit right now. This relationship only lasts as long as he continues to deny your fetish shit, because if he ever does, you will get bored, having your fill, and move on to another proxy father figure. You are simply too young to understand what marriage and relationships entail. He is interpretting your immaturity as you hurting him, and I don't blame him, but it's telling about him, as he is obviously also too ignorant to recognize the age gap differences involved here. You'll probably find things too incompatible to last, sooner rather than later. Do what you want, but do NOT jump into marriage. You are both too immature for it
>>34395557>>he says he doesnt want to "feed his sadism" by hitting or yelling at me even though i genuinely want itSome people are uncomfortable with certain kinks. There's nothing abnormal about not wanting to hit someone you love.If he doesn't want to do that kinda agressive stuff, you'll need to accept that.There's a difference between light spanking and more agressive forms of BDSM or whatever kink you have.>>sort of lose respect for him and push his buttons intentionally but he just gets upset and doesnt actually abuse me>>he seems to think i do things to hurt his feelings and apparently it works so now im basically the abuserYeah, don't do this. It is kinda abusive. You should respect his boundaries.
>>34396125>yeah, he admitted he wanted to propose at least within the next year, but he wants to do a fancy honeymoon and money's just a litle tightYou're still don't understand anything, do you? If I tell you that some day soon I will give you $2,000,000 it does not mean you are getting two million dollars. If a man tells you that you're his wifey wifey and he will propose to you and fly you to the moon, it doesn't mean that's going to happen. It means he says things to keep you around but he won't bother his ass to fulfill them. And he won't. That's why you're still unmarried, and that's also why he's been unmarried despite being a "DILF" and his only way to pairbond with people is to approach fucking strangers in public. Particularly immature ones who act like children and play Nintendo games.No wonder why he gravitated towards that. He knows immature inexperienced girls will be unable to see the colossal man child he is, so that's why he goes for the young ones who have child brain too. >it's not a hypersexual relationship. you don't seem like you actually want to helpYou want people to help you sabotage an old man child's boundaries so you can get your wish if recreating abuse for your sexual kicks. What you are asking is lunacy.
>be 18fbe fake>matching values and beliefsImportant to men. Less so to womenWomen can get pretty much any guy to beat them up cus asking online instantly gets 50+ offers. Pretty much whatever is okay and guys that aren't even really interested would help out(simp).>>34395591If that were 100% true he'd ghost her.There's something to be said about the future is she's being an immature brat and still around 2 years later.>>34395623You learn that virgin means less than the internet claims.>>34395683>Doesn't matter, contrary to what most autistic retards think, sluttery is a state of mind first before it's an action.How do you have secret knowledge? Certain people are already ruined before they hit the age where they fuck? >>34396125This is so fake and gay.
>>34395557So to be frank with you, the problem with your BF is he regrettably does treat you like a woman. He treats you with respect and dignity and refuses to hit you or abuse you. But because you're not thinking like a grown woman, more like an abused brat desperate for daddy's attention, you refuse to respect him and you get the "ick". And he, being the man child he is getting walked all over by a girl presumably half his age. Which I agree that's fucking pathetic. A man should always put his woman in her place. But that doesn't = abuse her like a nigger rapist in the bedroom. It means stand up to her outside the bedroom and firmly dictate to her to back the fuck down on certain issues and to let the man handle it. Your boyfriend is unable to do this, because he is more like a doting daddy. The one who lets his little girl walk all over him. And that's what you do, emotionally. You even admit it yourself.Now ask yourself with honesty: Does this situation scream "Husband & Wife" material? Do you think a child (an actual child not you or him) could benefit from being born to such a family and raised by that? By two incompetents who are bickering over getting to play fantasy slappy slap abuse the pussy time in the bedroom?
>>34396943>If that were 100% true he'd ghost her.>There's something to be said about the future is she's being an immature brat and still around 2 years later.I've met the "pump and dumping" fake macho men in real life, they're not as hard as they present themselves to be lol. They always get walked over by women it's sad. That's why they LARP as woman hating and woman abusing dominants to other men, they don't want people to find out they get bullied by females. >How do you have secret knowledge? >Certain people are already ruined before they hit the age where they fuck?Yeah that's pretty much what happens. And they get ruined mentally by upbringing. For example the virgin girl I dated who went on to become a serial cheating whore had a weak father and a very abusive mother who would beat her while she was still in he diapers. So by the time dating age hit, she embodied the idea that men are pussies who will tolerate anything and she deeply craved female attention so she grew up to be a bisexual adulterer who couldn't trust intimacy or actual closeness. Sex was the only thing she ever cared about
>>34395637Key plural"Guys"
>>34395557Even those into BDSM have their limits. Let's say that on a scale of 1-10, someone is a 5. They love 5-level S&M. They might even enjoy flirting with Level 6. But they can't jump to Level 9, and in fact probably find Level 9 as repugnant as someone not into S&M would.
what i've learned is that everyone has some very insightful knowledge on a random anon woman's relationship of two years based on one (1) post where she asks for advice to make her bf kinkierif a dude posted this about his gf you'd all be racing to give the most profound advicei didn't ask for a psych eval of my dilf, i asked how to make him hit meyou are all homosexual and mentally deficient
>>34398021We're trying to give your whacky relationship the best odds of survival through harsh criticism little miss daddy issues. If you are serious about this guy then stop asking for him to hit you and abuse you.
I have seen this EXACT thread several times of a """"femanon""""" asking how to get "her" bf to hit "her". You are a dude larping for attention. Women do not use this site.
>>34398078what if i'm deathly serious about him and i just want him to hit me sometimes because it's fun?
>>34398097you're right. i've been on t for seven years and i'm a heccin valid dood ok?!
>>34398021I can only tell you that i would enjoy hitting you. Nothing else.
>>34398171you're not my bf! burn!
>>34395557>am i like, gross or something? am i a bad gf?Yes
>>34398242Maybe get a more abusive one though
>>34395557>My boyfriend doesn't treat me like a womanThat's not an accurate way to describe refusing to hit your GF or refusing to raise your voice at her.
>>34398021>what i've learned is that everyone has some very insightful knowledge on a random anon woman's relationship of two years based on one (1) post where she asks for advice to make her bf kinkier>if a dude posted this about his gf you'd all be racing to give the most profound adviceI would have said the same thing to you if the genders were swapped. Some people are uncomfortable going past a certain point in kinky stuff, and you have to respect that boundary.
